Toilet Training HELP!

I think you need to drop the whole potty issue for a while....he's still young. Try again in a few months. You can try leaving him with no diaper on, and then when he has to go he will either have to use the potty or go on himself (which may be embarrasing for him) the plan is after a few accidents you would hope he would want to use the potty. My daughter is having the same issues, and everyone I talk to says just leave it alone, when they are ready, they will do it. Good Luck.

What seems to work for most (and worked for my 2-year old) is to simply take off the diaper and that be it. It can be messy, but toddlers like to please and will soon realize that when they make a mess, mommy is not happy. When they make it to the potty, mommy is happy. No more diapers is the best and only way that I was able to train my son...
It's frustrating, but you can do it!
S.

First off, be consistent in whatever method you choose and communicate about eliminations.

Summer's here it's a perfect time let your son run around bare bottomed outside (Or in regular easy on/off undies and pants.) If he wets them then he feels the wet and won't like it. Explain that if he pees in the potty he won't get wet. Eventually, he'll start choose the potty over peeing his pants. It'll make for more laundry for a while, but it's a valid method for TT.

B.,

I've been where you are and I know how frustrating it can be. My daughter is 3 1/2 and just potty trained two weeks ago. I've said it before and I'll say it again...I have 5 kids so I've had a bit of experience and this is what I do...nothing...that's it, that's the big advice...I don't potty train...my kids decide when and where they want to pee/poop...The boys were all just at their 3rd birthday when they put on the underwear I had purchased for them many months earlier...they all trained themselves with few to no accidents. My daughter was like your son...screaming, carrying on at the mere suggestion of trying to go on the potty. I would mention it periodically because I was getting really tired of changing her diapers. I was getting worried...thought she might go to Kindergarten in diapers! But...one Saturday I suggested she wear underwear, she said ok, I put the potty where she could find it easy and she began using it. End of story.

OK, so I guess I do some things to help the process...I buy them underwear, talk about pottying, make the suggestion, buy them a potty chair...but beyond that I don't get too involved. Now that she is doing it it is all high fives and smiles for her, which she is loving!! I just don't know what more we need to do...kids are smart, most of them get the concept, they just aren't ready...could be physical, could be emotional, could be control...whatever the reason, one moment they are not ready, the next they are. I don't think any amount of bribery or trickery on our part really makes the process go any faster.

When your son decides he wants to do it, he'll do it, and probably you won't have to deal with too many accidents since you didn't force him before he was ready.

Don't worry. This stage will be over soon and he'll be so proud of himself and you will be so relieved! I have one left in diapers, but she's only 18 months and although she acts like she wants to go on the potty, the only thing I got for allowing her to try was a floor full of poop and a baby covered in it!! No thank you, I'll wait until she's older!! We don't win any records for young potty goers, but we don't have to deal with many messes either.

I wish you well....I know how difficult this can be.

D.

I'm not at that point yet (son is 14 months) but a friend told me to put fruit loops in the toilet & have him "aim" for them. I figured boys being boys.....give it a try....?

It's probably not what you want to hear... but when they are ready, they will do it!

i'd say leave him alone -- most kids that i've known get trained when they're ready, and not a day before. plus he's still young, especially for a boy. i'd give him a few more months....

Hi,
Many years ago I trained my son by letting him pee in a small juice bottle and letting him dump it in the toilet and flushing himself. I would let him stand in the tub to do it and then take him out to dump and flush. After he got the hang of it I let him pee in the bottle out of the tub close to the toilet and then finally we took the bottle away and used the toilet. He thought the whole thing was pretty neat.
Hope it works for you. Try a Sunny D bottle or something similar.
M.

I know several people who've had success with the "sink the Cheerios" game - put a few Cheerios in the potty and have your son try to sink them. This is how we got our son interested in stading up. Good luck!

I would say to put training on hold for a little bit. A few months can make a world of difference. My first wanted nothing to do with it until about 3 3/4 yrs and me second is 2 and has already started. Back off of it for a little and see what happens......good luck!

I went through the same thing with my son. What my ex and I did was encourage him and rewarded him everytime he went on the potty. He wore pull-ups which helped, we also let him be in his underwear when he was home (he picked out his underwear that he wanted) and kept offering the potty, and eventually he went on his own when he was ready to come out of diapers. He also had a baby brother, and we also said that you are a big boy who should wear underwear as your brother is a baby and needs diapers. Hope this helps.

I think the more you try to push him the more he will push back. Just let it be for a while, he will eventually be ready. Try to keep in mind there is no way he will be heading off for college in diapers - he will get it eventually. But it seems clear he is not ready just yet.

