Too Chubby?

If you daughter is 2 then there is nothing wrong with her wearing a size 2/3! My son is 23 months and wears a 2 and sometimes they are tight in his waist, he is short and chunky. She will grow out of it, that's why they call it baby fat!!!

4 months & 20 lbs. Babies are supposed to be chubby. But if the pediatrician hasn't said anything I say you need a new pediatrician!

Hi A.!
Your mother, of all people, should understand!! Was she worried about controlling your intake when you were a baby??
I would let her know that your daughter's peditrician isn't concerned about it and has not told you to monitor her intake. If you have to, tell a very small white lie (or make it the truth and do it) and tell her that you asked the dr about it and that is what he/she told you.
I personally don't think we should be worried about childhood obesity (which is what it sounds like your mother is worried about) until children are over 5. Until 5, children are growing at amazing rates and need all the calories, fat (remember: a fully developed brain is 60% fat), proteins, vitamins, and minerals that you can get into our picky little eaters. Which is probably the reason why your peditrician hasn't said anything to you about being concerned.
Good Luck!!
N.

My son was the fattest little baby, then he hit a year and started walking and slimmed down. His doctor's never said one thing about the fact that he was over the 100 percentile for weight before a year old, because he was breastfed, and he was SUPPOSED to be bigger than what the charts said (the charts aren't made for breastfed babies!) he should be! Anyway, if your doctor isn't concerned, and you aren't concerned, and your daughter is healthy, why be worried. Tell your mother that you have everything under control, you appreciate her concern, and if you notice that she continues to gain, and it becomes unhealthy, you will immedietly do something about it.
Your mother means well, I'm sure, but there doesn't seem to be any reason for her to be worried. My 6 year old neice and 4 year old nephew weigh exactly the same, he may even weigh more, to be honest! Every child is different. My neice will be more petite and my nephew is gonna be tall and nice and stocky. My son will be very slim; he's just not gotten over 30 pounds (he's 4!)and he was HUGE as a baby! They are all very healthy children who eat very healthy diets. Everyone is built differently and carries their weight differently. I have always weighed much less than my friends who seemed to be the same size as me. It's just all how you carry and how you are built. Don't be concerned. Tell your mom you will look into, then let it go!

Never put a child on a diet!! Be a good example offer healthy options and they will fall into suit. As far as your mother...if you are feeding her healty and not giving her junk...it's time for you to set boundries. "oh yeah that reminds me I told the doctor about your concerns and he said that everything is ok not to put her on a diet. She'll adjust on her own...I'm so relieved" that's what I said and it shut my noisy in law right up. Well at least for a while.

I would ignore her. If your doctor isn't concerned, you shouldn't be too concerned. My Mom was constantly telling me my daughter was too heavy (@ 75% height & 75% weight) because she felt her belly was too big. At almost 3 she is a solid 3T. Her doctor says she is perfect and that as long as she is active I shouldn't worry about restricting her diet (other than the obvious junk food). My Mom still says she's too chubby. However, this is the woman that was so weight obsessed I spent 3 years as a borderline anorexic... Ask your doctor to be honest with you. If he's not concerned, you shouldn't be.

Hi A.

what is a Maury Povich kid?

Just let mom know that you have talked to the docs and that you are comfortable with her growth process. GrandMom's tend to turn into a different person than they were when we were babies.
I think you are doing the right thing by not worrying. Especially if the doc doesn't see any reason to worry.

Tell your mom your doctor is not concerned so neither are you! That's all I can think of. :-)

Hi A.,
I noticed our kids are close in age and I'm also separated. Maybe we could have a playdate one day. I just got involved with a group through the YWCA to assist/support "displaced homemakers". I'm trying to find other moms in the same boat so that we can maybe help each other out a little...like trading childcare etc, moral support etc...
As for your child's weight...I think she's too young to worry about weight...as long as she's eating whole nutritious foods...I prefer organic...I bet she's fine...specially if her doctor isn't concerned...
M.

Honey, if your pediatrician is not concerned and you are not concerned about your child's weight, I would not worry about it and I would tell your mom to mind her own business. However, if she continues to talk about limiting your child's food intake, I would consider having someone baby sit. My grandson will be a year on the 25th and he is in an 18 mos - 24 months for length as well but he is also 25 pounds at his age and his peditrician says he is very helathy and fine. You know your child better than anyone and if you are comfortable with how is, then things are fine.
L.

If the doctor isn't telling you she's overwieght then I personally wouldn't worry about it. We all know how mothers are!

P.

Hi A., I know exactly what you are going through!!! Only instead of my mother or mother in law it is praticallly EVERYONE ELSE!!! What all of these people do NOT know is that my baby was BORN at 11pounds & 14 ounces and was just over 20 inches long!!! He is 17 months now and weighs just over 30lbs, and is 33 inches tall. I also have talked to my doctor and she also said not to worry that as long as he is active and not eating alot of sweets and junk food that he would be fine. She said that some babies just take a little longer to lose "baby fat". She did tell me though, that if I was concerned that it would not hurt our son to let him drink 2% milk. It still has some fat for brain development,but not as much as whole, and once your baby is eating solids they get fat from other places to make up for it. I don't know if what I said makes you feel any better,but don't worry about what ANYONE thinks as long as your DR. says she's healthy. Spend your time on her EMOTIONAL & SPIRITUAL growth and the rest will fall into place in time. God bless, C.

