Tips for Teaching How to Tie Shoes

Updated on April 18, 2011
C.T. asks from Detroit, MI
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Ok, I am at a loss. I am trying to teach my 4 year old how to tie his shoes and he is just not getting it!!! He really wants to learn and I am trying oh so hard to try and be patient and show this boy how to tie his shoes but to no avail! Does anyone have any tips? Thanks in advance ladies you guys always come through.

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Thank you everyone! lmao at Brooke! i was trying to get him out of the velcro lol but if he doesn't get it in the next couple of week s then that might be the plan,

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G.B.

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His fine motor control may not be there yet, especially if he's on the hyper side. Just be patient.

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C.M.

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Does your son have a bath robe? If he does, take the belt off of the robe, put it around his waist and teach him how to tie a bow that way. Then once he gets the concept, you can go back to his shoe laces. Its the same strategy. Since the belt is bigger, it will ne a bit easier. Good Luck!

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S.F.

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they actually sell wooden shoe frame type thingys LOL, that help to teach children how to lace and tie their own shoes. This might help
Good Luck

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K.M.

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None of the cute tricks worked for me: One bunny ear, two bunny ears, bathrobe, etc. The only thing that worked for us was to have someone other than a parent teach it. It's as though we worked at it so hard for so long that there was a block between us. Having the neighbor explain it just took one time. Within 20 minutes everything in the house that could be tied was being tied!

This may not be the case for you, but bringing in another trusted adult or older teenager may be helpful. Good luck!

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R.K.

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My 9 yr old still has a very hard time with it. He sees an ot for fine motor skills though and just writing is hard for him. We punched ome holes in a shoe box cover got him some laces and let him go to town with it.

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K.U.

answers from Detroit on

You've got great responses already, but I just want to add that I didn't figure out how to tie my shoes until I was 6 - so you might want to keep showing him if he wants but also be patient and give it more time. Maybe he's just going to have to be a little older for it to "click".

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answers from Chattanooga on

I know I had a hard time tying my shoes when I was young. My uncle taught me a trick that made it sooo much easier for me. Instead of the 'loop, swoop, pull' meathod of tying shoes, we would tie the first knot, then make two 'bunny ears' and tie them together. This knot isn't as secure, so it's always best to double-knot it... but it's easier for little people to do.

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S.B.

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my daughter has a doll with shoelaces that she can practice on. I know I've seen toys/books with zips, laces, buttons, that sort of thing for little ones to practice on at the bookstore.

I taught her to make two loops and then pull one through the other, if that makes sense. I call them bunny ears. She still cant do it perfect every time (she's also 4) but it's a start.

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S.H.

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for KG prep, with my daycare....I use a piece of sturdy cardboard with shoelaces looped thru it. Easy to make, fun to decorate with the kids!

One bunny ear, two bunny ears. Criss-cross, tuck under, & pull tight.

OR One bunny ear, hold it tight. Wrap around, tuck thru, & pull tight.

I worked forever with my sons ....teaching them this skill. My older son swears his Aunt taught him. My younger son swears his preschool teacher taught him. Sucks to be a Mom sometimes!

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C.B.

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Bunny ears method: make a knot withe the 2 laces to start, then make 2 loops with each lace and just tied the loops in a knot. Believe it or not, this makes the laces end up in the same configuration as if you do it the adult way with holding one loop and then wrapping the second lace around the first loop and pulling it through the hole where your finger is. Much easier to learn, and the can or not switch to the adult method later. Here is a video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkmsM0OP8C0&feature=re...

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D.P.

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Aaack!STILL cannot get my 8 yo to tie!

I really liked the suggestion about the bathrobe belt, though. Definitely going to try that.

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

We were never was able to teach our daughter,( I tie one way and my husband ties the wrong way, hee, hee) so one of her classmates in daycare taught her. He was very patient. Is there a child who would be willing to work with your child?

You do not need to purchase anything.. Have her practice on all sorts of shoes in the house. .

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L.M.

answers from Dallas on

Criss Cross Tying Shoes
(Tune: Splish Splash I was taking a Bath)

Criss Cross and go under the bridge
Then you got to pull it tight.
Make a loop but keep a long tail
That is how to do it right
Then you take the other string
and you wrap it 'round the loop
Pull it through the hole
Now you got the scoop
Criss Cross and go under the bridge (this is where you tie the loops together)
Now you made a Double Knot!

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S.W.

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I applaud your efforts, but we stuck with Velcro shoes until about age 7 or 8 :-) I never have figured out how to teach shoe tying!

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D.J.

answers from Detroit on

there is a teacher store on hall rd. near van dyke called lakeshore learning they have kits, books, and toys there is also a teacher store on van dyke between 9 and 10 mile that should have something

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L.J.

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sponge bob has a song that helped my daughter, plus she would practice tieing bows with a purse of mine that closed with strings.

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