Hi Moms,
This is my DD's second year at her school and she is in 2nd grade. We are very happy with her school and love her teacher but I'm very upset with the way I've noticed a teachers aide treating Kinder aged children.
I also have 2 sisters with children at the same school and they have both witnessed the same behavior from this lady. This is also the first year this lady is at the school so anyhow..............
Every day that I've gone to eat lunch with my DD, I've seen this aide yelling at the kids (very meanly) and getting up in their faces when doing so. It seems she likes to "push" the kids around a lot when directing them somewhere instead of just guiding them with her hands......not very rough pushing BUT definitely pushes. Just today I watched her grab a young boys shoulders with both of her hands, pulled him backwards and said so loudly that I heard her across the cafeteria "SIT DOWN IN YOUR LUNCH SEAT!" (and I do all caps because she was very rudely saying it to him).
I could go on and on with the way this lady is treating these kids and I'm just shocked because how can she think that's ok to treat kids and WHY is NO ONE speaking up to her and WHY is the principal hiring someone like her to work with kinder aged children??? I just don't get it.......she's upset me so bad because I feel like these children need a voice and it should not be allowed. I just can't imagine her treating and talking to an adult the way she does to these innocent sweet kids who are just starting out their life in school and need guidance yet are getting pushed around and yelled to in their faces!!
Please advise mamas on what I should do, who I should go to and if this behavior is even legal!! Do teachers/aides have the right to put their hands on kids the way she is? I've NEVER had a teacher put their hands on me (when I was in school) and have never seen any teacher at my DD's school behave this way.........HELP PLEASE!
I think you should approach the principal in a very concerned, caring way. Just give some examples of what you have witnessed. I am sure the principal will be just as concerned as you. Ask for a follow-up with the principal after she has had a chance to address the problem.
I'd say approach her directly, from a sympathetic "maybe you've been having a bad first week back" attitude - give her a chance to see that she's over the top herself. If she reacts inappropriately or doesn't change the behavior, go over her head. Someone needs to deal with it, and people might be assuming that "someone" already has. Good luck and thanks for caring!
Please speak up about this, my dd is in K4 and I would hate to think of this happening to her or anyone in her age range. Little ones depend on us and can't handle a situation like this alone.
I would confront her myself, probably in front of the children she is abusing. Not in a ugly way but I'd tell her that she shouldn't talk/treat the kids in that way, it's disrespectful. You might be shocked with her reaction. Bully's aren't usually confronted by an equal and when they are they sometimes wake up to what they are doing. If not she is probably in perimenopause or she has a mental issue going on. ") Then I would take it to someone higher than her.
C.
