First off, congratulations on the birth of your daughter and becoming a new mom!
Second, please know that you will receive TONS of advice from everyone around you (doctors, parenting experts, family, friends, etc.) about your new baby - but be confident that YOU are the expert on your baby. You are the best expert on your little girl! So take all of the "teach your infant daughter to self-soothe" and "she doesn't need to eat at night anymore" opinions with a grain of salt.
Just trust your own mothering abilities, listen to your daughter (babies CAN and DO tell us what they need if we are open to hearing it!), and enjoy this fleeting time... trust me when I say you will look back in a year and wonder how your daughter grew up so fast!
One last thought and then some resources that you might like:
Thought --> We humans are really still just mammals, highly evolved (so we like to think) animals. Our babies are born into this world *expecting* constant contact - we ARE their food (breast), their safety (carried close), their sleep (sleeping in close proximity helps a baby regulate his/her breathing, body temperature, and food intake), their comfort (gas, pee/poop, warm/cold), and their reassurance (nurturing touch, learning how the world works). So don't be dissuaded from honoring your primal mothering instincts by others encouraging you to do "baby training" or "sleep training" or enforce overly-rigid schedules that discount a baby's ability to communicate their needs from moment-to-moment, hour-to-hour, day-to-day. I'm *not* saying there's anything wrong with melting your baby's natural rhythms with a daily routine or schedule! I'm just a bit wary of the "experts" who recommend that we "be the boss of our infants annd show them they aren't the center of the family." Newborns ARE needy, and your instincts are usually right on - you have these instincts for a reason and your baby has her signs, signals, cries, coos for a reason, too. You have only known each other (outside the womb) for a mere 7 weeks - and every day, you'll get to know each other even more, becoming more secure in your relationship, more confident in your mothering.
Resources that you might enjoy (treat this like a buffet - take what works, leave the rest!):
* Dunstan Baby Language DVD - discusses and shows many different infants using the 5 universal sounds that new babies make so that we can recognize them and meet the appropriate need of our baby. What I like about this is that it doesn't tell you "you have to do this, sleep this way, feed that way" -- it simply encourages to you get to know your baby, to respond to their needs, and help you more accurately decipher which need to address. The five sounds are:
NEH - hungry
OWH - sleepy
EH - upper wind (burp!)
EAIRH - lower wind (massage, colic holds, baby might need to eliminate)
HEH - uncomfortable (too hot/cold, need different position, or perhaps need to pee/poop or change diaper)
I checked this out of our local library for free, so check with yours to see if they have it, or you can order it online:
http://www.dunstanbabylanguage.com/
* Even if you aren't interesting in using elimination communication (EC) with your baby, it is incredibly helpful to keep in mind that babies know and signal to us when they have to pee/poop - every cry is not hunger or tired or gas. Sometimes it's elimination, and just knowing this can be reassuring, a great parenting tool. For more information:
http://www.fourtrimesters.com/naturalinfanthygiene.htm
http://www.viviente.com/2005/10/how_to_do_parttime_pottyt...
http://www.diaperfreebaby.org/pottypositions.htm?&MMN...
* If you are at home with your baby all day and all night, it can be more than sanity-saving to connect in person with other mothers who are currently going through and/or who have been through those first wonderful, intense, exhausting, beautiful newborn months. It's so nice to be able to see and hear about the wide range of what "normal babies" do in terms of nursing, sleeping, moving - don't get caught up in comparing yourself or your baby, but simply celebrate your own unique place in the world of mothering, of figuring out what is right for you & your baby. And though it might sometimes seem challenging, please do recharge your own adult batteries, take care of yourself. You are a better mother with more resources when you aren't burned out. There are creative ways to do this, and you will learn quickly what you need most - don't be shy in asking for help, in needing adult conversation, etc., so that you can recharge yourself!
Here are some groups, both online and in person, where you might find support, good conversation, and reassurance:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/daytonattachedparents/
http://www.lllohio.org/groups/dayton.html
http://www.mothering.com/discussions/ (general parenting discussion)
http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=80 (regional boards, including Ohio)
Hope this helps - and once again, congratulations on becoming mom to a baby girl! :)