A.G.
My girls are 11 & 13. Boy am I feeling your pain this summer. One of the things that I have started doing that I think really helps is seperate them. Give them a few minutes to calm down and then talk to them both seperately, in there own rooms, and discipline them both seperately. It is neither one of there bussiness how the other is being punished. If either one of them says she hit me then they loose privledges, or gain chores. I am just trying to teach them that even when you are angry you have to keep your hands to yourself. Violence is not the answer. I will make them clean the bathroom, run the vacumm, clean windows, wipe down cabinets, sweep the garage, whatever I can think of to try to encourage them that next time you want to think twice before you touch. I am tired of having Ipods and cell phones and other electronic devices in my closet and have found that the chore thing works. I hope this help. And know you are so not alone.