Should I Let Go That My Kid's Teacher Is Ignoring Me!?

I taught school...and if you reported me several times to my boss...who would have then had to call me in and write me up on a formal complaint which them when into my permanent teaching file....I would be nice but aloof as well...just waiting for you to report me again.

Also if your actions caused a private school to lose a child that as well could have been taken out on the teacher if the other parents listed her as part of the problem as well as your daughter.

Leave the lady alone and thank God she is still kind towards your daughter.

You always go to the teacher first. Always, always, always!! She is never going to just chat with you again thinking you will go and report her for something you don't like AGAIN!!

Let it go and move on. Stop, drop of your kid and keep on moving!!!

Your daughter is in 3rd grade. I think you should give her some space in her school world. Why are you seeing her teacher so often in the first place? If you're walking your daughter into the school, to her classroom, or waiting around at the door at pick up time, please consider simply backing off. Let your daughter go into and exit the building on her own. It sounds like there are too many parents around. Let the teacher focus on the kids. Your daughter's teacher does not have to friendly with you. She doesn't even have to like you. And if you had gone over my head not once, but several times to my boss and complained about me before talking to me first in person directly, I would not like you either. Sorry to be harsh, I just think you need to understand why she's not thrilled with you, and simply accept it. She IS nice to your daughter. So yes, you should let this go. Try to not to have contact with the teacher unless she contacts you first. Don't volunteer in your daughter's classroom. Find a social or volunteer group completely outside of your daughter's school community. This is something I wish I had pushed myself to do when my kids were in elementary because it's not good when moms start to get too much of their own social fulfillment from their kids' school community and end up entangled in dramas.

Stop stalking this teacher. Why are you even there? Just drop your daughter off at school and leave. Parents of third graders do not hang around their child's classroom every day. This is so weird :-(

You've complained to the principal three times about her and you're really surprised that she's more aloof than before? Good grief. If someone went over my head to my boss that many times I'd probably avoid that person too! I have a schoolteacher friend who is seriously thinking about leaving her profession. Not because of the kids-- she loves her students. But dealing with parents has almost become unbearable.

You're at the most only a month into the school year, and she's already had to deal with major drama because you didn't respect her approach. Now you're upset because she's not friendly enough with you. She's not your friend, and any camaraderie was lost when you complained about her. She is your daughter's teacher, and her responsibility is to treat your daughter well. She's doing that!

I'm curious as to why you see her so often. In most schools in our area, parents drop their kids off at the front door. They're not allowed to pick them up from the classroom. My son has had a few classroom issues this year also. Do you know how many times I've seen his teacher? Once. And that was only because she was walking down the hall as I was walking in. She nodded at me, smiled, and kept walking. I wasn't offended. I knew she was busy managing 15 students. She emailed me once about my son. I responded back. I let her manage her classroom (and his behavior) the way she thought was best, and she was right.

You really need to back off. Find a hobby. Drop your daughter off at the door and pick her up there. And take some deep breaths!

I hope you can let this go, for your sake and your daughter's. I was a teacher, and to be honest, I would be aloof toward you too. You appear to be in the school all the time and have complained to the principal about her. She doesn't need to chit chat with you and has a million things on her plate. She does not have time to worry about keeping you, an adult woman, happy.

This sounds a lot like a question we had yesterday - where the parent skipped the natural process for handling issues at school.

You focus on the issue not the person. That's the general rule of thumb when dealing with conflict and problems.

You are focussing on the person. That's why you're frustrated.

As the daughter of a former teacher, I can tell you that they are the experts when handling situations that arise in the classroom. All the other stuff - they don't care about. They just want to teach the children. They want the kids to learn.

The parent stuff? They don't care about. Stop talking it personally. You're not her priority.

I tend to avoid difficult people in general. I don't know if that's what you've been - but you've already complained twice about her, on top of complaining about her methods. If someone had done to this about me, without approaching me first - I would be a tad leery of them.

