You are not alone. Most people have so much other stress in their life that it's difficult to find time to exercise. Try to incorporate your family, so that you aren't giving up time with them. You mentioned that your commute is 1 hr each way and that your career is crazy busy. That can definitely contribute to stress. In case you haven't heard of adaptogens, they are a category of herbs that help the body deal with stress, restore balance, and support normal metabolic processes. (A lot has been discussed recently about adaptogens, even Oz on Oprah). Often times stress causes us to overeat as well as produce excess cortisol (causes the body to store fat). Adaptogens support weight management by regulating blood sugar, insulin metabolism, and cortisol levels; aid in digestion; and increase energy. In fact, adaptogens have the ability to shift the body's metabolism to a greater use of fat for energy.
To learn more about fast acting adaptogen sprays (Slim is wonderful for cravings and weight control) and watch "The Story of Adaptogens Documentary" 10 minute video, go to VitalHealth.TunguskaMist.com
You'll have more energy and endurance to work out with adaptogens. Can you squeeze in time for some weight training? How about using some dumbbells while watching tv @ home, or during a quick break @ work? Lean muscle mass will help speed up your metabolism, thus you'll burn more calories.
2 great books that I recommend are: Living Lean, by Larry North and Adaptogens: Herbs for Strength, Stamina, and Stress Relief by Winston and Maimes.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions, or need further advice and/or encouragement. I've studied health, wellness, and Kinesiology for many years and have a passion for helping people change their life:)