Don't worry about it and tell your mother that if her DR was concerned then she would say something to you about it. And if you were that way when you were a baby then there shouldn't be anything to worry about especially since you said your oldest has slimmed down. AS long as she is eating healthy foods and gets plently of playtime outside or good activites inside, then there is no problem with her!!

My kids are total opposites of eachother. My daughter was born at 7.3 and didn't weigh 20 lbs till she was over 1yr!!! Her DR asked me if I was like that and I said yes, he wasn't worried about her. She is 6yrs now and probably is about 45lbs. My son born at 7.9 is 8 months old and is somewhere between 20 and 25 lbs (he was alsmost 18 at his 6 month check up)!!! He is just like his dad was as a baby, the only difference is I think my son weighs less than his daddy did at this age!! hehe

As long as you and your little girls know they are beautiful and mean the world to you, that's all that matters!

S.

I too have a what i like to call "thick" two-year old girl. If the doctor's say it's okay, then I wouldn't be concerned. It's natural for them to still have a little baby-weight on them at this age. She will thin out, just as the rest of your family has. It nothing to be concerned about, really.

Hi, I would not worry about your baby at all. My son weighed 9lbs at birth. He weighed 20 lbs at 2-3 mos old. He was just over 30 lbs at 1 yr. At one point, my doc had told me to not give him so much milk, and give him water instead, this was before he was 2 mos old. My son did not eat an abnormal amount. He was very on schedule, and actually, he had longer gaps in feeding than usualy for his age. I tried what the doc said, my son would have nothing to do with it. And ya know what, he's 5 yrs old, weighs 48 lbs and is far from fat. My son looked like a butterball when he was little. He has weighed the same amount over the past 3ish years, he is just growing up, not out. You let your baby eat. Its natural. As long as its eating healthy, then you should have nothing to worry about. Good luck!

don't really have any advice, but wanted to let you know that my daughter is the same way...she's my little chunky monkey! she's been big since she was newborn, she'll be 2 in march and already weighs 30lbs! i quess i would tell my mother that we just grow big kids and that the doctor isn't concerned so neither am i...that's just what i would say.

Take you mother's advice...She knows. Remember...she had kids before you.
God Bless you

As long as you don't feel your daughter is over weight and the pediatrican hasn't said anything, then I would just turn a deaf ear to your mother or whoever makes insensitive comments towards your daughter. good luck and take care. oh and just because a person has kids before doesn't mean they know what their talking about, my mother in law wanted to feed my son strawberries, so that just shows older doesn't always mean wiser.

a skinny child is a sickly child, tell your mother to
@@@@@ off !! if a child is too thin, and becomes sick, they will have no fat stores to draw from, and it will take longer for them to recover from an illness. if you really want to get through to your mother, who could be easily helping to raise a future bulimic .how much did she weigh as a child, after checking with an uncle or aunt to see how big your mother was as a child, she might be very well be speaking from the voice of experience. plenty of women, my age and older grew up with seriously distorted body images. and they dieted and starved themselves off and on for years, sometimes decades. and now, where are
these anorexic women, they have SEVERE dowagers humps,
brittle bones, weak and/or missing teeth and kidney problems . try introducing the child to yogurts and cheeses. the calcium she gets now is vital to her health years from now as a young woman.the quality of her food is
more important than the quanity right now.
K. h.

If your pediatrician doesn't have a concern about your daughters weight, don't cut down her milk. Lot's of kids are cubby as babies and slim down. The cruicial thing to watch is if you give her candy or sugary substances, those can be reduced (soda, candy, cakes. A healthy diet is great for a baby, but the biggest thing to NOT do is start to give your toddler skim or reduced fat milk, they need the fat from whole milk for brain development until age 3! Without being disrespectful towards your mother, but tell her to love her grandchild and that until the Dr. is conserned you're going to maintain a healthy diet. I hope the best for you and your family. (If you become conserned, consider getting a second opinion from another pediatrician on whether your daughters weight should be a concern.)

I would not worry about it if your pediatrician is not worried about it. My son weighed 20 lbs at his four month visit and they said he looks great. I would imagine she is an active two year old, and as long as she's not eating junk and sitting around doing nothing I do not think I would be concerned. I do not think I would limit the milk she is getting either. She's a growing girl. Hope this helps.

God Bless Grandmas. They mean well, but you have to take much of what they say with a grain of salt. My son was a chunk and I was concerned at first, but my pediatrician told me not to worry about it. Toddlers will self regulate. They will eat as much as they need when they need it. If your doctor isn't worried about it you shouldn't be. Plus it sounds like your girl is tall. My son is the same way. He's 2 now and wears 3T shirts and 2T pants and weighs 30 lbs. But he's not at all fat. With my MIL I say things like "Since you were concerned, I asked the pediatrician about it and she said...". That way they don't have to take your word for it - it's coming straight from the doc.

Good luck!

I f your daughter is almost 2 and in a size 2, that is pretty normal. If your dr isn't worried then you shouldn't be. All kids are different. I have twins, a boy and a girl, the boy wears a 2 or 3 and the girl wears 18 to 24 months and they just turned 2.