Things They Learn at School

Thats right about the age they start learning about these things. Dont be scared, just help teach them.

What do you do? Answer their question. What do you say? You tell them the truth on a level they can understand. And its coming no matter what so get prepared. Its part of life. If its really bad and you feel its necessary find out who is talking about these inappropriate things and tell their teacher. Or better yet talk to their parents. They may not be aware their kids know this stuff. No matter how much we try to shield our children from the big bad world they are going to eventually find things out and if its not from you it will be from their peers. Just dont stick your head in the sand...be proactive.

First, I would ask them what they have heard and then clarify anything they get wrong, and they will if they hear it from other kids. I am really trying to approach everything from a biblical stand point, so here is what I would do next. Explain the biology first, periods, parts and purpose. Then explain your moral and religious beliefs. If you need help with finding scripture, go to biblegateway.com and you can search topics. Keving Leman, a christian psychologist, has a book out called The Chicken's guide to talking turkey with your kids about sex. It is a wonderful book. One thing that is really benificial, would be for your husband to be in the conversation at some point. Remember, you are mom and married, what do you know about boys! Hope this helps!

ACTUALLY MY MOM SPRUNG THE PENIS WORD ON MY SON WHEN HE WAS TWO. I WAS FLOORED. I REALLY DIDN'T WANT TO GO THERE FOR A WHILE. MY MOM SAID WELL IT IS THE CORRECT NAME FOR IT. (WE WERE POTTY TRAINING) I JUST DON'T USE THE WORD. MY MOTHER PASSED AWAY SO THE WORD IS NOT USED MUCH ANY MORE AT ALL. ALTHOUGH, BELIEVE IT OR NOT, MY SON USES THE WORD. WHENEVER FOR WHATEVER REASON HE NEEDS TO DESCRIBE A PROBLEM WITH IT, I TRY NOT TO ACT WEIRD AND JUST ADDRESS THE ISSUE. I HAVE NOT HAD TO ADDRESS THE SEX ISSUE BUT I KNOW HOW I WILL. SEX IS NATURAL. ONLY WHEN PEOPLE TEND TO HIDE THE ACT AND MAKE IT DIRTY THEN IT BECOMES DIRTY. YOU NEED TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR CHILD THAT THERE IS SOMETHING CALLED SEX AND IT IS BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND WIFE, ETC. BUT AND CALLING ON MY MOM AGAIN, KEEP IT SIMPLE. DON'T GIVE A THREE HOUR DISERTATION ON THE INNER WORKINGS OF SEX, VARIATIONS, DISEASES, ETC. WHEN A SHORT SIMPLE ANSWER GETS IT DONE. IF YOU TEND TO ACT EMBARASSED, DON'T ANSWER, OR LIE TO YOUR CHILDREN THEN WHEN THEY WANT THE ANSWERS THEY WON'T COME TO YOU. BELIEVE ME YOU WOULD RATHER GIVE THE INFORMATION TO YOUR CHILDREN THEN HAVING A 8 YR OLD THAT DOESNT REALLY KNOW A HILL OF BEANS. ALSO, DON'T HIDE DADDY. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS WEIRD AND MY HUSBAND AND I ARE NOT NATURALISTS OR ANYTHING BUT WE DONT HIDE. BOTH OF OUR CHILDREN HAVE WALKED IN ON US GETTING DRESSED. MY SON KNOWS THAT GIRLS ARE GIRLS AND BOYS HAVE EXTRA STUFF (OR A PENIS AS HE CALLS IT). HE KNOWS HIS SISTER LOOKS DIFFERENT. HE HAS YET TO ASK ME THE ANATOMICAL NAME FOR HER OR MY LOOK. HE IS JUST HAPPY TO KNOW THAT HE HAS THE EXTRA THING. HONESTLY, I THINK IT MAKES HIM FEEL MACHO! HAHA

I think that there is a common misconception about how once they're about to hit adolescence, you'll sit down with them and have "the talk". The reality is, there is no one "talk", it's sort of an ongoing dialogue, and it lasts for YEARS. As someone stated already, just answer the questions honestly. I think it's really important not to let her know that you're a little freaked out about it, just handle it calmly, as though it's perfectly natural (because it is) and that way, she'll know that she can come to you to talk about things and you won't be shocked. I promise, that will come in handy later!

You have to find a way to address it so that you are in control of what they know. It's out there now. There is no safe way to keep it from them anymore. It's unfortunate that you can't introduce these topics when you're ready to (like the week before they get married!!!!!); however, you have to make sure they know the facts - the correct facts, not the misinformation that always gets passed about with children. But as far as what to say, just be honest. You don't have to discuss sexuality in detail with them. How about explaining the body parts and while you're at it, have the conversation about no one touching them EVER but mommy or daddy or however you want to say it. As far as sex is concerned, you can always tell them that it's something between a man and a woman or grown ups or whatever. I don't know if I've helped because this is such a personal subject and can really be handled in a multitude of ways...

K.:
Not to sound harsh, but come on! This is a new day and age and sex is completely overrated to the point where it is a general issue. Even in cartoons! Watch a basic cartoon and you will see them doing things like showing their butts, farting, calling each other stupid, kissing, going out on dates, all that stuff. I hate it myself, but luckily I noticed this before I became a parent so I made myself prepare for things like this. You can never be too ready to hear these sorts of things from your children, but you have to somewhat expect them, and try to instill in them the right from the wrong. You have to trust that your good doings and teachings with affect them in a good way and hope that they will carry those things with them when the leave your care. Don't be in the dark K.. You can't be with your kids 24 hours a day, so they are going to pick things up from others. Especially their peers. At any age.

I feel you girl....my boys are only in kinder. I am not ready for sure!! I am tore b/c I want them to know the truth, but I also know anything I tell them I am also telling 40 other kids. Good luck. I told mine the least I could honestly and on thier level.