The Passy HAS GOT to GO!

With Easter around the corner you could try having her leave it as a gift to the Easter Bunny. We leave cookies for Santa and can leave all the passies for the Easter Bunny:) I had a friend who did this and she said it worked like a charm.

Once they have holes in the nipples it is truly a choking hazard. Just throw them all out, explain to her that they will mess her teeth up because she's a big girl. And don't give in when she cries, screams and demands one. YOU have to be the one in control. Don't let her win!

Does your daughter watch Dora The Explorer?

We told our daughter , at about the same age, that Swiper the Fox SWIPED her passy. SHe totally thought it was cool and told everyone that he had taken it!

It worked like a charm!

Good Luck!

I agree - it does need to go. She's come to depend on it for soothing herself, so you're going to have to give her a replacement item to make the transition easier. Explain to her that the passy is just not for her any more and take her shopping for a special doll, blanket or other item that she can have to make herself feel comforted. Let her pick it out so she feels empowered. It will take her about 3 days to get over it, and you can all laugh about it when she gets older :)

Hi S.,
First of all, know that you aren't alone in this! I depended heavily on pacifiers for my kids. They are all about 2 years apart and it was so easy for me to let the big kid have one too when the new baby came home. But, here's what I found... all of my kids were between 2 1/2 - 3 years old when the pacifier habit was broken. One of them left hers outside one night, another had the broken ones, another still seemed to make them appear out of nowhere! LOL. Anyway, I did not have to go through the convincing stage... IE, your a big girl now, etc. (lucky me) With each kid, the pacifier just went away and while we had a couple of rough days (only 3 or 4)... they all bounced back very quickly and I was left thinking.. why didn't we do this earlier?!
So, if you think you can handle those few uncomfortable days of dispair over missing pacifiers, you might want to try the "cold turkey" method. Good Luck!!

I hate to tell you this, but I have a 4 year old, a three year old and an 18 month old all of whom still suck on their cee-cee's (as we call them). Our rule is that they can only have them at nap time and bed time. At no time do they go out of the house or outside. They don't want them when they are around other kids their age but seem to need the security when it's time to sleep. They will give them up on their own eventually - I'm not going to get so upset about them getting rid of them at this point. Try to wean her easily and keep her occupied - it'll help. Once she knows the new "rules" she'll be all right.

Hi S., My 3 rd old was the same way. We cut the nibbles of all the passy's we had and told him that was all we had. He cried for about a week and that was the end of that. he has not had it since.I do like the dora one. I think that will work if she knows dora. Good luck

You simply cut her completely off of the passy's. Maybe get her interested in some other "comfort item". But if you keep giving them to her, you are sending her mixed messages. Either she gets no passy or she gets the passy. You have to be the one to make the decision, she's just following your lead. Just take them all and throw them away. It will be difficult for a while, but it will eventually pass.

My son is turning two in May, and this is what we were told by a friend (it worked for his daughter), we cut off a piece of it, when he went to suck on it, it didn't have the same feel or affect, so he threw it down, walked away and that was the end. Worked for us, maybe it will work for you.

I say this one on Supernanny. Have her collect all the passy's in a basket making a fun time of it. Then have her help put the basket in a tree so the "Passy fairy" can come and take them to babies that don't have any passy's.The next day have her check the basket where she will find a special treat!
Good luck.

Tell her if she can find one, she can have it! Refuse to buy anymore. I hope your husband is on the same page. Be strong! If she has a tantrum, just walk away. If you're able to distract her,that will help. It's just like to trying to quit smoking, except for toddlers. It'll be harder on you than her.

ok my son will be 3 in july and he was definately a passy baby. we just took it away at christmas time. ok he put his in his stocking on christmas eve and when he woke up christmas morning his passys were gone and he had lots of other neat stuff in the place of it. well since valentines day is coming just tell her that she is to leave her passy in one spot and when she wakes the next morning she will have lots of neat surprises. we were like you and tried all kinds of other alternatives and nothing worked. but we did the christmas thing and he hardly cried for it. when he did we told him that remember it is not here santa took it to other babies and left you big boy stuff. so you do the same but use cupid. he is doing so well without it now and his vocabulary has improved alot. but try that but whatever you do do not give in. please let us know how she does.

