Does this bother anyone else? every single time I send pictures of my DD (or post them) to my younger sister, she goes off on how she looks like someone else. First it was our baby sister who was killed at 18 months... she never met her, and has only seen a couple of pictures. Then it was that she looked like one of our cousins... then like one of her friend's kid. Now she is supposed to look like our little brother... She does not look like any of these other kids! AT ALL! I would understand if they had any resemblance, but there is literally nothing remotely the same. Our sister was blond, petite, and very small. The cousin is also blonde, short, and really chunky. Her friend's kid is mexican, and you can definitely tell. Our brother is tall, thin, and has bright R. hair and pale skin. My DD has brown hair, tall, and average weight with a medium skin tone. Is it really so hard to accept that she is her own individual person? I don't mind when people tell me she looks like her dad, because you can at least see the resemblance. And we are her parents, so it's to be expected. It wouldn't bother me so much if it was just once in a while of 'hey, she reminds me of ____', but it's literally every picture! I have told her before that it's annoying, and called her on it. ('HOW do they look alike?' (her) 'I don't know... they just do...' Blegh. This is really more of a rant, to blow off the annoyance I am feeling at yet another of her comments.
P.S. This will only bug me for about another 5 minutes, then I will be over it. lol.
haha. Funny sister. It's not worth getting mad about. It's just one of her quirks. I have quite a few family members that do the same thing... my sons look like SO MANY people, lol. Just laugh it off :)
I agree, it is annoying, but hardly a real problem, so you are lucky! In the future, stop sending your sister (and whomever else who does this) pictures, and stop posting them on FB, and then you will never hear their comments again. So the good news is that this is very easy for you to stop!
I wouldn't let such a small thing bug you. Others can see things that we can't see and I don't understand getting annoyed if someone points out a similarity in your kids. Heck I have done this A LOT, mostly with my second son because it seems everyday he changed and I could see someone diiferent in him. I have seen my dad, mom, myself, my husband, 2 of my brothers and he even went through a stage to where I swear, he looked just like my aunt!! Some people think people look like others and I don't see an issue with it.
There are times when someone barely looks like someone else I know but their personality or SOMETHING (can't put my finger on it) reminds me of the other person.
People keep telling me I looked like Katy Perry, I had no idea who it was. I looked and compared some pics with my hair down and was like AH! I do. I just ignore it b/c personally I think she puts on too much make up and not enough clothes.
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I would just let this go. Maybe it is her personality that reminds her of someone else, or something you don't see. I think my daughter looks exactly like my mom, and my mom just can't see it. My husband claims she looks like his side of the family and I say only in hair color. My SIL claims that my daughter not only looks like her but acts just like she did as a child (and my SIL is mentally crazy, so not something I want to hear). I just shrug it off, she probably looks like all of them in some way and that combination is what makes her the way she is. Next time, just shrug and say maybe, and leave it at that. The more attention you give it, the more attraction it is for her to do it. At least she is thinking of her.
Heehee. I have almost asked this Q a couple times recently myself.
I seem to notice family features in ppl that others do not...but I have been getting very irritated lately by everyone telling me that my DS looks just like my MIL's side of the fam.
Um, there is so much more at play than one gma's family's DNA in my kid's looks.
Maybe if they were not such goofy looking ppl I wouldn't be annoyed.
Maybe if MIL didn't get on my last blessed nerve...
IDK.
DS (who's adorable) looks like his dad and he looks like me. Not ugly ol' Uncle Jim Bob. ;)
I can def. understand how this could get annoying!!! She's her own person, not anybody else. My SD gets this ALL the time, but with "fighting" - it's each side of the family saying she looks like her dad, or her mom. She DOES resemble both (and has their expressions dear god). It's like they can't just let her be HER.
Buttttt with your sister, it kinda sounds like she just can't think of anything else to say. Just a guess but she's saying it for every picture, I can't imagine WHY else she'd keep doing that. Weird.
I completely understand how that could get to you! Thankfully I don't deal with that! Though it's funny because my bf and I have been back together since I was 7 months pregnant (my daughter is 14 months now) and he isnt her biological father, but people who dont know always say she has his eyes and she looks like him! It always makes him smile :) He is her true daddy though! I do however get told she looks a lot like my mother and she does! But thats not annoying. I hope for your sake that your sister quits doing that! Tell her you will quit sharing photos with her if she doesnt stop! Sorry I wasnt too helpful, but I hope things get better!
yeah...i think about 5 minutes is all you get to be annoyed by this one lol. we all get bugged by silly things...imo this is one of those silly things. try to let it go.
When I had my first daughter, someone who knew me told me that my daughter looked just like her grandpa. "Grandpa" by the way is my step father. Go figure!
When baby #2 came along, someone had the nerve to ask my husband in front of me while I was holding our daughter if we were sure she was really ours....because me and her daddy have dark brown hair and our beloved angel had white blond hair. What nerve!
I have noticed often our friends and family see things differently than we do so don't let it bother you. I have friends say that my oldest son looks exactly like me when to me he just screams his father. I told a friend of mine that her daughter looks like her youngest son (her full-blooded brother) but she doesn't see it at all. It could all be in the angle of the photo, the expression, whatever. If she see's a resemblance, who are you to say she doesn't even if you don't agree?
I recall seeing a picture of my mother when she was about 4 (and had short hair because she'd gotten a hold of the scissors) and that was the first time I'd ever seen a resemblance of my youngest brother to her. If she wasn't wearing a dress, I'd swear it was him! But she completely disagrees with me and gets snippy every time I bring it up. So although she doesn't see it, I do. Shrug. Just let it go. There are certainly more important things to fight your sister about. Or anyone for that matter.
My sister has a 13mo that looks EXACTLY like her at that age (and now, really). Her MIL cannot get through a day without saying how much she looks just like her daughter (the baby's aunt, though no blood relation exists) at that age. We just laugh...some people have to take credit for everything :)
LOL! I had to laugh when I read this one! I have custody of my nephew and niece, and they are my husband's half brother's kids biologically. So...... they are actually BLOOD related to my husband, and even our 2 older daughters. EVERYONE tells me how much our "son" looks just like his "daddy", (my husband), and how much my youngest little girl, (my niece), looks JUST LIKE ME when I was young. HA!! I have even been told that she acts just like I did at her age, so it must be genetic. (by my own realtives! Who KNOW that I am NOT BLOOD RELATED! I laugh it off, because honestly it's a compliment. Everyone has forgotten that the kids are not mine biologically, which is fine, and they are gorgeous. Our nephew does look a lot like my hubby. Our niece looks NOTHING like me or anyone in my family though, so it's just a funny thing that people say. :)
Does your sister have kids? Maybe she is just trying to say something (anything?) to "comment" on your pictures? Or maybe she sees the resemblance in an expression. I have ONE photo...exactly one, of my son as an infant, where (to me) he looks like a mini version of my middle brother. There has never been any other similarity in them. But that ONE PHOTO just SCREAMS my brother's name. And it isn't something my son is doing (he is sleeping in a baby swing), something I never saw my brother do, because he is older than me. :)
So, try to ignore her comments, and just give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she does see something that you don't. And it may not be something tangible (like eye color or hair).
