I live in one of numerous apartment communities, Asian by race and have 2 young children. Latelt i have been noticing a rather concerning behavior from my neighbour (male). Our door face each other by not more than three feet! I often seen him in the car parking area fixing his car and invarably exposing half of his but. It is very uncomfortable as i get to see him always when i bring my kids from school. Today, as i returned from gym, he too arrived in a car with his girlfriend. He saw me sitting inside the car ( i was listening to the radio). He walked few steps infront, turned back and started jiggling his waist. Just in tme I realised that his private part was hanging out and he was shaking. His GF expressed her astonishment pointing at me to him and drove off. This happened in the afternoon. Since then i have noticed him either walking his dog or smoking in the corridor. He keeps making actions of clutching down.
Thank you so much. Its midnight I am still up! My kids room is near the main door. I have gone twice to check on them. My husband is worried of aftermath incase we decide to approach police or apartment manager. What if he continues to live in the same apartment after this! As I said his both our main door face each other and are just at three feet distance.
When i got kids home, i had to ring my husband to come out and escort us inside the house!!
I am scared. My daughte is 8 year old. She keeps gong out to play or cycle? Any suggestion?
I contacted the leasing office but the property manager was not in and was not expected till early evening. I left my side of the story to the staff and they promised to look into this and the property manager will call me back. Its more than 24 hrs... my complain hasn't got into their priority list yet !! To keep it on records I sent them a mail and have started looking for a safer community. I have four months to renew my lease :-((
April 02
Good news! The property manager responded . They have issued a lease violation notice to the resident ( in whose apartment the male is living). And the resident has promised the he would leave the apartment this weekend and not come back again! Phew!! Propery manager has asked me to report to them if I ever see him in the community! What a relief.
Thanks ladies for your kind words and wise advice. Love you all!
Call the police. His exposing himself is illegal, considered a sex crime, and a huge indicator that he could be a danger to others. You have children, don't wait 'til something aweful happens to respond to his aggression.
I can't believe people are saying to call the cops if he "does it again." How many times does it take?!? What, call the cops next time when he rapes a child?
CALL THE COPS!
It sounds to me as though the guy is a crude jerk. He may have just been being obnoxious towards his gf shaking his business at her not realizing that you were in the car. It is hard to know for certain. Either way I would avoid him and at the very least report his actions to the apartment staff. If it would make you more comfortable they should be willing to allow you to move into another unit away from him.
Are you meaning his genitals were hanging out and he was shaking them? That's called Indecent Exposure, and it's very illegal. If he does it again (Or even if he doesn't...you can still tell the police...and should!) call 911 and the police will arrest him. You can also get a protection order, after the police come out. That would force them to move away a certain distance from you. My father works for the city here, and indecent expose is an escalation behavior. Very few people expose themselves only...the continue on to other crimes. This is very serious. Do NOT take this lightly. You are right to be worried.
Report it to the police and the apartment complex. Report it to the apartment complex in writing with the date on it and keep a copy for yourself. Document in detail anything else that happens that makes you uncomfortable (just write it in a notebook and sign and date each entry). Don't let your kids out unsupervised.
REPORT him NOW and already, to the Cops.
EXPLAIN to your daughter that this is a dangerous man.
KEEP YOUR KIDS IN THE HOUSE.
This is lewd behavior or worse... and a person can be arrested.
DOCUMENT all of this.
Do not confront him, yourself.
He will only use it against you or worse.
Stay AWAY.
This is very... bad.
You could also report him to the Landlord.... what if he is endangering others?
that is a liability.
I'm not sure where you live, but you need to report this both to the police and to the Property Manager. I worked in Property Management for 10 years and this definitely needs to be reported to them. Take a written letter and hand deliver it to the property manager. Keep a copy for your records. Also, give the manager a copy of the police report. HE should be forced to move, not you. But that can't happen if the manager is not made aware of the situation. If the manager isn't taking care of the issue, then go to the management company. If you want to talk further, just email me. You DO NOT have to live like this.
Report him to the management of the apartment building. If he does anything lewd again, call the police.
I would think about moving if I were you. Good luck.
Report this behavior to the police. If he's doing what you say he is, it's indecent exposure and against the law.
You need to call the police and report him. Just imagine if he doesn't have a problem showing you his parts think if he's doing this to others or children! Report him! I would tell your apartment manager that either your family or this pervert needs to be relocated!
the police department has a phone number for non emergency you need to call them and explain the situation and then they are going to send a cop and then file a report and talk to the manager ,you need to talk to the manager and you can ask the manager to re-lacated you .Don't wait until something bad happens and is too late maybe you are not the only one that feels like that .
maybe with the report and the manager knowing the situation they will to ask this person to move out as soon as possible ,so don't worry about what is going to happen everything is going to be fine and you need to take the first step .
call the police-and never, never, never, allow you daughter to go out alone-imagine what he would do-he is willing to expose himself to you-in front of the whack job girlfriend-what would he do alone with a child?