That's just me. My feeling is, she did what she thought was best for both the students and the class as a whole. You are looking out for your child - which is expected. She has the whole class to consider. Just entirely different perspectives.

If the teacher is nice to your daughter than drop it. You sound like a crazy nut. Back off until you have a real problem. You keep adding fuel to the fire by showing up all the time. Back off and this whole thing will br forgotten.

I say this with kindness - you sound like you're paying way too much attention to this. The teacher might be picking up the tension from you and just trying to keep you at arm's length. Yes, something awkward happened, but it's time to move on and stop fixating on the teacher. Leave her alone! Your only concern should be how your child is doing in her class. If she's fine - and she says that she is - then let it go.

This is way too much drama and over-thinking for a grown woman to engage in. Your statement that "it really bothers me that she thinks she can treat me like that" says everything - this is about your bruised ego. She's not some underling who needs to defer to you, private school or not. She is a teacher. She handled a situation in a way that didn't work out, the problem solved itself, things are a bit cool in your relationship and THAT IS OKAY. She doesn't need to be your BFF. She doesn't need to stroke your ego with her attention. She doesn't even have to pretend to like you. She does need to treat your daughter fairly and teach her well. And that's it. Everything else makes you look like a tantruming , 13-year-old mean girl who goes around seething at perceived slights and thinking "don't you know who I am?"

Assuming that that's not how you are or who you want to be...chill out and move on. I'm sure that as a working mom you have way more important things towards which to direct your energy and attention.

I see a few problems here.

First, the teacher's "solution" to a childhood problem wasn't effective. Now, I'm assuming that the issue did not involve any physical attack, or bullying, or anything other than typical young kid arguments. If there was outright bullying or if one child hit the other, or stole something, the teacher should have taken more direct steps to resolve a potentially serious issue. If the problem was quite typical for young kids, there is a better way than sequestering kids, that could help them learn to get along.

Second, when a private school loses a student, they lose valuable tuition. The teacher may have been blamed for a family withdrawing from the school, and she may resent you.

Third, you are too involved at the school on all the wrong levels. You shouldn't complain to the principal, unless the teacher refused to meet with you when the initial problem arose. And you should have NEVER complained to the principal about how the teacher is interacting with you now. Of course the teacher isn't telling you any stories from the day - she's probably imagining that if you don't approve of something, or if you don't find the story funny, or if you disagree with something, your next stop will be the principal's office. The teacher is probably taking the steps to protect herself from being reported by you to the principal (and you still reported THAT).

Fourth, the teacher isn't treating you disrespectfully or rudely. She is being very business-like and perhaps a little distant, but...

Schools are there to educate children, not to placate parents who are feeling ignored socially. If your daughter is being treated professionally and kindly by the teacher, and if your daughter is learning and enjoying gaining new knowledge, then the job is being done.

I wouldn't go with a big apology and flowers and all, but I would demonstrate a change in attitude. Don't go to the school so often. Mention something nice and encouraging to the teacher sometime, like "my daughter really enjoyed the lesson on South America that you presented yesterday". Or "thanks for taking the time to help [daughter] with that tough math problem". Just keep it simple. Smile. Prove yourself to be a polite parent who's not too insertive into the school day. Help out if asked. Drop off and smile and wave otherwise.

Let it go. She doesn't have to be your friend. She only has to be a good teacher to your child, and it sounds like she is doing that.

In retrospect, I think that the issue lies here: If someone had a problem with your performance at work and instead of talking to you about it, they complained about you directly to your boss, would you be happy with that person? I think not, and that is exactly what you did. The teacher tried to solve the problem by keeping the girls apart. When you didn't like that solution, instead of talking to the teacher about your concerns, you went over her head, directly to the principal. And then you complained to the principal that the teacher won't be your friend? Oh my goodness. Read the 2nd sentence again. It is not her job to be your friend.

It's all water under the bridge now. Your daughter is happy at school and says that the teacher is not taking it out on her, and that is what is most important. So take this as a lesson learned. Let this go, and don't bring it up again, and stop complaining to the principal.

