C.C.
My daughter, years ago announced when she turned 16 that she was going to live with her Father for the same reasons your daughter did. Guess what, it was the best thing that could have ever happened... I was so fed up with her not wanting to follow my rules, and I knew if she came back, it would only be because she did not want to follow her Father's rules either. You might be amazed that Daddy's attitude will change and there will be rules. You really don't know what is going on there since she has been there. I'm sure your daughter won't share the "oh by the way daddy has rules too" information with you...It turns out that not only was my daughter's father strict, he put her in her place, and kept her there. I told him it is best ,for those reasons that she continue to stay with him...There was never any discussions of "coming-back", it was her, not me who made that move out decision in the first place. She is now 29 years old, a College Graduate, NO CHILDREN, a car, an Apartment of her own, and a great job...If she had stayed home with those rebellious ways and that attitude, who knows what might have happened, or how this story would have ended. It might be time for you to let go of any anger, or disappointments that you're holding on to, and support your daughters decision. Don't tell her she can "always come back home", because what you're really saying is, if you don't like Daddy's rules you can always come back home and run over me, disrespect me like you did before you decided to leave. D., do you see the pattern? I Don't mean to sound harsh, but people that are telling you she'll be back, most likely have not walked in your shoes...I have been there and done that...Start taking some time for yourself, go to the Spa, join a Gym, a Book Club something! Don't spend any more time worrying over this, because guess what? Nothing will change, unless you change...