Tantrum Toddler at Daycare

ask the teacher how long it takes him to settle down after you leave. If it is minutes, then he is just making a fuss over you leaving. If he cries all day or frequently, he probably does not like it there. go with your gut, if you dont like the teachers and something doesnt feel right, pull him and find new care. try picking him up early a couple of times unannounced. see what is going on, try to spy on him...if he looks happy, he is probably okay. if he is sad, not playing with anyone or if they are not treating him good, pull him!

I would try to figure out if there is something going on at daycare.

I'm reading the "Happiest Toddler on the Block" and it gives you a technique to use to help with tantrums. I just started using it with my 14 month old daughter and it seems to work on some things. I think I probably need more practice.

The objective is to leave your child feeling understood and respected by playing back to them what you think they would say if they could express themselves clearly. You're supposed to use short prases, such as "Timmy no want daycare, NO want, NO want. No WANT to go, etc" and you keep repeating this with the intensity of the emotion they are expressing until they calm down. The intent is to make them feel like you understand their feelings. I think the book is worth reading.

Good luck, P.

I would only worry if your child did not throw tantrums there starting on Day 1. If the tantrums are new, then that may be a sign this caregiver has done/is doing something wrong and this your child's way of alerting you to it. If, on the other hand, they've done this since you began this daycare, transitions are hard and I wish I knew how to make it easier. My son is 2 1/2 and although I preach consistency, sometimes the best plans still do no good... Good luck to you!

L.

my opinion? He hates it there. Try to find one he will like. If he is still throwing tantrums after a month, he isn't adjusting well and you should find an alternative.