Do your homework before you call the police. Here's why:
Yes, his exposing himself to you is illegal, but the police department has no time to chase "flashers". Your report is likely to be filed away in some cabinet for 6 months, then thrown in the trash. They just don't have time. So, your report is just paper that can't prevent him from doing something worse - neither can a restraining order. You want to take care of yourself. You know he's a problem, so you want to protect you and your family.
If I were you, first, I would check out this web site for registered sex offenders in Plano: www.plano.gov/Departments/Police/Registered%20Sex%20Offen...
If he is listed, well, then you call the police! Keep in mind that flashing you doesn't make him a rapist. It means he is crude, rude, stupid, and not someone you want living 3 feet across the hall, but not a rapist.
Second, let your apartment manager know what happened, but don't get your hopes up about them being able to do anything about it. Read back over your own lease agreement. They may have certain clauses in the lease regarding this type of situation. But, remember, they are in the business of leasing apartments, not negotiating disagreements. They may be willing to help you relocate to another apartment within the same complex, but you can expect all the fees associated with any move. If your complex is a large one, you may be able to move without ever seeing him again.
Really, you have little chance of being able to make him move. And, proving what he did will only entangle you with him more. I wouldn't risk my children's safety over him. There's a saying, "Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig LIKES it!"
Get a large canister of MACE, keep your children close to you, and keep calling your husband to walk you inside - and move. Sorry I couldn't say anything more positive. I guess the good news is that evil people usually do themselves in - eventually. Good luck!
I agree with 98% of the answers, but please get some good quality mace to carry. Also, for inside you home you can protect yourself with Raid Wasp & Hornet Spray. It sprays a chemical at least 12 feet and will incapacitate him. But make sure he isn't smoking because it is flammable and he will probably burst into flames :(
~A.
My advice is, if you are afraid to report it, move. I know it's not easy to move, but I don't see any other options in this situation.
I wish you all well :)
Call the police and file a report! I understand your concern about him doing something if you do file, but you need to be safe and keep your family safe. Also, check out www.familywatchdog.us. Put in your address and make sure he is not a registered sex offender. Protect yourself! Good luck!
I would have to move. I wouldnt want to continue living next to this creepo! Freaks me out, and makes me check the lock on the door just reading it. Even if you asked to be moved into a different apartment in the complex, he could still find you and sexually harass you.
Then I would call the police and report him, and I would also tell all my neighbors about him too. Maybe he will move first.
It's not suspicious, it's called "indecent exposure" and is illegal. Call the police and the apartment manager. Totally inappropriate and WRONG of him. He needs consequences.
So glad you decided to contact authorities. This is illegal. Ridiculous too.
Definitely, report his actions in writing to the apartment management. And, contact the police to make a report and ask for advice. (They may not be able to tell you what you should do, so ask them , "If I was your wife or daughter, what would you think I should do?")
If you live in a large apartment complex, you may try to have the manager relocate you in another unit far from this guy.
But, whatever you do.... MOVE. He may seriously be dangerous. And, even if he's not, you do NOT want him to have any idea where you live. Especially if he knows that you have filed complaints against him. No matter what it costs or how inconvenient it is, GET AWAY FROM HIM.
I know I would be very concerned...just like you are. Thank goodness you have a husband. Don't ever underestimate someone like this...take it very seriously. Take my advice and don't tell gossiping neighbors....it may get back to him and only aggrevate the situation. If you think this behavior was aimed at you and not the girlfriend in the car...than you SHOULD call the police and decide on a plan of what to do. "Cause after you open up that can of worms....it is going to be very difficult to live that close to him and he may confront you....so be prepared...keep that mase handy....and what does your husband say about all of this? Good luck to you and keep the kids under lock and key!
Call the police and the apartment manager ASAP. Keep your kids where you can see them for sure. This is wrong.
You have the responsibility to report the behavior to the police and get it on record. I wouldn't want my child or myself hurt by this man. Maybe he already has a record, if not you need to start one.
I know you live across the way, but get a restraining order. Your children need you to protect them and By doing nothing is putting them at risk.
Educate them on dangers of strangers. Men and women who expose themselves usually don't stop there, it can get worse. Your children should be aware of this man and if/ when they see him to run the other way.
Be a proactive citizen and a smart parent and report this behavior. If you don't this man may go further knowing he can intimidate you.
God bless you & your family. I have great empathy for you.
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Call the police and file complaints with your apartment manager immediately. What he did showing his privates to you was illegal and the technical term is 'indecent exposure'. He could be a child molester for all you know, get him out of there, and don't let your daughter out of your sight! I would tell all your neighbors too so they can be cautious of him as well.
