Sex Drive

From one N. to another. I recently read a great book called, Sex Begins in the Kitchen by Dr. Kevin Leman.

It's a good read and you might find some rekindling tips.

Maybe you are associating your intimacy with another child. If you are safe and responsible that can be controlled. Have you been tested for post partum depression? I'm no expert but I have had friends who's lives were turned upside down after child birth. Just a suggestion to talk to your Dr's about.

I have to agree with the other mother. Try watching something that turns you and ur husband on, me and my husband do it sometimes for laughs and end up getting turned on and having great sex. Me and my husband have went no longer than the 6 weeks after both our sons without it and on my second I couldnt wait till the appt. with my doctor. Sometimes if there are day I just dont feel into sex I opt for just foreplay and leave myself open minded for sex if I feel into it, if not we just please each other in foreplay. My reason's for sometimes not being in the mood is b/c even after the kids are in bed (my 9 month old goes to bed @ 7pm and my 4 yr old at 8) I find it hard to get out of the same routine feeling I get into when I'm being a mommy and hard to get into the desire to play, maybe that's part of ur problem also? Also it can be really fun if you and ur husband buy one of those card or board games or even maybe the sex dice and play a little game to intice one another. If nothing works then maybe ur doctor can refer you to someone that will prescribed u something that can get u into the mood. Another option is to look for adult toys that u both can try or oils that put you in the mood. Remember, don't be afraid to try new things...we loved trying anything as kids, so why not now?

Hi N., I had the same problem and my sons are not 3 and 16 months. After each of them, I nursed and jsut no desire to be touched and even have sex my self. The doctor is right, it will go away or come back whichever way you want to put it. Try taking a mulitvitamin or one fish oils or omega 3 fatty acids. Your kind of in a depression phase and you need the omega 3's to pick you up. I did this and Mine is back with no problem sometimes every night now. Another thing you can try is on HBO there is a sex show that comes on at 11pm. Watch it with your husband and you will have some of the best sex ever. I know it sounds gross but sometimes you have to resort to the unconventional ways to get it back. I hope this helps.

Hi N.,
I know exactly how you feel. I have 2 kids aged 10 and 7. I can't remember the last time I had sex. It is embarassing to say but it is just as you said ew no way! I was a very, very, sexual person before the kids and even after our 1st one. Now I don't really care I can live without all the hassle. My doc says my hormone levels are fine. I get excited at the sexually explicit tv shows, etc. But have no desire to get it on with my husband. We need help. I hope someone out there can help us get that old magic back...I'm in crisis.

I have a 2 year old and I still have no sex drive. My Dr has said it is all in my head and to try books, videos...I even masturbate all the time to try to get my groove back. I am discouraged, he is frustrated, we are even in counseling through our church.
The thought of having sex almost grosses me out. BUT - I want to be like I was before I had the baby...SEX GODDESS! I hate it for you. I hope your Dr gives you some advice that you can share with me.
I have gotten to the point that I just do it and get it over with...I HATE THAT! Then my husband pressures me everyday and I want it even less...we're working on that.
Good luck, and please let me know if you get a "cure"

Hello N.,

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