Serious Emergency Potty Training Help Needed

Did you try any prune juice? The suppositories and Fletchers are better than the juice.. but it might help still. She may be getting impacted a bit too so it might just mean a trip to the pediatrician. You may want to call a local Pharmacist also for more info. I work at a CVS Pharmacy and most of the pharmacists I have worked with would suggest most of the items that you have tried.. but they might know of other items that will help out more also.

Good luck!

Just a suggestion but I found that my little one didnt like going poo on the potty because it took to long and she didnt want to sit there. So I started putting her on the potty and explained its ok to go potty and read to her while she was on the potty and it helped her stay put long enough to take care of buisness. I hope you find a solution for her soon.

When BOTH of my kids had the same "potty opt-out" problem, we discovered that it centered around control issues in our family. It turns out that this is actually one of the few things (besides eating) over which a child can be in total control. Think about it...YOU feel overwhelmed and are in a situation over which you have no real say-so; your daughter probably feels the same way, but she CAN control SOMETHING in her life, so she does! Figure out ways in which a 4-year-old will be able to exercise her power of choice...WHEN she wants to do something pleasurable, WHAT she wants to wear (after you have given her a limited number (maybe 3 outfits to chose to wear for the day), HOW she wants to accomplish something, etc., just anything on her level that she has the power to control. I'm never very imaginative or creative, and you know how you child "operates." If you need a jump start, you might want to consider going to someone who specializes in just such situations. I had to resort to this and, believe me, there's nothing shameful or weak about this decision, plus it sure beats a trial-and-error approach that's probably going to wind up with more family stress! You'll probably get some help feeling better about your situation and yourself, too. "If Mamma ain't hapy, ain't NOBODY happy!" Good luck and keep in touch!

I am not sure if this will work but trying it will not hurt. I know that when my oldest was a baby she wouldn't go poop for almost 3 weeks straight. It is different when you are a baby and a 4 year old but the doctor told me to give her sweet water. In an 8 oz class, fill it up with about 6 ozs and then put about 2 tsp of Karo syrup. I am not sure why but it worked for her! Also, I know that eating raisins, corn, peanuts, and also coffee works for me, because I am not regular. Try that and see what works and let me know! Wish you luck!

Hi S., I have twin 4 year old boys and one potty trained with no trouble, the other, well that was another story. He would pee in the potty but not poo. He, too, would hold it for days. I did finally take him to a gastrointerologist. She was great and he really liked her. (Dr. Condina) She put him on a Miralax regiment and very high fiber diet. She recommended 20 grams of fiber a day, which is hard for a kid who doesn't eat. But she said the blockage in his intestines would get harder and harder the longer it stayed in and thus the harder it is for them to pass it. It hurts and they get scared to go. It also pushes against their bladder which makes just urinating difficult. She may not like doctors, but you need to have this addressed. It could cause furhter damage if not taken care of. Good luck. By the way, my son is doing great now, hardly has had any accidents. The best to you and your husband also. Just take a deep breath and try to find a few moments a day for yourself. Be realistic and set goals for yourself. Instead of jumping into some unrealistic goals, try changing one thing at a time. "Denial diabetic", aye? If you possibly are, watch your diet. You need to take care of yourself to be able to take care of your husband and daughter. If your health fails, who will be there. Start taking your daughter on a short walk nightly. The fresh air will clear your head and you can do adventure sittings with her. Kids love it. We go out looking for frogs. 15 minutes tops, but its a start. Lay off sodas if you drink them!! Good luck S., I know it gets overwhelming some times. Bless you. R.

I know that taking her to the doctor may be traumatic, but 2 weeks without a bm can be very dangerous. If she becomes too backed up she could become septic and that could cause several other serious health conditions. She really needs to see a doctor.

I think you should take her to the doctor... 3 days is usually the min. for BM's... Is her tummy hard? Is it bloated? Is it warm to the touch? If you listen to her tummy do you hear bowel sounds? ( I had ulceritive colitis) I really would suggest calling your doctor...I will be praying... Let me know what happens.
K. J.

sorry i dont know what to tell you about the poo thing, but i know you need to take her to the doctor. if nothing is working to get her to go. i mean you gave her all that and still nothing, something serious could be wrong. my child has poo problems and had to see a specialist. trust me its not pretty. they said she sould go every day at least once but if not they can go up to three days. but i really think you should at least call the doctor and let them know whats going on. maybe they can give you some advice as well
-T.

Hi S.. I'm sorry to hear that you're having trouble with the potty training. Something that really helped motivate my son was a DVD called Potty Time with Bear. Our librarian recommended it and although I was sceptical about a DVD helping with potty training, it did and does.
About the other issue you mentioned - something that has always worked for us is half a dozen dried prunes soaked in a little water overnight and eaten in the morning.If your daughteer doesn't like them as they are you could cut them up and mix them in her yogurt/cereal/oatmeal......
On the whole, letting go helps. The more of an issue it is for you, the worse things tend to get.
Last but not least - you not only deserve, but also need some time out just for you. Please take it now, and don't wait.I know it seems impossible to you in your situation - but it will do all of you good. And deep down you know it is possible. If you had toothache you would find the time to go to the dentist - this hurts different but it gets just as bad. Make it a part of your week.
Good luck.

S. does she go potty in her pull-up or Diaper?
if not i would get a diaper and see if she will go in it for comfort becasue 1 if she is holding it in because she is scared or something this can be a bad issue and cause health problems.
it might help to ask her if she is scared of the water coming up on her when POO hits the water and it splashes. does that make sense and 2 if that is not the reason then maybe she is backed up and needs professional HELP, i would try and see what the Dr. says!
i hope this helps you.

You'd better call the Dr. That can be dangerous.

My friend's daughter started not going when she started pre-school. My friend started noticing "streaks" in her panties and started asking her about it. Her daughter then told her she "couldn't go." They actually had to go to a doctor to get some help and then she was put on a schedule to sit and try. (My friend bribed her daughter with a quarter a sitting.) All was well in a few weeks ... but they did have a couple more instances. Her daughter was holding it and was getting blocked.

Do you have your daughter back in her diaper or pull-up? In that you have already given her a suppository AND if she is indeed in her diaper/pull up, I would definitely take her to the doctor. Your daughter may not feel comfortable going poo in the toilet. Now, she may be blocked to the point where she needs additional help.

Hope this helps.