So Upset My Daughter Turned Blue

Apparently, my mother used to do this at the same age. She will start breathing as soon as she passes out if she doesn't give up beforehand. That type of passing out would be over in seconds.

If it were me, I would give her as little attention when she is doing this as possible. Maybe that would get her to stop faster. I might just pick her up and sit her on the floor or something so she doesn't fall over from a standing position.

Not fun - but just remember that she is probably doing it for attention to see how upset she can make you while she is upset. You'll get through this one - isn't motherhood fun???

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My daughter used to do the same thing during her "terrible twos". I know people are going to disagree with this method, but, I took a small amount of cold water, and threw it in her face, to take her out of the tantrum. My daughter was upset about the water, but, it made her breathe, and brought her out of the tantrum. Then she was upset with me, and forgot what she was originally upset about. I only had to do it once, because she knew what was coming, if it happened again. I would rather have her wet, than blue, without breathing. Just a suggestion! By the way, my daughter is now 12 years old, and this method had no long term effect on her at all.

Call me a mean old mommy but I use good old cold water in their face and no more fit! My mom used it with my brother, my husbands mom with him and his grandma with her kids. Never hurt anyone. Just don't get too much in their mouth. My son stopped throwing fits like that after only 2 or 3 times of getting cold water in his face.

My frined has been dealing with this for 3 1/2 years. They have done every test thinking seizures...kid is totally normal but has the tantrums. And has them every where...She just lies her down and when it is over the girl usually sleeps for about a half hour...good luck...let me know if you find anything out...I will pass it on to my friend

Good luck

My MIL said her oldest son did something like this when he was little. He would atually hold his breath until he was about to pass out. She asked the doctor what to do about it and he said let him pass out. He will start breathing again as soon as he does. All she had to do is let him pass out once and he never did it again.

My older son did this fairly often at that age- he was not doing it on purpose he would just get so upset and worked himself up so much. We took him to the pediatrician and she said that when they pass out they start to breathe so he would be fine. She did say to blow in his face when he is throwing the fit to startle him (I tried this and it worked once in a while) I also have heard about the water in the face- I never tried that but heard that it did the same thing. The most important thing is to not react to it since then they might start to do it for attention.

LOL... you brought back some memories with this about days with my son! Thankfully I have not had to deal with them YET with my daughter!

When my son would do this I would get really close to him and blow hard in his face- more towards his mouth and nose. This usually would get him to take a huge breath and all would be good. If that failed- I gave him a little pinch (the fatty part under the arm).... sounds cruel but it worked and I was petrified and willing to try anything. The shock would cause him to gasp.

I do like the previous posters idea of water. I will use that as my last resort if I have to go through this with my daughter!

I have caused myself to pass out in the past from pain. I would be holding my breath... I do not realize it! But my hubby would be yelling at me to breathe- poor guy. As soon as I started to go down I would gasp he says and then in midfall I would come to. Makes no sense to me! Guess the brain knows what it is doing!!!

If she passes out she will start to breath again on her own- typically... if not of course call 911 and do what is necessary. Once she is down though on the floor raise her feet (brings blood back to her core and brain) and just talk calmly to her. She will be just as scared as you are when she comes to!

Also, not sure how your daughter is... I have been doing deep breathing with mine in the very beginning of a tantrum. I will whisper while she is screaming and tell her to take some deep breaths. I have her close her eyes and just listen. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt! She does not understand time-out still so that does not work! I also sometimes will have her do some yoga she learned from Sprout on tv.... works for her and maybe it will for you also! And of course there are consequences for the behaviours she was showing in the end... I never just let it slide! But atleast she is calm enough to work with me! (i will admit this is new to me- I am old school and decided to give this a try and so far not bad!)

I really wish you lots of luck! Biggest thing to remember is to keep your calm about you no matter what happens! Blessings to you and yours!

Our son now 3 started this around 18 mos. He only did 3 times. After the first two times, my mom suggested goggling key phrases and I was amazed to find how common this is. you are to lay them in a safe area and they will come to on their own. I was not one that could do that so I had to step aside and let my husband deal with it. It worked...essentially we did not give in to his tantrum and he never did it again. The only other times he has come close is when he is really hurt. Also we learned when one might be coming on and we defuse it the best we can before the passing out phase. Good luck, but remember that it is common and she will be ok.

my daughter did this too at almost 2, the best advice i recieved was they cant hurt themselves by doin this and if she passes out its her bodies way of reseting itself. i got this advice from a friend who is also a PA at a hospital so i feel his opinion is a good and reliable one. hope this helps.

My kids never passed out but would do the same thing--scream and cry until they were turning bluish purple. I would blow in their face and it made them gasp. This is what I was told to do when my nephew was little. Passing out is the body's way of recovering and she will start to breathe again once it happens. Of course, if she is not breathing once passed out then I would worry. As another poster indicated, a little cold water on her face could help. A little flick from your fingers would not be cruel or anything though I would not throw a cup at her. This is a stage many toddlers go through.