Teacher Round Two

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Agreed that you should have sign. However, I would ask that the teacher communicate in an age-appropriate manner. There is no room for sarcasm in a classroom environment - it stifles learning.

Sorry, but if you didn't sign, she has no idea if she really read. That is why the parents have to sign the reading log. There are rules in place for a reason and all of the students have to be held responsible to following directions and that includes making sure their parents sign the reading log/planner/agenda etc...

Well...you DO have to sign! Why didn't you? It just sets your daughter up for more frustration.

I'm a teacher and this is a common senario in my classroom. Have I said something like this, yes.....BUT the expectation was clearly communicated to the parents on parent night, along with the parent handbook that was handed out in the first week of school. Reading every night and having a parent sign is the ONLY way we know if the homework was completed. It is vital that every child reads every night...thus the reason for the reading log. Has the teacher communicated with you? I know if one of my students missing having the log signed for two days in a row, a phone call goes home (just like any other missing assignment). If she/he has tried to talk to you and YOU still haven't done your part as the parent, then I can see how frustrated she/he may me. And no, it doesn't count if you don't sign the log. Children lie. Plain and simple. You don't know how many times I've had them lie to my face...fabricating long stories of reasons it didn't get signed...only to have me call mom (with my student right there) and find out little johnny/susie NEVER read and that is why it wasn't signed. AND isn't a natural consequence?...if you don't do the work, you don't get the reward! And you don't know the tone the teacher took with your child either. I am very matter-of-fact when I say something like this. She spoke facts and consequences. I'm so tired of parents not taking responsibility for their children and immediately thinking the teacher has a "out to get you" attitude. IF this were my child I'd immediately talk to the teacher about it to hear her side. When my daughter (preschool age) gets into trouble at school, like she did today. I believe the teacher, not her. She lies to stay out of trouble. I make my child appologize and she is punished when she comes home.

Read "The Trophy Kids Grow Up" and you will realize we are doing our children no service by catering to their every whim and complaint. Everyone doesn't win and children aren't perfect. Call your child's teacher and do your job as a parent....sign the log so she doesn't get upset. It's not hard.

I would walk into the classroom and say it was your mistake, and that she did read it--and I will sign it right now.

The teacher should not punish your daughter for something that you spaced doing. That is mean and the teacher is being a bully...sad how THEY are the ones who are teaching our kids how to be a bully!

The teacher should have said to your daughter "OK. Let me verify this with your Mom" instead of being cruel..especially since it was only one child!

That's a bit cruel... the Teacher could have easily taken a minute to call you and ask.

I hope this will make you more aware of things needing to be signed in the future...

Wondering what grade the teacher teaches? I think this is one of the hardest lessons to learn in school. You don't bring your permission slip for the field trip you have to stay behind. You don't bring your homework you get a bad grade. You don't get the paper signed you miss the icecream party.

Harsh it seems but really these are some of life's lessons our children need to learn. To get it done, to bring it in, to turn it in on time. I have a friend that raised 13 children and it often surprised me how much she left them to their own (I was the mother that was always running to school to take their lunch because they forgot it. I was the mother that was always running to the market late at night because they forgot to tell me they needed to do a project and we needed supplies). I used to think she was wrong because she didn't help and assist and baby them more. But guess what? Her children all grew up to be self sufficient and capable at a much earlier age than mine did. My poor kids had a terrible adjustment to college because when they knew they had a project assigned they thought they could put it off til the last minute and pull it together at a speedy rate. Only thing is they never noticed I used to do a big part of their projects and the truth was while working on their own they needed to slate much more time for the project.

I think sometimes we can mother too closely. I think I did.

How old is your daughter?

Are these comments coming from your daughter? Is she telling you the WHOLE story?

Contact the teacher to get a full account before (perhaps needlessly) getting your panties in a wad.

you need to call a meeting with the principal and teacher. my son was having problems with his teacher and i called two meetings. i even had the guidance counselor in on the meetings. you need to do this right away and not to let the teacher get away with this!!!

I am sorry that this happen to your daughter. With that said its not the teachers fault. You should have signed the log. You can call the teach and apologize for not doing so.

