Hi wonderful moms (and other wise grandparents, dads, etc),
I have a question about toilet training my 2.5 year old DD. She becoming aware of when she needs to go and will use the toilet ~ 2-3x a day (typically urinating a small amount). She will request to go esp. when changing her diaper. Now the question is most of the time when she says she needs to go she’ll sit there and then say “no pee pee” BUT if we (mom or dad) then suggest getting her diaper back on she’ll so “ no. pee pee again without success. This can go on for 10 minutes. Obviously I want to make sure she has positive experiences around toileting (e.g. I don’t want to say “stop playing around and go potty” – I’m afraid she’ll feel like she’s being punished). Do most of you find you sit around for 10-15 minutes at a time throughout the day?
Any good potty tips?
Thanks!
So far so good ( I think)! I started tt today when i returned from a half day of work. within a 4 hour span she peed (small amount) 2x saying she needed to go, wet her pants so I took her to the toilet and she peed a little more in the toilet, then she had a BM and i took her to the toilet and she peed a little more then she wet her pants a little and stopped herself saying ‘I peed mama’ so i took her to the toilet and she peed more (a good amount). she loves her new underwear and puts them on herself :)
Day 2 to start tomorrow :)
I never say in bathrooms as long as when we were potty training.
You gotta camp out.
Take a book. Or two. :)
if she is ready. put her in cotton training pants. turn up the heat a bit.. let her run around in undies (no pants) at home.. take her to the potty every 30 minutes. dont ask.. just say potty time..and take her.. offer lots of drinks. she needs to have a couple of accidents. nothing like pee running down your legs to get the message.
spend 3 days minimum at home.. no errands.. my kids both 'got it' on the third day of training.. plan on taking her to the potty every 30-45 minutes for at least 10 days.. then gradually increase the time between potty trips.. again do not ask.. just take her. diapers at night.. night time training comes later.
both
If this is bothering you, cause it takes a while to figure it out. Take off the diapers and let her run around "naked butt". Then, put the potty chair in the main room she is in. We put it in front of the tv, or gave her a book and let her read on the potty. It will take a few long waits, but this is the easiest for the mom or dad who had too much to do to sit and wait. Oh, and the pediatrician said that they really only need to go 3-4 times a day at this age.
i too, think she's ready to go in panties during the day. start taking her every 30 minutes or so. this is when the real work begins ;) it won't be fun but if she gets it (which remains to be seen) she'll be pt and it will be great.
if she DOESN'T get it - don't be afraid to back off the pt talk and let her wait a little longer. she's showing signs. that doesn't mean she'll be pt in a week. good luck!
If you set a timer and take her every 15-3- minutes she should go and then you won't be sitting in there so long. You'd catch her one of the times you take her without asking if she needs to go by the way. And yes, it's a tiresome process and one of my least favorite of parenting I think.
This is my opinion, A.. She's experimenting and that's great. However, she is not ready to potty train. Continue to let her experiment and keep it light. If she says "no pee-pee" then it means she is not ready to release it and the diaper gives her comfort.
What you might do is have her sit on the potty with her diaper on. It might be that she is so used to peeing when she's standing up, walking or laying down, that she is focusing so much on the toilet that she can't pee "on demand".
Or, read to her while she sits on the potty. Distracting her might help her let her bladder go.
The biggest thing is to not push her to potty train. That's the worst thing you can do.
Good luck!
Dawn
Ditch diapers during the day, they're her crutch. Diapers during potty training is an oxymoron. Use cloth trainers so she'll feel the wetness, nothing motivates and teaches like feeling it and knowing she could have used the potty. Get her some books just for when she sits, camp out as OneandDone suggested, kind of a potty training boot camp, 10-15 minutes is nothing ;) Believe me, she is right there, ready to train. Make it not a game of "no diaper, I want to use the potty" but instead what she's expected to do and capable of doing, you can do this in a positive way. Increase her water consumption, and model the behavior you want her to do and allow her to see you go to the bathroom, from pulling down your pants to sitting and doing your business to wiping, flushing and washing your hands. My daughter pee trained herself at 18 months, my guy was fully trained by 27 months, so she can do it, and soon :)
Ten minutes is nothing. Since she's asking, do it whenever she asks. If she wants underwear let her wear them. She sounds very, very ready.
Oneanddone is right. It's all about camping out and giving them time.
