Tattoo - Raleigh,NC

Don't do it. NEVER tattoo someone's name. If you want something permanent, consider getting married.

Seriously, even wedding rings come off. NO TATTOO!

HI J.,

I love tattoos, and I wouldn't get anyone's name tattooed on me unless it was my kids' names.

Just my two cents.

I would not get his name tattooed on my body. I've been married for 10 years to the love of my life and I wouldn't even get his name tattooed on my body...maybe I just don't see the point.
On another note my sister had her husbands name tattooed on her body and when they divorced years later she tried to get his name "blacked out" and she says her tattoo is a constant reminder of the past relationship. So I say no!

Getting anyone's name tattooed on you (EXCEPT your children's) is the "kiss of death" for that relationship.

i would never tatoo a mans name on me ever. even if i was married to him

yeah I don't see anything wrong with a tattoo....my hubby has 2. But I don't think it's a good idea to get his name on your body. I'm not saying this cause I think you are going to split up or anything I just think it's in bad taste. If you want to show how committed you are to him you guys should get married, where a wedding ring to show you are taken and the two of you belong to one another. plus you just never know what will happen in the future. Like heaven forbid he passed away and later on you found someone new. Would he care you had another mans name on your body? Would he expect you to then get another tattoo with his name? I know that would probably never happen but......it's your body and I don't think 20 or 30 years down the road your going to want names on it.......Just a thought.

I have a friend whose body is covered with tattoos from her wild younger days. She wishes she could have them all removed including the picture of her daughter that covers her entire back. I would not get a tattoo.

I'd get an emblem rather than a name because you just NEVER know.

Dont do it. If you're love is what it is your name or his name tattoo'ed doesnt change it, strenghten it or prove anything. If its to express love or committment there are plenty of other ways to show the world...how about with some bling on that special finger? lol I'm just saying! I have actually considered my bf's name several times but always question myself as to why...Good luck in your new found love, keep it strong :)

I am not against tatoos, but I am COMPLETELY against getting people's names. I have been married for 11 years to a man I have known for 18. I would never dream of getting his name on my body. I prefer to show my devotion, commitment and love to him in other ways.

my suggestion would be to get something symbolic of your love for him rather than his name.... you just never know....a name is permanent and if the person isnt in the picture at some point - and let's hope this isn't the case - but for reality sake and we all know how relationships can be! A name is a permanent but at least a symbol can take on another meaning. If you want to do it for him, tell him the symbol reminds you of your love for him. :)

I have lots of tattoos! I have none of my husband's names nor my kids names nor my own name. I just dont see the need. I have important dates such as one of my sons footprints with his birthdate and two rings with our wedding date, etc. My husband's ex got a big tattoo of his name and now they dont talk and she has this mans name tattooed on her, they were never married, have no children together but she has a constant and permanent reminder of him.

Why not get a flower with a date on one of the petals? Or something a little different but just as special..

I like tattoos and have my own but my personal advice is to avoid a relationship tattoo all together. I kind of think that tattoos of names tend to look a little extra tacky but that is just me and I understand it can be done well...

If you decide you must go through with it, strongly consider choosing a picture that represents something you do together or something you share, or even something that reminds you of him instead of the name itself.

This early on in the relationship I would say don't do it. Now getting a matching tattoo or something that means something special to you both could work. When my husband and I had been married for 9 yrs we got a large tattoo that when we stand side by side forms a complete picture. It was after 12 yrs of marriage that we decided to the name thing. We will be celebrating 16 this year. Some are dead set against it and even tell me and my husband we have doomed our relationship. I kind of laugh and say well..after four yrs of it being on there I don't see how it has doomed us.

I love tattoos....and there is an unwritten code of tattooing which is...DON'T get a name tattooed onto your body unless it is the name of your child, sibling, mom or dad. But, if you are going to get it done get it stylized so you can't really tell what it is (like hide the name in tree branches or something) or get it in a place that can be hidden/easily covered and make it tiny. My fool of a sister (whom I love dearly) has her husband's name on her butt and is now probably getting divorced....I can't imagine her next relationship (I am sure she will have one) enjoying seeing "Jim" on her butt. I have a cousin who has three ex girlfriend's names tattooed on him...he is now married to another woman (her name is nowhere to be seen)...she doesn't like it and his friends and family think he looks foolish. Good luck with your decision.