How immature and self-centered can you be? The teacher should have just said let me check with your mother and we will discuss this again. That's it. End of story. I would talk to the principal she shouldn't be disrespecting your daughter and you by assuming that something isn't true furthermore she shouldn't be talking to your daughter that way. Good luck.

Did you hear the entire exchange between your daughter and the teacher?
Everyone read extra and got their parents to sign? Sounds too good to be true!
Sure, go to the principal and explain that you and your daughter did not follow the routine that the teacher explained to you and that you think your child should not have any consequences for that. Explain that it is unkind to make your child follow all the rules of the classroom and that all children should receive the reward regardless, It wont be the first time the principal has heard it.

I used to have to sign my son's homework binder. I always waited until homework was complete. One time, he finished homework, asked me to sign it and I said "ok-I'll be with you in a couple of minutes" as I was making dinner. One thing led to another, we ate dinner, my daughter had an allergic reaction, had to go to the ER, we spent a few hours there,and before you know it, he took in an unsigned binder. He missed a whole 30 minute recess that day. What did that teach him? Responsibility? Nope, he was already responsible. Priorities? Nope. His sister's/his health would always take precedence. Maturity? Nope. Nothing. It made him feel guilty and punished for nothing. Bad policy. Bad teacher.

In the real world, we all understand that people get sick, cars break down, accidents happen. Habitual lateness/unfinished work calls for consequences. Life calls for flexibility. Leaving one child out of the party for something she did not have 100% control of is NOT okay. Don't put up with it.

what a horrible teacher! I would go in speak with the teacher asap and put her in her place. It isn't your child's fault and she shouldn't be speaking to your daughter like that!

Good luck,

M

I just want to say as several others have said that you can't always be so quick to blame the teacher. Please call and talk to her. As an educator, I am a little frustrated by the parents who seem to think that it is the teachers fault that the child is not able to attend the ice cream social and that she is a bad a teacher and needs to be reported. As the parent you have to take some responsiblity no matter how busy you are nor how hard it may be. Yes perhaps the teacher could have called to verify. But if I had to call to verify every time a parent did not do what was needed in class there would be some days that I wouldn't have time to teach. Although I think it is unfortunate that your daughter was unable to to attend the party I think you have to take some responsibility and not just fault the teacher.

In addition, although the comment from the teacher about knowing your read but since it wasn't sign she can't count it, may not have been articulated the best way, but I think it was the teachers way of reinforcing the rule without calling your child a liar.
She acknowledges that your daughter SAYS she did the work but explains that without the verification it can not be considered valid. The check might be in the mail but until it reaches the receipient the bill is not paid.

Finally, truth be told most teachers don't like leaving a child out of some special event or trip but we can not make an exception for one child that we would not be willing to make for the whole class, so even when it makes us sad and it may ultimately have been the responsibiltiy of the parent we have enforce the rules across the board and sometimes it is important for the class to know that the rules are being enforced equally and fairly.

I'd talk to the principal. Children shouldn't get punished because of their parents. I know my best friend growing up got in trouble for not having her mom sign her progress report (not a report card) and it wasn't her fault because her mom owned a dance studio and was ALWAYS gone. The teacher seems kinda pissy... she should've called, talked to you, and it would've all been good. This is in an ideal world, but it's nice to hope.

Talk to the teacher in front of the principal. What can they do to improve your child's education and not bash her self-esteem...
Blessings, S.

Ok, did you omit signing?
Call the teacher and take responsibility, and verify that she did the reading, that should handle it.
best, k

well, i don't know if i like how the teacher might have said it. but as the other posts said, i would definitely check with the teacher before getting all upset. my daughter (who is in first grade) gets a sundae party at the end of the school year. not all the kids will get it because they have to learn all the first grade words. parents are supposed to help the kids learn them on a sheet that is sent home. some of the kids are slower learners. the teacher helps at school. but still some don't have everything they need. they will get some things. (for each unit of words they get a different part of sundae, ie, spoon, bowl, vanilla icecream, etc.) so while most kids have the whole sundae, some only have a few things. while i feel bad for those kids, i know i worked my heiny off with my daughter to get her those words. but if i didn't i wouldn't be upset about it. it would have been my fault. i put her in some rubber soled boots one day when the had p.e. she had to sit on a bench in 90+ degree weather in fl. i was mad, but at myself for doing that to her.

Call the principle and discuss it with her.