Yes, let it go. You don't want to be "that mom" at the school. I totally understand that your daughter was in a horribly stressful social situation. I know as a mom it is so hard to see our kids hurt. Good news is that the situation in terms of your daughter is reaolving. I think it is time to move forward and try and reduce any tension between your family and the school. The tension eventually trickles down to your daughter. If something majorly wrong happens again, talk to the teacher first.

I think it would be really weird if it didn't bother, but you do have to let it go. Forget the fact that this is your daughter's teacher. Forget the fact that your daughter attends a private school. Some people aren't going to like you. You can choose to let it upset you and affect your day, or you can chose to let it go. You can't control how this teacher interacts with you, but you can chose how you respond.

It's very possible that the teacher has had conversations with the principal about the way the teacher handled the situation and/or your complaints. It seems as though the teacher blames you. Nothing you can do about it. You just have to let it go.

I would definitely not complain to the principal. You can't make someone talk to you. If you needed to talk to her about a concern with your daughter and she refused to talk to you, that's one thing. But you can't make her carry on an in-depth conversation with you. You really do have to let it go.

I think you have to look at what a teacher has to do. There are lesson plans for all levels of students, there are activities for kids to do when other kids get pulled out for reading group or some behavior management issue or math help. There are kids with learning disabilities who learn in different ways. The teacher has to reach all of them. Teachers also have to keep on top of all the kids with life-threatening allergies, serious medical conditions, and kids with certain triggers that set off rages or other undesirable behaviors. A friend of mine had 6 kids (SIX!) with life-threatening medical problems, had to learn to use an epi-pen and a defibrillator and some other piece of emergency equipment whose details I've forgotten. There is bus duty, lunch duty, and paperwork for the district, the nurse and the special ed supervisor. They have to hand out flyers, collect permission slips, help the kid who can't find her other sneaker, and figure out what Mikey and Susie did with the pencils they had 2 minutes ago. At the end of the day, they clean the classroom, check for missing backpacks, straighten the bookshelves, sharpen the pencils, replenish the supplies, and more. Then the parent conferences start, plus the emails to parents (individually and group), the grading/reviewing of homework and the checking to see who is not excelling with this concept or that one. Often the conferences and communications require the services of a translator. Some kids come from homes with drug issues, domestic violence, parental abandonment, and more.

On top of this, teachers spend their own money on supplies and are constantly rationing what they have been provided. They have kids who have potty accidents and who can't keep their hands to themselves.

Then they have parents who call them about every little thing, including managing social relationships. If the teacher is getting nothing from a parent besides "Why aren't you making Susie and Michelle be nice to my little Jessica?" then they're going to lose it. That's one reason so many teachers leave the profession. They are not social directors, they are not in charge of birthday invitations or reminding Susie to take her lunchbox, and asking Billy to be nice to Johnny.

So my suggestion is that you teach your child some resilience, let her move beyond those silly kids who are excluding her, and go look for another child who is sitting alone. Help her learn not to try to force her way into a situation where some kids are being petty. Have her straighten her spine and move on. I honestly think you have to do the same thing with the teacher. Stop getting involved in every little detail, let the kids work things out for themselves unless there is physical harm going on, and let them grow up. It's okay for a kid to be disappointed now and then, and for things not to go smoothly every second. From failure they develop strength and skills.

I don't agree with moving the child to another class. That just tells the child she's a failure. And what makes people think the problem won't exist elsewhere? It upsets the dynamic of both classes and it's a terrible way to run a school system. Kids are put into certain classes for a reason - all kinds of balance issues - and it needs to stay that way. Instead, everyone must learn to cooperate, not just turn and run.

The biggest mistake in this whole scenario is that "parents were choosing sides." Good God, what teacher wants to be a part of that nonsense? And if she's hearing about complaints from you, that's going to drive her nuts. You're only in the first few weeks of school and already you're ticked off about stuff the teacher cannot control? I'm sorry - I know you don't want your child to be hurt, but you have to leave this situation alone. I'd be avoiding you and the other parents as well if I were that teacher.

