What a GREAT QUESTION J.! AND even MORE GREAT advice!
Firstly, I am an adoptive mother who breast fed AND I am a Social WORKER and I HAD depression...so my input is:
re: THE MEDICAL PROFESSION - NO they do NOT know it all! you have to be ARMED with knowledge before you even see a MD - and if he/she does not feel right, then get a second opinion. Do what is best for you and your baby...natural is the way to go as much as you can...
re: PP DEPRESSION- OF COURSE your hormones are outta whack! you just had a baby! give yourself a break - did you notice all the women in the same boat? It seems you need support besides mamapedia - any FTF friends you can share with? GIRL time is INVALUABLE and we all KNOW IT!
re: BREAST FEEDING - now, I FIRMLY BELIEVE that breastfeeding is INVALUABLE - i pushed for it, and it really helped our bonding (at the least). If I would have known to be taking OMEGAS - I would have, now I directly give them to my son. He was a 3# preemie and now he is SO STRONG and SO SMART! I can't take the genetic credit, but I can take the OMEGA credit.
Now to answer you question!
I no longer need my lexapro - thanks to my OMEGAS! It COMPLETELY cleared my depression & anxiety (severe and long-term).
BUT you gotta have the right OMEGA! even the "good ones" have MERCURY and PCB toxins (look up the lawsuit on ABC news).
Obviously I found one that is the BEST on the planet!!! (let me know if you want more info)
did I mention that I no longer have to take blood pressure meds, cholesterol meds AND I LOST #20 (with admittedly NO exercise, not good I know)
But the bottom line is, J., you are going to be OK. You will find your footing and your rhythm and you are ALREADY the perfect mom for your baby...just be where YOU want to be with yourself.
Let us know how you do - i can call you if you need...