Hey Mamas!
I have an almost 2.5 year old. She knows how to pee in the potty, because she has done it on her own many times. We have a potty chair in the living room and when she runs around without a diaper on, she will use the potty - completley on her own with no prompts. (with a few accidents here or there) When she has any clothes or underwear on, she will not use the potty. Only naked. But for the last week or so, she has been begging for diapers. I mean crying and begging for diapers, when I suggest trying on a pair of "princess or Dora" panties she throws a fit and yells DIAPER!!!!! I asked her ped about it and she said not to push her or try to make her go, but let her decide on her own when she is ready. It seemed like she was really ready last month and now she is back to square one with the diapers. I am not sure the best way to go about this. If it were you, would you just take the diapers away, or let her continue until she is ready AGAIN. Thanks for your input.
I would throw away the diapers so they are not an option. Her choices would be naked in the house (if that is ok with you) and underwear to go out. And I would put the potty in the bathroom.
I personally didn't let my child decide when he was ready. I potty trained him in 3 days. He was barely 2, I know that I was lucky to have a boy trained that early from what I have been told. If she has been using her potty on her own with no coaching from you it sounds like she is ready and the crying for a diaper thing is just a comfort to her.
THROW AWAY THE DIAPERS!! Don't even keep them in the house so she doesn't even have that option. It may be difficult at first, but she will soon realize that diapers are no longer a choice. That is what we had to do with my VERY strong willed 3 year old. We are still having challenges with it - but she no longer asks for diapers since she knows there aren't any in the house for her.
I would back off for a couple weeks or maybe a month and try again. She's still pretty young, even though she showed that interest, maybe she's not too sure of herself yet. My daughter turned 3 in October, and we started training right after the holidays. Like your daughter, the interest was there earlier, but she would start tantruming asking for diapers, so I let it go & she continued to wear them. This time I told her there were no more diapers/pull ups, it is undies only. After a couple days of accidents, and diapers at bedtime only, she's trained in less then two weeks :) Good luck!!
My daughter was using the potty almost everytime for about a month and one day decided she didn't want to anymore. She was about 2 3/4. I started to push the issue, but it did not help. I gave up and just reminded her to go from time to time, and when she turned 3 she wanted her undies all the time, and that was it. I wouldn't stress to much about it, she will get it :)
Nope, I wouldn't give her the diaper. She needs to know who Mommy is and that is YOU. You call the shots, not a toddler. I potty trained my three children by ages 2 and 2~ 1/2 years. Totally out of diapers and yes, I potty trained them naked (from the waist down). It's the ONLY method that works. Whenever I put any pants on my kiddos, they would use their underwear as a diaper so I resorted to NO clothes from the waist down. Pullups at night and when you go out, but as long as you are home, naked below the waist. You will have her trained in no time at all. Good luck.
...as for night time training, mine were trained by age 4 and they pretty much did that endeavor all on their own. Night time training requires little work from us...it just comes but I mine were staying dry at night by age 4.
Honestly my 2 1/2 year old did the same thing a few weeks ago. I didn't give her diapers, I just calmly and plainly told her that she had to be "Bare-butt" as we put it. ;) after a couple days she stopped screaming for diapers and was very content to be back on the potty. I even asked her if she wanted a diaper the other day and she gave me a weird look and said "No Mommy! I Bare-Butt!" which made me laugh. It may be a bit of a power struggle going on with your toddler, I know it was with mine. Just keep it up! she will be fine! :)
I am totally not about pushing the potty issue - BUT, my daughter was in the same place yours is about a month ago, but no crying fits (same age too). I just stuck with the underwear and after she wet her pants several times and I took care of it with NO anger (while she herself was very upset and crying about it) - she just started using the potty on her own, and we've had NO accidents. If the fits continue and get even worse, I'd back off for a while (like, a few months). But you may just want to stick with the underwear/naked, and see if she corrects herself!
This is tough because, ultimately she is in control of when and where she pees : ). However,you can encourage (dare I say bribe her) to use undies vs. diapers. Maybe reward her with a special TV show or small treat when she goes a day w/o a Diaper moment... OR tell her that the babies out in the world need the diapers, have her say good bye and cut them out cold turkey...
good luck!
Don't stress...I am a firm believer that kids will do it when they are ready. With my first two I never stressed about it and because of that never got angry changing diapers. My second a boy was the easiest to train. He just decided one month after his third birthday that he would use the potty. We empowered him to pick his own underpants and he was hooked. They will do it when they are ready. Try to stick with the underwear if not, while at home put pants on her with out diaper or underwear. Within the two week period that my son trained he hated not having anything on underneath his pants so when he got to pick out his big boy pants it was great! Every child is different.
That is how it is with pottying.
It is fickle.
It is never finite....
they will... have mistakes and accidents.
Then there is night time dryness... which does not even occur, biologically... until even 7 years old and this is normal.
Still, a child will have accidents.
It is childhood.
Don't worry... your child will get it.
Just not yet.
all the best,
Susan
