I'm sorry but, who the F@#k told you that its "gay" to let your son sit while potty training?! Why would anyone want to put such a label on a small child like that?
I have two boys, the youngest who is working on potty training right now. Both of them started out sitting everytime they went. If anyone tried to pull that kind of gargbage on them would be out on the curb!
Sitting is just plain easier! I'd rather have them sit and hit the inside of the toilet than, having to clean up messes everytime. Potty training is hard enough! Why add on a skill that Dad can show them later when they have more control and are a little bigger!
Hoped that helped!