Having done both....here are some questions to ask yourself?
VIP>>>>WHAT IS IN YOUR SAVINGS ACCOUNT RIGHT NOW............ can your savings acount bail you out in an emergency or will you have to borrow or use a credit card.
What is your contingency plan if a divorce, layoff,spouse"s illness and/or death, child special needs occur....what if your family loses their only source of income.... do you have savings or other resources to pay the bills for 3 to 6 months. Check the amount your husband would recieve from unemployment insurance and see if you could survive on it.
If something happens to your husband employment ...do you know if he is willing to work for less ...what is the current turn around time for a person seeking employment in his profession...Would you and he be willing to relocate if necessary for his remployment?...Would you work nights while he job hunted during the day...remember he may not find a job before his unemployment runs out....Never assume in a one "job" household that this income will always be there....you must have a back up plan before it is needed.
Your second child is not here yet...if the this child is born with special needs or health issues...Will you need the income / insurance from your current job to cope?
CAN your husband watch the children on the weekends or at night for 5, 8, or 10 hours a week while you do volunteer work... not just to give time you with grownups but as a job insurance policy....What do i mean/... I have friends who have kept jobs skills current and/ or upgraded their job skills while volunteering....you would be amazed at the skills & training that a person or organization will teach a volunteer ....looks great on a job resume and can get you a better paying job-eventually....maybe not feasible now but a possible consideration, later.
What are your "real bills" ?rent/mortgage,food,clothing. gas/electricity, car payment/car insurance and license, health insurance, etc..., Now imagine- you have paid these bills... Now,,,,money must go into a saving accounts....do not even consider using a credit card...(My husband and are retired...having no credit cards at all is part of our lifestyle, now }....What is left over from his paycheck?? How much will you need to supplement...is this amount close to money left over after you pay for childcare? YOU said you need to supplement his income ...will you do this before you quit working ;so you know for sure that this is working?
After this what other items are needed...you said your husband works out of town ...sit down and figure out his expenses.... who pays for wear/tear on his car and gas...does he eat out alot on the job?....Does hIS job have a "dress code "and how expensive is his "work attire" and its maintenance...is he expected to have certain supplies or/ and equipment for his profession or entertain clients...if so who pays for these items ...you need know costs associated with him keeping his job down to the penny.
Have you ever lived poor? Do you
know how to shop online--- believe it or not .. Sometimes,you can furnish a home or put clothes on your back cheaper ..... Can you live without dining out...period....Could you be a one car family..... do you have hobbies or interests that are cheap???... do you rent movies or pay for sporting events on tv...can you live without the smallest perks if you need to....do you have relatives/ family that live out of town...could you not see them at all for the next 2,4, 5 years....
In your current profession - how quickly will your professional credentials and job skills be "outdated"? Will there be a stigma attached to you because you chose to stay at home insteading of balancing a job and family
like many women do today?....If you go back to work later....you may have to compete against women who have done it all and have a employer wonder about your committment to being part of the workforce...if you stay at work is there the potential for raises, job promotion or parlaying this job into another career in a year or two that would pay more?
Many people will suggest doing daycare out of your home..... ...you will not get days off unless a working parent has the a day off....some jobs require that you work holidays..will you do daycare on labor day or christmas eve...will you get paid for daycare if the child is out sick or parent take a 2 week vacation.... my caretaker ran a business and i understood that she accepted a limited number of children so on holidays and vacation i paid her ...so will your daycare be a hourly situation or a more professional situation (the income is more reliable for the sitter and i knew my sitter would not leave me in a lurch because she wanted a 2 week vacation.)
What is your credit card/ debt at this current time....would it be wiser to work for a while and let one paycheck pay daycare and another paycheck dedicated to paying the bills off and then you quit. Have you evaluated your current " need " situation? Does any vehicle need new tires asap....ARE any home appliances on their last leg, etc...,Please evaluate yourself, your lifestyle and your home -- make sure that there are no "financial " bombshells pending in the next 6 months or 12 months.... check this throughly,,,you willbe new to lifestyle and need bo surprises.