Sister Having Female Problems-any Comments?

Ask her to go for a drive with you, then take her right to the doctor or ER...don't let her wait any longer....Good Luck!

The fact that the pain carries around her side to her back and that she has bloating is a concern to me. Fibroids are one thing - this sounds like something else. A common sympthom of ovarian cancer is unexplained bloating. It could also be a big old cyst. Either way, you are being a good sister and she should go to the doctor.

At 38 after I had my son, I started going through menapause. It's early so for those of you who say THAT CAN"T BE TRUE, it is genetic, my mom, sister and my grandmother all started there afterlife around that time and compared to them...I was the late bloomer.

Point I'm making is I had those symptoms as well. Weird bleeding with pain and bloating, etc etc etc.

I also think that at 38 she should be a little more aware of her body and would WANT the pain, etc to stop. If she has kids, use the guilt card. You're kids need you to be healthy, I'll go with you. I won't want to lose my sister...you get the idea.

Fibroids could be the answer, but what if it's something more serious...?

I say demand she go. And make sure you make good on the promise to hold her hand should the news not be quite what she expected.

Sending good thoughts your way.

Sometimes otherwise intelligent and sensible people can be unreasonable about taking care of themselves when they are scared. She's probably petrified of what the doctor may tell her. Could you just say - please give me your doctor's number and I'll make the appointment for you and go with you - (or stay with the kids or take care of whatever excuse she is using). SOmetimes people just need a push. But if you do that and she still won't go then you just have to wait until she's ready or the situation forces her hand. BTW - it probably is something very fixable like fibroids.....I had the same. Good luck.

Doctor Oz just had a show about this topic during the week. It sounds like the cysts that your sister has...but he listed all kinds of natural products to use to relieve the pain and the bleeding. Go onto his web site of past shows this week and look up the info. I didn't pay much attention as I do not have that problem. I hope she feels bettter soon.

Honestly, it could be her fibroid. My Mom had the same problems around that age and it was "just fibroids" and she decided on a hysterectomy to be done with them.
One the other hand it could be anything else from endometriosis to cancer.
In any case, you sister should see a doctor. BUT she is an adult woman, and I feel after you have told her to see a doctor, you need to back off - her body, her healthcare decisions!
If she is not going for financial reasons, maybe you can offer to help out? (if you can afford that)
Good luck!

Tell her to go to her Dr. Why would she put this off for so long? She is 38 she shouldn't need you to go to her Dr with her.

Darn sisters...OK, DEMAND THAT SHE GO...because you love her! While it could be a fibroid, or a functional cyst, it could also be one that is going to do damage by twisting tubes and ovaries.

Bloating can be from multiple things but if I have heard it once I have heard it twice...consistent bloating (bloat that doesn't abate after a week during your cycle) could be ovarian cancer. Don't let her be lazy or too afraid to find out. You love her and it is your job as a sister to make sure she knows how much you love her. Offer to go with her. If it were my sister and she wouldn't do it herself, I would call her doctor and tell them. And then I would ask that they call her.

If you are reading this and say...she has no boundaries, you are right. When it comes to my family and their health (even my Sister's...or Mother's or Fathers, Husbands or Childrens) I will always be in their face, as I would expect them to be in mine. :)

She should definitely see a doctor. It could be something simple and easily fixed or it could be something much more serious. The first thing I thought of, unfortunately, was ovarian cancer. It's probably not, but there's no way to know what it is unless she gets it checked out. Even if it's fibroids, there is help available for that.

it could be a million things, it could be an ectopic pregnancy. she should see a doctor

Hi M. Self diagnose can be very dangerous, she could have anything from a kidney stone to a yeast infection. Has she ran any fevers, have any chills? I was stick and didn't really know it, well didn't know what was wrong and I put off going to the doctors, untill my 23 year old son got indignit with me and just said you are going, had he not done that i very well could be dead, he took me to the ER 2 days before Christmas 2009 and 2 days after Christmas I almost died, then in January I went back to the ER at my sons indignet request, to find out that my kidney was ready to burst. Demand she goes, but offer to go with her and stay with her. It may turn out to be something simple but it could turn out to be something serrious like in my case. I hope it all works out. DON'T WAIT

