This Is a Silly Vent But...

No. It's wouldn't peeve me. He needs his car for work, I assume, so it needs to be in working order and he's probably more worried about his friend than whether or not this is convenient for you right now.

He didn't plan on the funeral. You're right. This is really a silly thing to be upset about.

My husband is the same way. I would take it myself, but I feel like I am being ripped off.

My husband knows a lot about cars, so I just feel like they tell him the truth.. Or my husband will know how to repair it himself, once they tell him the problem.

But it is the waiting for him to get his act together.

Mind you, I think you should KEEP your important doctor appt....and wish you all the best.

Where were you when all the car exchanging was being planned?

I am notorious for ignoring the check engine lights. Most of the time it is a sensor. So I can't fault him there.

So far as the funeral goes if it isn't until Friday what does it matter if he brings the car in tomorrow? They will identify the sensor, charge him some stupid amount of money to replace the sensor and have him out in a couple hours.

This has been a long week for me but tomorrow is only Wednesday, right?
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Whoa, I didn't see the paragraph about the rental...time to go to bed. Of course reading that makes me really confused. Was it there all along, really? So tired.

I think I'd rent a car for the day.

Actually, I don't think it's that weird. After spending $2k on repairs, I'd wait a few days if the light came on again, too. Seriously, the light can go on if you don't tighten the gas cap enough, and it's a pain to run the car in. If it's a temporary glitch, especially after you've already thought you addressed the problem, I'd wait a few days, too. But if it doesn't go off after a few days and is coming on consistently, yes, then I'd want to get it in. I certainly wouldn't drive two hours from home in it or leave my wife and child with it. I kind of think he's being responsible about it.

Some people just don't do stuff they are supposed to do until something "comes up". Have you ever noticed people who start to feel sick, like coming down with a sore throat, will suddenly start to clean house as if they have company coming? All of a sudden there's a reason. No matter that they had plenty of time to do it before.

I'll bet that your husband is like these people...

And yes, what you are talking about would bug the beejeebers out of me. Drive with a check engine light on for a few weeks? Heck no.

Reminds me, though, of Penny on The Big Bang Theory. She didn't even "get" that the engine light being on for months and her car engine dying had anything to do with each other...!

Those darn lights, its probably a sensor!! This reminds me so much of my hubby too, he has the very worst timing with these things also. He procrastinates so ridiculously long then when he decides to actually do something it has to be right now! Don't blame you at all.

Tell him to get the car checked next week, after the funeral. If the car has been checked by a mechanic and deemed safe since the light came on, its probably fine, no point in all that rearranging of vehicles.

The ABS light keeps going on and off in my Jeep, which has been happening since I got my brakes done. Mechanic says its probably the sensor. Every time I think about getting it checked it turns off again. *sigh* I hate those lights!

The light itself doesn't really mean anything, those lights are basically for emissions testing. Doesn't mean there isn't an issue, it's just that usually it's nothing major. Heck yesterday my car failed emissions and it's light isn't on and drives fine.

I do get what you're saying though.

Kind of like my husband starts painting a room on Easter morning or something like that?
Yeah...I get it.
In our house, car repairs/service are squarely on hubs shoulders.
He drops off, picks up and everything in between.
I get the working vehicle or a loaner/rental. I can't be without a car!!! Lol

It usually means the engine transmission fluid or engine oil is running low or the car may need a maintenance check, etc.
That is what, a mechanic told me once, then THEY can turn off the dashboard light notice.
But your Husband didn't do anything about it for months.... to take the car in. And so by then, the car probably got more car problems.
But for 2K... I would question that. That seems very... excessive.
And they did work on the vehicle that was unrelated... to the "check engine" light???
They sound incompetent.

Take it to the dealer. At least they know how to turn off the dashboard lights.
My neighborhood mechanic does. But for other repairs or maintenance checks, we take it to our dealer.

