Should I Feel Slighted Because My Son Isn't Invited?

Definately don't say anything. There is a reason why your son wasn't invited and it is most likey superficial and ridiculous. Your son didn't miss out on any thing. If he feels hurt about not being invited let him talk about his feelings and let him know it will happen in life. Not every one he comes across is going to like him and it is their loss.

I'd take it as a clue but not take it personally. I wasn't invited to hundreds of birthday parties growing up and I'm still not. Haha. It's a sucky feeling every now and then but, I have a much better time with my family and TRUE friends anyway.

If your son feels like he missed a good time, then you show him a good time. Let him invite a true friend or two for burgers and arcade or what ever he wants - within reason of course.

This is a great learing lesson for him and you. Not every one meshes together so sweetly all the time. The best you can do is always stay polite and kind no matter what. Who ever can't appreciate that isn't worth thinking about. And, if there is a serious problem with your son and/or you that they have it will eventually come out.

For now, don't give them the satisfaction of feeling hurt over not being invited to a party. Your son has so much to offer and not everyone is worthy of his friendship.

Hi R., I don't know what the proper etiquette is in this situation but I just wanted you to know that I would be REALLY mad if this happened to my daughter. She is the youngest of the family on my husbands side and sometimes all the other cousins will get together for an activity (most recently, egg dying for Easter) and they wont invite her. It makes me so mad but I don't say anything because in the end it's their loss, right? Also I never let my daughter hear my talking about it because it's my feelings that are hurt not hers. Good luck to you. Jen L.

i personally would say something to the mother, ask her if there is a reason behind it. but if you don't want to confront her with the posibility of causing a problem for your son, you can wait to see if something is said to him about the party, and if it bothers him...then say something to the mother. i too would be offended for my child if they were being left out of get togethers with other children that they do spend time with. the only way i wouldn't feel that way is if my kid really didn't care either way, then i wouldn't have a reason to care. but if they are supposed to be friends, something would have to be said. i hope things work out well...let us know what happens.

That's a tough one. It is absolutely ok to feel slighted. But at the same time if you mention something it could cause some issues with the other mom or moms and then they may exclude your son for other things. It's hard to see your kids left out or not included in things.
I don't know what I would do in that case, I guess if I was faced with it I would have to think about it more if it arose. You could always tell her he overheard the kids or moms talking and he was wondering why he wasn't invited.

R.,
i think that you have the right as a mother to ask why your son is not being invited to any of this boys birhtday party's. If you don't you will hold this grudge in your system and its not good to hold the grudge. As a mother i think it hurts us more to see our children suffer cuz i know it hurts me to see my daughters left out of things....

I have been through this with my daughters. The older is now 16 and the younger is 12. She's the one with the difficult social life. I completely understand your feeling slighted and angry, but no matter how strongly you feel, take your cue from your son. I know I am more hurt for my daughter than she is for herself in situations like this. Does your son feel rejected? Did he know or even care about this other boy's party? Let his feelings guide your actions. I am also wondering if your son socializes with this boy outside the Boy Scout troop. Do the other boys? Has this child been invited to your son's parties or to your home socially? If so, then you might feel comfortable enough to ask the boy's mom if there is some problem between the boys (or yourselves) that you could work around. My advice is to either let it go or take action to work it out. And don't worry, we all have to learn to deal with situations like this, because they happen throughout our lives.

My first question to you is, "have you invited any of the other cubscouts out socially before?" They might be taking their cue from you. If you and your son have been hanging out with the troop socially outside of the cubscout setting then you are more then justified to be offended about not getting invited to the party. but follow the others advice and see if your son is offended about not getting invited. If he has a problem with the sitch then discuss with him how you should handle it.