I have my husband's name tattooed on my lower back. (Yes, I have the "tramp stamp", lol! In my defense, I got it before it was called that and I designed it myself!) I have the Chinese symbol for love and his name written under it. We were married for a couple of years before I got it.

I also have tattoos for each of my children and my next tattoo will be on my ankle. Two little blue footprints for the boys I gave birth to via surrogacy.

My point is this: Wait until you've been together for a while and/or until you're married. And lastly, make sure you're committed to each other. You've only been together for two years. Give it another two or so, and if you are still together and you still want it, then sure, go get it.

I, personally, don't believe in getting names inked on me. When I started getting tattoo's my first artist told me it's a bad omen. I started to notice that trend with a lot of my friends, who hastily got their BF's names on them. BUT...i also know a ton of people who have done it and have not split. So for me, I get something in honor of them. Like for my ex I got a star inked on the back of my neck (he got a moon for me). So....now that we are split I am morphing that star into something else...still to represent what I went through in the relationship. For my current SO, which like you we are not married, but I love him with all my heart I am already planning on getting something that represents him. He's really into cars so I was thinking of a play on that (like pistons, an engine, wrench..who knows).
This, of course, is just all my personal preference. If you feel comfortable then it's your choice. As some one who has a lot of ink, you can always cover it up if you split. Which of course I don't wish on you at all. Congrats on finding your love! =)

I didn't read all the responses. But what about, instead of his actual *name* you got a tattoo of something that represented him to you. For example, my husband was born in November, so I'm considering getting a daisy, which has always been my favourite flower. It's also my husband's birth flower (chrysanthemum family) and he used to bring me bunches of daisies that he'd picked on the side of the road when he'd come to visit me in high school (yes, we lived way out in the country!). So maybe something like that would be a little less obvious.

I actually DO have my hubby's name tattooed on me (he and both my son's names are tattooed over my heart)....and he has my name on him. However, we each did a design that would be easy to cover with something else or change "just in case" LOL. In your situation...I think maybe you should consider waiting a while.....or doing the same. I've also seen couples who each get the same tattoo (i.e. a specific heart or chinese symbol for love or some cartoon character you both love, etc). This way, its not specifically a name, but still hold significant meaning to the couple.

Do not EVER EVER EVER get a person's name tattooed on you unless it's your child's name!!!!!! Maybe you'll regret it and maybe you won't, but do you really want to take that chance? I love tattoos and have been married almost 11 years. We've been together almost 13, but would either of us get the other's name tattooed on us? NO WAY! We both have tattoos, but no way would I put someone's name on me. I'm glad you're happy and in love and especially since you have a daughter, I hope it lasts forever, but don't get his name tattooed on you!

I would only tattoo my child's name, not a boyfriend/husband. I'm sure yours is great, but maybe something that reminds you of him or is meaningful to the two of you, instead of his name?

my husband and I have tattoos that represent our family (like our sons and our love) without having each other's names tattooed.... we don't think we will ever break up, but why jinx it? you could get a picture or something that reminds you of him but doesn't say his name.... Just a thought.
but ultimately, it's up to you, isn't it?

by the way, another idea is to get his name on a ring for you and your name on a ring for him and wear it all the time... we do this. it's not a wedding ring-- it's on our right hands.

don't do it unles you want to break up. seriously! i've never known a relationship to outlast a tattoo of a name. baaaad luck!

Ive always heard this is a bad idea!! I wanted to do this though! My husband and I dated for four years and now have been married for 7 years. I wanted to get his name tatoo'd on me but everyone I asked said "horrible idea"! Instead I got an S (first letter of our last name) on my upper back with a tribal heart around it and tribal on each side. I love the tat, it symbolizes our relationship and even IF something were to happen my last name would still start with an S (and my childrens)... if it ever changes it can still stand for sexy or something fun like that!! Try to think outside the box, just in case!