ETA: Now that I have read B's post with your original question prior to editing, I see that your daughter is in a private school. I'll just add a few thoughts: I taught in 2 private schools with small classes. Parents pay tuition and often feel they are very empowered. They can be more involved than normal because their support and participation are needed. But it can go overboard. Too many parents get overly involved in the minutiae of classrooms, and they don't belong there. They need to drop off and go home. Really. The school depends on income from every student, so a transfer or withdrawal hurts the bottom line. That puts more pressure on teachers, administration, and the Board. Parents often feel, "Hey, I'm paying cash every month for this, so I have a bigger say." And there is the option of pulling the kid and sending her to another school that wants the tuition dollars and will promise the world. All of it hurts the kids.

M.,

Welcome to mamapedia.

What do you expect from this teacher?
HOW do you expect her to treat you?
Have you looked in a mirror to see how YOU are approaching her?

The teacher doesn't HAVE to like you. She needs to be polite. that's it. She doesn't need to bow either.

Your daughter is in the 3rd grade - you REALLY need to throttle back and let this die out. You are directly affecting your daughters future education. As this teacher will talk and tell future teachers to "watch out" for you and to beware. BACK OFF. Write her a note apologizing for your behavior. You went into mamabear mode and wanted to protect your child.

You NEED to listen to other friends. You are REALLY pushing. To the point where the teacher CAN complain and keep you from the classroom. Do you want that? No. I don't think so.

As to the other parents moving their child to another school...damn..I didn't know schools would do that. I had to pull teach and go to the school board to even get consideration to move my kids to another school because the principal was inept. Thank God - they ended up giving her an early retirement.

BACK OFF.
Be NICE.
Write a note of apology.
Let her do her job.

It sounds like the primary problem is solved. You didn't mention your daughter being harmed or bothered at all in the current situation.

Let it go. The teacher doesn't have to like you or be friends with you. She may not actually dislike you either but you're already a known entity in a conflict, even if it was justified. Best to keep those parents at arm's length.

Unless it is parent-teacher conference time or you have a direct question in regards to your daughter's classwork, you don't need to interact with the teacher often. I was on the PTO board at my kids' elementary school and I didn't even see or speak to my kids' teachers regularly.

Her solution was ill-advised. She doesn't seem to know how to problem-solve and she is a divisive person. That's pretty obvious. It is actually HER fault that the girl was moved to another school. She probably does know that, but would much rather blame someone else, even a little girl, for it.

One of my sons had a similar type of teacher. She pitted children against each other. She lost her keys one day and accused children of stealing them, even leaving messages on all the parents answering machines about it and threatening to bring in the police. She found her keys after she dumped the contents out of her backpack - no apology. The worse part was that she let the kids accuse one little boy in front of him and everyone. He became the scapegoat because none of the other kids wanted to be accused. Snowball effect... I wasn't the only parent to talk to the principal about this...

In your teacher's case, it's obvious that she has been called down by her boss for her attitude after your discussion with the principal. Instead of fixing it, she is angry at you for getting her in trouble.

Probably the biggest reason that this bothers you is that you want people to like you and it's hard to be hit front and center with someone who is with your family member all day long who feels this way about you.

If I were you, I'd listen to those who say to brush it off. She doesn't have to be friendly to you. What she DOES have to do is be decent to your child. Unless she starts being ugly to your child, I wouldn't go any farther with this because you may find that all the teachers steer clear of you. Most people handle it better than this teacher, but no one likes to get in trouble with their boss, and she WILL badmouth you to other teachers.

And I'm going to add here - DO NOT write an apology letter to this teacher. That is NUTS. She caused this problem. If you apologize, she will see herself as blameless and continue to problem-solve like this. Sheesh!