Try reading him a book and having him sit on the potty while reading the book when the book is over he can get up. We used Once Upon a Potty with all three of our children. I started reading it to them as a normal story and then progressed to reading it while they sat on the potty.

However when they are ready they are ready so don't bother forcing it or the fihgt will go on forever. My son had no interest after having had several spurts of going on the potty and using Pull Ups. My husband tried every bribre there was and there was no interest still. Three weeks later he decided he was ready. From that moment on we have worn underwear and had only a handful of accidients in the last 6 months.

B. what worked for me was cloth diapers
http://www.gdiapers.com/

I would let him watch the potty video every 3 days or so.

and then when he pooped his diaper we went together to dump it in the bowl, he flushed, then i swish the dirty diaper in the bowl and he flushed.

then we put training pnts on during the day, and of course he wet them, for the first few days.

then after the first week, I tried to time his poo
I gave him a sip of coffee, and then sat him on the potty, with an egg timer for 5 minutes,and left the room
no books nothing
the ticking seemed to relax him, and the privacy aswell.
and after a few days of trying he pooped.

during the days prior to his first poop on the bowl we continued to dump and flush and swish and flush his poops.

we spent time with 5-6 year olds who were great at teaching potty, specially boys

But for me the real trick was getting rid of regular diapers.

the feel of the cloth became familiar, no plasticy sounds.

which made it easier to switch to underwear.

M

you're in luck it's summer...let him run around outside with nothing under his shorts...after he pees or poops and it is gross he will use the potty...promise!(this is gross but after a little #2 falls out, it'll shock him and gross him out)good luck!

Hello B. S,

No fears, you are not alone. I baught my daughter a potty of her onw. The kind with the bells and whistles. I then gave her a LOT of juices and water to make her go and stripped her down. I told her she can not pee on the floor and she needs to just tell me when she has to go. She knew, so she did. She knew when it was coming. I had her trained in 3 days using this method. I also praised her and rewarded her. I left the potty in the living room, and didn't force her to sit on it. I didn't even ask if she had to go. If you treat him like a grown up then he will act like one. You can't push.

Have you tried using "targets" Drop some cheerios in the potty and let him take aim. What about "sink the boat". Take one square of TP in the potty so it floats on top of the water and tell him to sink it by peeing on it. My son has been potty trained since Jan and these worked great for him. He'll still tell me from time to time that he needs a target. It helped. I've also heard about the water color change thing. Use the blue drop ins and when he pees the water will change to green.

Try potty videos. That's what worked for my son. Elmo has a good one. Also read books about going to the potty. and don't push it. just let him do it when he is ready.
He will eventually come through.
S. S

I would stop for now and then pick a start time in about a week or two and on that day don't put ANY diapers on him (except at nap and night time). AND don't give in ! Don't use Pull Ups or diapers when he is out of bed - ever.
There will be a few accidents, but trust me, they "get it" much faster and easier than any other way. For the first few days, keep a potty VERY close by to where you are spending your time (outside, or Family Room...etc.)
And just casually ask him once in a while if he has to go pee pee. My Son either wouldn't just "sit" on the potty ...he only sat when he had to go....so it was handy having it close by !
I did that with my son and he was totally trained at 2 1/2 years old....and it only took 2 days !!
Good luck ! :-)) And as they say, don't worry he won't be going to College in diapers. LOL.
D.

I'm not at this stage yet with my little ones, they're only 1 but I do have a suggestion. I remember the family I used to babysit for had the same problem and they used to put cheerios in the toilet and made a game out of it. It totally worked. He used to like aiming at the cheerios and concentrated on that more than on the fact that he was using the toilet! Hope this helps!

My 3 year old was the exact same way. I decided to give up, lol. That was what worked! I didn't ask him if he had to go, or if he wanted to, he just wore a diaper. One night he decided that he wanted to wear underwear to bed so I let him. He was dry in the morning and has been trained ever since. He totally did it by himself when HE was ready. That is the main key I think, no amount of forcing or bribing will work (at least with my kid and it sounds like yours too.) Mine is now 3 and a half and has been using the potty for about 3 months or so. There are the occasional accidents, but that's expected. My advice is just wait and let him decide. Hope this helps! :)

Stop pushing it then and wait a few months. Boys take longer as it is. My oldest was a litte more than 3 1/2 before he would be potty trained but because he was ready, he was trained in a couple of weeks. My middle son was just turned 3. I would just stop pushing him because the more you do, the more he is going to resist.

Works great! - http://www.3daypottytraining.com/
Good luck -