I am all for tattoos and I have 2 names on me, but they are my children's names. I have been with my hubby for 16 years and would never consider putting his name on my body. My children are forever. And as committed as we are to our marriage and each other you just never know.....too risky if you ask me.

Your situation sounds slightly similar to mine in some ways. I got my husbands initials tattooed along with another design. He got mine also. We did them for our first anniversary and we love them! I think initials would be easier to cover up just in case in the future you guys do separate. At least that's how I feel about it. I would also hope that he is just as eager to get yours tattooed on himself.

I had one girlfriend who (with the luck of a BIL being a plastic surgeon) had her ex's name surgically CUT OFF of her ring finger (they used spacers to stretch the skin, then took it off like a body lift- a strip of skin- then sewed it back together). The other one turned the name on her ring into a different tatto, but now that she is re-engaged, it really looks funny to have a ring over it.

Both thought they were never going to get divorced.

You could do it, there are options if things don't work out, but I wouldn't.

We probably have all been in this situation but the honest reality is that until you are married, do NOT get his name tattooed on you. If I did that with the other guys I 'loved' when I was young, I would be in trouble. I am now married to the REAL love of my life and thank God that I did not do anything permanent with another guy I 'loved'. Truly, it is a nice gesture but an unnecessary one. You must know that anything can happen in the future and the last thing you want is a tattoo of an ex when you truly are in love. I am not saying that you are not in love with this guy, you may be at this time, but that does not mean you will be forever...and if you are in love and will be forever, why aren't you getting married? Just a thought.

I think getting a name tattooed is bad luck.

I am all for tattoos and love my husband more and more with each passing day, but you never know what the future holds, I wouldn't do it, for that reason. My childs name absolutly :) Good luck in your decision!

I do kinda get part of it.

When I met my husband, almost 25 years ago, I too was not looking. All men were scum, including my dad and brothers! OK, maybe not my dad and brothers, but I understand probably where you you coming from. We've also joked over the years that he was an experiment; so UNLIKE anyone I had ever dated but I had to try something different.
But I would, as others have cautioned, not to get a tattoo with his name. I'm not against tattoos at all, even though I don't have one. But you are still very young and a lot of things can happen.

go buy a braclet or something like that. if you have to have a tat how about a symbol that stands for him. that way if anything happens you won't have to pay to get it removed. have him tell you what his favorite thing is and go with it. that way if thing don't work out no one has to know what it means except you and him. good luck. R.

I have not read any of your responses, but I was with my ex husband for 11 years married for 10. And when are first son was born we went and got his name tattooed on us and he wanted to put my name on him and I said no because you just never know what can happen. Well 2 years ago we split up and last April our divorce was final and he is getting remarried in May so I don't think his new wife would like that lol. And now my current husband wants to get my name and I also told him no although I think this marriage will last forever because it is just totally different and I can just feel it and he is the "love of my life" as you know! But I just am against it hun. But to each its own. Good Luck

I am not against Tatoos, I have one myself...

I HOPE for you and your daughter your relationship with Ren works out!

Having said that...I would wait on getting his name tattooed for if you actually get married. Just my opinion:)

Best of Luck to you!

Congratulations on finding such a loving man. Just a little advise for you...I have been with my husband for 15 years and married for 11. Although we both have tattoos, we talked about it and decided that neither of us would ever put any name on us other than our kids. Not that we can ever imagine not being together but you just never know. It's permanent!!! Ultimately it's your decision, but take time and really think before you do it.

I am COVERED in tattoos, so I'm definately not judging on the ink... but I would never, EVER get someone's name tattooed on me. Not even my kids, not my family members, not even my own. NO ONE'S NAME. Ever. I would get something symbolizing him, but not his name. The closest I have to names are 3 hearts for each of my children, an 'R & R' inside the infinite symbol for me and my fiance, and my little brothers initials. Everything else on me is art... BUT NO NAMES!! I have never met a person with a name tattooed on them that they didn't regret. The only future tattoo I'll get relatively close to a name, is an R on my ring finger when we get married. Other than that, if you want a tattoo, stick with pictures and you won't be sorry ;)

dont do it, every one i know including myself that has the name of their "love" tattooed on them have either split up from that person or are miserable, its been told that when you do that you doom the relationship, you can do what my husband and i have done and get something to represent that person so that later on if something was to happen you dont have a name but something else for that part and time of your life, mine has a blue pawprint on his arm for me and i have a dragon on mine for him, just know it costs more and hurts more to get it removed or covered so really think about what you want but i would advise against any names that are not blood family or children.

