Hi K.---Don't worry about her not wanting to drink cows milk. She's a very smart girl. I am a former milk drinker, having stopped at about 47 years of age after I started taking a series of wellness classes. These classes are taught by a Naturopath who has her PhD in nutrition.
Cows milk is for baby cows to grow quickly. The nutritional profile fits what a cow needs. We do NOT need to drink cows milk. Please do some research at www.strongbones.org, which is within the website www.pcrm.org. Both contain valuable health information.
You don't need to worry about individual vitamins if she is getting a well-rounded diet with a variety of foods. We also rotate among the different plant milks, soy, almond and rice. There are others. It sort of depends on what we are doing. It would be better if she just drank water, and I would limit liquids during a meal so that she'll eat the food and not dilute stomach acids.
Soy is a perfectly acceptible option. There is ALOT of misinformation about soy and if you'd like to know more, please let me know, and this is for anyone reading this post. Soy must be organic as it tends to be genetically modified when used as animal feed. Soy does contain mild forms of estrogens, but so do flax and chickpeas. No one warns about eating those. Actually, long term research shows that those mild estrogens fill the estrogen receptors in the breast, keeping the stronger, disease creating estrogens out. There are other ways to make sure we don't have too much estrogen in the body. Eat lots of fiber, no BPA lined cans or baby bottles, no plastic in the microwave, etc. These are all worse risks than a good-quality non-GMO soy milk.
Cows milk is highly allegenic, being implicated in some cases of type 1 diabetes. It increases the risk of prostate cancer, significantly with skim milk. I also suggest you read The China Study by T Colin Campbell.
You will get more absorbably calcium from dark green leafy veggies, without the fat and calories. I have compiled a list of great calcium rich foods that I'd be happy to share. I highly recommend supplementing with vitamin D, and getting 20-30 minutes of unfiltered sunlight as often as possible, when the sun comes back out. Ground flax seed is a superfood, having good amounts of omega 3 fatty acids, protein, fiber, vitamins and minerals. It also contains cancer fighting compounds.
I have learned so much, mostly that much of health advice today is flawed, if not downright dangerous. If you'd like to know more, as others have said, to do your due diligence and study both side of the subject, please contact me.
And yes, check out Juice Plus+. It is not costly, when you consider what you are getting AND the alternatives. Isolated vitamins are not absorbed well. JP+ is food and so the body knows what to do with it. I consider it my nutrition insurance and wouldn't be without it. I don't trust our food to supply me with the nutrients necessary to prevent disease.
Please give me a call and we can chat. I am very passionate about taking control of my own health and helping others to do the same. I am not a sales person, I am a health educator. I hope this all makes sense and I look forward to talking to you. PS. One of the first things that people report when they start JP+ is better regularity.