C.B.
my advice is you either have to deal with the tantrums or get over the fact that she doesn't stay dry at night. right? i mean you can't force this - and bottom line, you're giving her the fluids that are causing her to be wet, so you can't really fault her for not staying dry. my advice is resign yourself to buying pullups for her for awhile (or diapers, whichever) and don't waste another moment stressing about it. nighttime dryness is not something you teach, she will grow into it when she's ready. sounds like you have enough on your plate as it is without adding this pressure on yourself (and her, over something she can't control).