That's so great that you found him :) So happy for you because it is the best feeling when you can trust and love someone 100% and you know you are getting it right back in return! But!! Haha! Okay I'm not against the whole getting the names tattooed BUT... you never know. My husband and I had talked about getting our names tattooed but I believe in the "tattoo curse". you know which one im talking about! SOoooo...I decided after we had our daughter, he joined the army (we have been together for 6 years now) and for him to make such a commitment to take care of his girls I surprised him with a tat on my wrist with the date that we started dating :) The date really means A LOT to us. It's a really long story so I wont write a book on here ;) But just an idea of a specific date that really means a lot to you guys. And you both can get it :) If your not into and decide you do want to get his name I would get it where if anything happened, you can cover it up ;) Just to be safe!

Really though, besides the whole "curse" thing I think it is great that you want to do that. Just like with my tat, it will remind me how I felt that day and I get butterflies just talking about it :)

Goodluck with everything!

i agree with riley - call me superstitious - i have been with my husband for 10 years and i have told him that i will never get his name tattooed on me - i feel like it's bad luck, just asking for the relationship to fall apart! go with your child's name instead :) oh, or i also thought today, about getting something with my mom and siblings. but i would never, ever get a man's name. tattoos are way too expensive, and waaay too permanent!

The only names I would ever tattoo on me are my kids.

I have tattoos and I love them. I have nothing against tattoos. They are a wonderful expression of your personality. That being said even if I could see into the future and knew that I was going to be with a person forever I wouldn't tattoo their name on my body. EVER. It just seems to put a lot of pressure on the relationship. Also I saw a Tyra episode one time of women who broke up after getting a "name" tattoo. These women couldn't get past the first date with a new guy b/c once he saw the tattoo of another mans name he was out. Maybe you could get a tattoo of a flower that is special to both of you or something representative of your relationship that is not actually his name. This way you are showing him he is special but if you break up only you will know what it means. Also I think you are going a little too far especially since you aren't married.

That's the kiss of death for a couple! Don't do it!

I have known several people who regret certain tattoos they have gotten, some being a name of a boyfriend/spouse. Unless its your kido or a beloved grandma it is not a good idea. You may feel like you may want to be together forever and it could happen, but better safe verses having to figure out how to fill in or to remove it. Go for a special piece of jewelry or something. It doesn't have to be a ring, I have a necklace that is symbolic of my daughter and hubby, and a locket with pictures. If you really want a tattoo go for something symbolic, at least then you don't have a name forever. Best of wishes.

I have seen lots of women with tattoos and some were quite lovely and attractive. I do think if I was considering getting one it would be in an inconspicuous place and not across my chest or on my forearm. Something cute and attractive.

I've been with my SO for 7 years. I can honestly say that it was love and first sight, and I could not imagine my life any other way. Between us we have 5 tats. We have both said that on our 25th anniversary we will get name tattoos, but not before.
I am however, going to get a tat that represents our family. A lotus flower for each of us and a koi fish for each of the children that have impacted our lives in a great way (we are foster parents).

When I got my tattoo [it wasn't a name], the tattoo artist turned away a guy who came in asking for a tattoo of his gf's name. I think they've seen this go wrong too many times. The only way I would do this is to get like a heart in red with my hubby's name not filled in so it remains flesh colored. I don't know if they can really do this, but I guess the pessimist in me figures I could always get the flesh colored part filled in if I change my mind in the future. =)

I would wait just a little longer to get his name, maybr just initials so incase you need to cover it for some reason it wont be so hard to do.I hope this helped :)

I have almost the same story with my SO. I am gettinga tat on my back with his zodiak sign (a lion) in the middle and our 4 kids zodiak's around it. I was thinkingabout getting everyone's names but decided this would be better.