There are so many possibilities, the first one I thought of was ovarian cyst. I would urge her to get it checked out, and as others have said offer to go with her. Try to find out her reasons for avoiding the doctor, it is often out of fear of a tragic diagnosis. But helping her think/talk through her reasons for not going may help you in getting her to reconsider that decision. On the chance that this is something serious (female cancers can often present with vague symptoms) the sooner it is diagnosed the better chance of a full recovery. I wish you and her the best of luck in getting to the doctor and getting these issues resolved.
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I do not want to scare anyone but this sounds like what happened to me and I had uterine cancer (one year survivor woohoo!!!). Because I finally went to the doctor but on time I beat this thing I hope. So urge her to get to the doctor. Chances are it is just a change of life thing and nothing serious. But just let her know it's a good thing to see the doctor. Let her know all of the positive outcomes that come of it, she is going to be more scared if she puts it off and finds out something serious. This way she will probably be told it is premenopause or something.

Her symptoms sound like what I had with my fibroids but for goodness sakes it could be something more serious. Press for her to go to the doctor soon!

See if you can get her to go for her yearly pap (even if it's a little early). At that point the doc might be able to uncover something or at least rule things out.

Good luck - you're a good sis to care!

Please continue to encourage her to see a doctor - and soon. There are too many possibilities for what this could be. Best case scenario it is nothing serious, and she spent a couple hours with a doctor. If it were just pain or bleeding maybe that wouldn't seem so serious, but when it comes with bloating that is a red flag for cysts or tumors. I just had an 11cm cysts drained on my right ovary and can't tell you how glad I am that I did not wait to call the doctor when my symptoms became obvious. If she has a simple cyst, it's a relatively simple surgery that could provide a great deal of relief for her. Heaven forbid a cyst could burst, she could end up hospitalized. Better to be proactive and manage whatever this is before it's an emergency situation.

Does she have kids? Is she living a normal life with this going on? Simply sit her down with another family member or two and tell her you're very concerned and she has to go. Pain in her upper left side which carries around to her back doesn't sound like fibroids - fibroids would be in/around the uterus which is down low in the abdomen. She might need to have an ultrasound to be checked for gallbladder issues. Clearly, something is going on. The heavy bleeding may be the fibroids but the pain in her upper side and back doesn't sound related. Get her to a doctor and let her know that if she goes early, it may be something that can easily be taken care of. If she delays, she could be complicating things/making them worse.

She just needs to go to the doctor and get it over with. Fibroids do cause problems and bleeding, pain, etc, but she could also have something wrong with her ovary.
I lost my left ovary when I was 19. I got a cyst on it that didn't break and just kept growing and it didn't respond to I.V. antibiotics so they took it out.
My mom had never had a cramp in her life, and all the sudden she had all kinds of abnormal heavy bleeding but was convinced she was just going through menopause and wouldn't go to the doctor. Then the pain set in and she couldn't stand up straight. She had 14 fibroids on her uterus, which they removed. Her uterus, I mean.
I have a friend who misses at least 4 days of work every month because of her period. She vomits, she has diarrhea, can barely get out of bed, BUT, she will NOT go to the doctor. She's 48 years old, her tubes are tied, her husband had a vascetomy years and years ago and why she puts herself through that every month is beyond me. This has been going on for several years. She says she wishes she could just have a hysterectomy and get it over with, but she won't go to the doctor.
I would offer to go to the doctor with your sister. It's best just to find out what's going on. She could be getting cysts on her ovary. I got cysts on my remaining ovary for years and they are painful, but they gave me antibiotics and I was able to have two children. Your sister could have endometriosis which is painful, but there are things they can do about that too.

I wish you the best. I just don't see suffering in silence or putting things off. It could be something simple. It could be something that requires a surgery, but these days, they can have you in and out the same day for most things.
She won't know unless she gets checked out.