Hi S.! I am not at that point yet since I have a 1 yr old, but I think about it a lot. He loves his passy and I am already dreading the day we have to make him give it up. I have heard a couple things that might help. 1) Tell him that he can trade each one in for a new toy. 2) Take him to a baby nursery and "donate" the passies to the new babies, or find a charity that donates things to poor families and have your little girl "donate" them to new babies whose families can't aford passies. 3) (I saw this on supernanny for a bottle), send it out to sea and the sea will send back a special gift ike a stuffed animal or doll. You can then remind her that she's done all these things when she forgets and wants her passy. If you choose one of these, PLEASE let me know if it works!!! :-)

we went through this too! when her 3rd birthday rolled around we had prepared her for weeks ahead that 3 yr olds DO NOT USE pacifers. it was done all reassuring and would make it a point to show her other little girls that didn't have them. so in preparation for the big day we planned a special outing on her birthday to make a big deal of the 3 yr old and no pacifer "rule"!!!! we left home without it, celebrated all day...and avoided a nap at all cost! she has never picked up another pacifer and she made it through that first night great! She announces proudly now that she is a big girl and doesn't need that ole sassy! GOOD LUCK to you and her!!!!

When you get some good ideas let me know. I have twins that will be 3 in August and they are in no hurry to give up the passy.

You just have to throw them out. She will cry and throw a fit but after a couple of days she will be fine. My mom wanted my sister and I to stop using bottles (we used them for way to long). So on Christmas she threw them out and told us that Santa took them because babies needed them. She was shocked - we just said ok and never mentioned it again. Maybe you could do something along these lines.

We gave my daughter the one she got when she was born. It was so small, she couldnt even hold it in her mouth. She kept pulling it out and looking at it like "what is going on" she didnt cry for another one or anything. I put it on the pooh bear holder so as far as she knew it was the same one she always had. Just buy her a really really small one. It worked for us so hopefully it will for you too. If not then you are just going to have to throw them out and let her cry. That is the only other thing to do, it will only last a couple of days. Good luck.

S.,
I have a friend that went through the same thing. What she did was start off with giving her son a special cup (it was just a plastic disposable cup) that he was allowed to decorate how ever he wanted. When he got up in the morning, he was told to put the passy in its cup so that he would know where it was later. After a few weeks of this, she was able to throw all but one away. He was allowed to take it with him on outings but only if it stayed in his pocket and not in his mouth. After a while he didn't ask for it anymore.

Now, what I do with the toddlers in my class is first thing in the morning when they come in, they have to put them in their cubbies. They do not get them again until nap time, or if they are not feeling well and need the extra security. Eventually, they start to hand them over as soon as I walk in the door. I have even had a few that would give them to me if they saw me in the store or doctors office.

This will take time. It is not going to happen over night and I am sure that you will have to endure some tantrums and battles of will. But you have to remember that you are the adult. If a tantrum starts you should do everything you can to ignore it (after making sure that she is in a safe place and can not hurt herself or others).

I hope this helps!

throw them out! you will def have to listen to some crying and temper tantrums but bear through it it cant last longer then a week, i know thats harsh but it wont scar her for life. i had a friend that was the same way only her son was going on 6! he wanted to take it to school, stole his baby sisters etc. when she finally got them all away from him he through a fit for a week but then it was over the following week all but forgotten. sry if this doesnt help but its the only way i see to help, just remember the longer u allow her to have it the more attached to it she gets.

My daughter was very attached to her passy and no persuading would work. One day while we were out she dropped the last one I had on the ground and I didn't notice it until it was too late and we were on our way home. She screamed and cried at night for a little over a week. It was awful and I almost gave in several times but I stayed strong and didn't give in. Then after a couple of weeks she forgot all about it and has never asked for it again.

I definitely agree that it is time for the passy to go. However, I do not agree with just taking away a security object. Does she have any other object that she could use for security? A blanket or stuffed animal or something? If not, then maybe you could take her out and let her pick one out. The first thing I would do is make the passy a bedtime-only thing. Make her leave it in her bed when she wakes up. she can have it at nap time and bedtime, that's it. Once she has taken to her new security object work on taking the passy away at nap time, and then eventually bed time.

I also thought it was a good idea to buy her a smaller one (I know someone here said that) then she just might not want it anymore!

Good luck!

My son had just turned three when I decided it was time for the "binky" to go. By this point, however, he was only using it at bedtime. What I did to smooth the transition was to sit him down at bedtime one night and tell him that it was time to stop using the binky. I told him that in three nights we would put it away. We did a countdown each night after his bedtime story. On the last night, I took his binky and put it in a little box--like a small jewelry box. I told him that we were not going to throw it away, we would just put it in the box and put it up on his dresser. It made him feel better to know that his old but treasured binky was not in the trash, but safely tucked away. For a few nights he would get out the binky and look at it, and I would reassure him that he was a big boy now, and that he didn't need it. I think the ceremony of putting the binky in a special box helped him to get over using it. He finally threw it away by himself a few months later.