It wouldn't peeve me any more than when my husband notices a low tire on his car, stops and adds air, and then goes on his merry way---never saying a word to me (or anyone else) about it. Then 3 weeks later, when he goes out to the garage to get in his car to go to work, he has a flat tire, and starts stressing about getting it changed or taking my car (leaving me stranded) etc etc etc...

This has actually happened more than once. The last time, he drove it too long without getting the nail pulled and patched/plugged (combo), that he damaged the tire from running it slightly underinflated, and we had to buy a new tire. We just put new tires on his car less than 6 months ago. So 2 weeks ago, we spent another $165 dollars to buy another tire.
All the while, he is calling asking if they will have it done in time for him to have it to go to work.
Umm.. hello... how about, when you notice ONE tire is low, you air it up, then on your day off (every Friday he is off) take it and get it taken care of. ONE tire isn't a change in the weather. It is 99.9999% guaranteed that it is a nail. And it will go flat when it is least convenient if you let it go and worry about it "later".

Ugh.

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oh... and as for the service engine light, I wouldn't worry about it either way. A lot of the time it is simply a gas cap not put back on all the way. And if not, then some sort of sensor that probably is irrelevant (at least in my experience). An O2 sensor will cause it to come on, but I think that a bad O2 sensor can really screw up your gas mileage, and you would notice. I have had a service engine light glowing on my dash for several years now. There is nothing wrong with the car. I actually had them run basic diagnostics on it and they found nothing. It used to randomly go on and off for a while. Then it just started staying on. Personally, I think it is the "up to 10% ethanol" they require us to use these days. For awhile, only certain stations/brands of gasoline seemed to cause the light to come on, and if I filled up at other stations it would go off. But now, it doesn't matter where I get gas. So you tell me.
I wouldn't worry about the service engine light. If it was something serious, they would have noticed it when he had it in a few weeks ago. He could have driven it to the funeral. We just took my car (with the service engine light glowing cheerfully) on vacation to the mountains. Put about 1500 miles on it. Still chugging along just fine.... turned 270,000 miles this week! woot!

First, I am of the opinion that if something bothers you (no matter how small or insignificant it may seem to someone else...NOT that this IS, just sayin') that's it's important to get off your chest, or it will just come crashing out sometime later for sometimes something even seemingly smaller :) So please don't discount your feelings!

Second, I'd be annoyed, too! It's just something that isn't THAT important if it's been going on for MONTHS.

To get to a story of my own that might help you, we have a car that the light was on for the better part of FIVE YEARS! FINALLY, we figured (or rather I did) out that it was the cam position sensor that was bad...Maybe that could be the problem with your car as well? Each time they would hook it up to the computer, it would never register that it was the problem, and it would reset the computer and the light would go off for a while (never a standard time, sometimes a week sometimes months) so we were always able to have the car inspected, but it was still ANNOYING as I am sure it is for you guys, too! Anyway, sorry for that OT rant, but I hope it helps solve your light problem, too :)

They should have a class "How to train your husband"!

About the check engine light... Mine has been on for over a year. One of the weird "air sensors" (This is what the mechanic told me they were in the dumbed down version, I'm not sure what they are actually called) has gone bad. It won't damage my car to drive it and it's very expensive to have fixed, so I ignore it. The mechanic told me to just go to O'Reily's (I don't know if you have those where you are from but they are just a small tool/mechanical type of store) for a free diagnostic every 6 months to make sure that it is still the air sensor making the check engine light stay on. He also told me that if the light is on but not blinking the car is safe to drive until you can get an appointment with the mechanic but if it ever starts blinking that that means something if really wrong and not to drive it but to have it towed to the mechanic.

Anyways, as long as the light isn't blinking I wouldn't worry about driving it. See if there is an O'Reily's near you or another place that offers free diagnostics and find out what's wrong with the car.

He obviously has a "MAN plan" that you as a wife don't quite understand. I would stop trying to figure it out and let him deal with it in his way and see how things turn out. This is like a sitcom. Sit back in the audience and watch how things play out, but annoyed, I wouldn't be. I realized long ago that logic is often a last resort for the male species.