R.J.
dont go to crazy they tend to get overwhelmed and cranky- Make sure you plan the party between nap times, Dont throw too much at her at once if there are a ton of presents you might want to hold back on some or open two at a time because they get distracted and bored really easy. Not all toys need to be opened and put together that day. If you pick one a day for the rest of the week she will be just as happy and not as overwhelmed.
Oh food we always got a little cake or cupcake for the birthday kid, and cake and ice cream for everyone else