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"My daughter had an issue with another student. The teacher's approach (according to her was her own decision) was to not allow the girls to hang out or speak to each other. Soon, my daughter was being excluded by the other girls. Parents were choosing sides. And my daughter was losing friends. I asked the principal for such "rule" to be removed, & asked for another solution. To keep it short, the other girl's parents moved her to another school. Now the teacher seems upset at me like it's my fault that the other little girl was moved to another school. Teacher no longer says good morning to me or acknowledges me, and when I approach her, she cuts it short and forces a smile, but u can tell she dislikes me. Now, she always pretends to b busy when she sees me; instantly goes inside her classroom when she sees me walking in. Before, she would take the time to just say hi, and was so different and friendly. She only says "hi" to the other parents when I'm also there. I think she is doing it on purpose. I already complained twice about how she is being with me with the principal. Now the darn teacher seems worse. When I ask how my daughter is doing she says "fine" & walks away. When b4 she would approach me on her own, telling me on any detail or if my daughter said a funny joke. She would take the time to chit chat. Everyone tells me to "brush it off", but it really bothers me that she thinks!- 😡 she can treat me like that. Am I over exaggerating? Should it bother me? Do I need a hobby? lol My daughter says teacher is nice to her- please advice me. But it's bothering me! I'm taking it to my work and home! Should I complain again but in a formal letter? I didn't expected this from a credible private school. Pls b detail, I need some good advice. My daughter is in 3rd grade."

My mom had a rule.
If you can't play nicely together then don't play together at all.
I think keeping the squabblers separated was the right thing to do.
The teacher has 25 - 30 kids to manage.
Why do you expect she needs to micromanage her students social lives?
She's there to teach them.
Anything that gets in the way of that needs to stop.

I can't answer as to why the other student changed schools
(schools - not to a different classroom but a whole different school) but I'd think that if it were me I'd need quite a few reasons beyond 'my daughter and her daughter didn't get along at school' to change to another school.

You have got a chip on your shoulder.
I think the teacher has learned she needs to disengage with you because you can't keep the chit chat light and in passing.
"it really bothers me that she thinks!- 😡 she can treat me like that"
She HAS to - you've pretty much forced her hand.

Please stop obsessing about this.
Complaining, writing letters, 'taking this home and to work' - yes, you are obsessing.
Just cut it out.
The year is just starting and it's a long way till June.
If anything - you owe the teacher an apology - and I'd consider setting up a parent teacher conference to clear the air and ask for a fresh start.

In the mean time - get your daughter involved in an after school activity where she can meet people outside of school.
It's good to have a wide social network and making friends outside of school is great for everyone.

If she's treating your daughter kindly drop it. If she is not then I would ask for her to be placed in another class. Hopefully in time the teacher will get over it. If it gets worse schedule a meeting with the principle and the teacher and address it. But give it time. What grade is she in?

Your side is that the teacher is ignoring you. The teacher may feel that you are stalking her. Get a life and leave this poor lady be!

Before you see my answer: It looks like it reprinted seven times and I am unable to delete it at this writing. So sorry! Does anyone know how to do this? It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

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It sounds like you are pretty on target about how you are feeling and you don't need a hobby. The unfortunate part is you don't know what happened behind closed doors and if the teacher was disciplined by the principal, attacked by the other parents, etc. etc. I was wondering if you could share what it is that the altercation was about. It might shed more light on it. Are there any school social workers or someone else who give some insight? Sometimes we do think things that aren't necessarily the reality, but you know how you feel and you know your past with this person. I have had circumstances like this myself and even if called it out, the truth isn't always available. I recently asked someone if I did something specifically-they said no, oh no and said she was so busy life, etc. then after the heart to heart she is the same way. There are a lot of people on earth. Some will like us,some will not. I always have the hard part in accepting they don't sometimes. No matter what. So perhaps no hobbies but a little on a daily basis find other diversions so your heart doesn't break.

Third grade is hell for girls. I promise all my teacher friends refuse to teach 3rd grade.

I suggest you consider moving your child soon. This situation is sad,and not good for your child.