Thinking About Getting My Tubes Tied.

Hi Mo, I've said on other posts, getting my tubes tied is one of the very few regrets I have in life. Just sayin'....

I tell every lady not to. I had mine tied and my body started going nuts on me. After having them untied I am my old self again. You can look up PTLS and read about it. My OB even talks about it and try telling me that it would change my body. http://www.tubal.org/symptoms_of_pts.htm and http://www.tubal-reversal.net/ptls.htm this one takes you to a board where you can read true stories about lady's who tied theirs and then untied them to feel better.

You just never know what life has in store. My first husband left us and I remarried a great man that had no children. I would have never tied my tubes if I had known the pain and hardships my body would go through and it is sad to know that because of doing it I hurt the chances of my husband and I having a baby now.

I am in the same boat with you. I am actually not going to get my tubes tied, I am going to get Essure. Google it. It is a small spring looking piece that they stick in each fallopian tube. The tube then builds scar tissue around it sealing the fallopian tube. It can't come undone, readhere, etc. It is not at all a surgical procedure, and your gynecologist inserts them during an office visit.
I have two beautiful little girls and I am 95% sure I am done. However, given that i am only 30 I didn't want to make a permanent decision. I got a non-hormonal IUD (paraguard) for now. I can keep it for ten years. That way if in a few years we decide we are going to have another we can; though from here it just doesn't seem likely. I figure by the time I'm 40 I'll be ready to make that permanent decision. Essure is the way I will go.

Well, I'm going to take the other side of it. If you get really good counseling beforehand and you are SURE of your decision, there is no emotional reaction afterwards. I had absolutely zero physical changes - it was 2 days of recovery (just relaxing in bed or on the couch) and it was such a relief not to worry about getting pregnant or the side effects of other forms of contraception. I've never regretted it. My tubes were cauterized but everything else continued to function - ovaries, menstrual cycles, etc. There was just no way for the egg to get thru the Fallopian tube. That's it.

Get some counseling - just some opportunity to figure out your reasons, your commitment, and so on, to be sure you have no regrets. The surgery shouldn't change your life!

Had mine tied along with extensive exploratory surgery when I was 32, but even with the additional surgery, I was home in two days and my recovery was without incident. I had one daughter and knew she would be my only, so I never regretted my decision. I was grateful to be able to stop using other birth control measures, which were less certain (although even TL can, rarely, fail).

It was the easiest thing I've ever done. No side effects, no problems period. Matter of fact I had mine done at 4 in the afternoon, my father went into the hospital that night. I drove an hour and a half to the hospital and sat around there all day. No problems. I would highly recommend it if you are done having children. I knew I was, my second child put me on bed rest from 21 weeks on. I had a boy and and girl, so I knew I didn't want to go through that again. Good luck to you!

I had my tubes tied in 1994. It was pretty painless. Two small, invisible incisions around the navel: one for the tying machine, one for the light. My doctor said the light was of course necessary to see what he was doing, close to the bowels, he said. They blow your abdomen up like the "Super-dome" and go in and clamp the fallopian tubes with gold clamps. At least that what they did to me. He also took pictures to prove he actually did it!! Nice!

Why is it no longer major surgery? (I haven't researched - just curious). It still requires general anesthesia and cutting into abdominal cavity (even if done laproscopically)?

I would not suggest getting your tubes tied as it can cause hormonal problems after the surgery. If you did not have PMS before changes are you will have it after the surgery.
Have you husband go instead--fewer risks and much easier.
Do your research and the average doctor may not tell you this info.

I would ask, "Is there a reason your husband can't get a vasectomy?"
Its a much simpler procedure, and much safer. My mother nearly died when she got her tubes tied, she was in a coma for 3 days.

are you 100% sure you don't want anymore children?
I also looked into having my tubes tied, I am 99% sure I don’t want any more kids, ( I almost died both times after child birth, so I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy and labor again) but there is 1 part of me and hubby that don’t want to do anything permanent, so I got the 5 year Mirena and it has worked wonderfully for me.

Congratulations on your six children! I hope they'll provide you many years of joy. My mom says it was hard raising 10 children, but it's paying off now! She lives with my 2 brothers, and I stayed with her most days since her stroke last year, until my brothers took early retirement recently. There's always someone to be with her or help her with whatever is needed.

Concerning having tubes tied, I would definitely advise against it. Try this website: http://www.tubal-reversal.net/post_tubal_ligation_syndrom...

Also, spend some time browsing through www.ccli.org. This is a group to which my husband and I have belonged since we took natural family planning classes through them when we were engaged. It's the Couple to Couple League, committed to training married couples to teach other couples the art of modern natural family planning, specifically the sympto-thermal method. I can't tell you what a huge blessing NFP has been for our marriage.

What a lot of people don't realize is that every method of contraception can have side effects that are not only physical, but emotional and spiritual, as well. The decision you make now is going to have repercussions for the rest of your life, so be cautious and choose wisely. I can't explain briefly why contraception is so damaging to marriages, but the statistics are very clear in the connection between divorce & the use of contraception. Invest some time at http://www.janetsmith.excerptsofinri.com/. Dr. Janet Smith has all the facts to back up the statement I just made.

I'm not trying to pass judgment on you or anyone else who chooses to contracept. I just care enough about others to want them to know the dangers of the path they may choose to take. Learn, think, and pray before you decide what to do.