Hi J.,
Well, my mom was a mom long before any self-help books were out regarding how to raise a shy child. This isn't going to be very popular with most people, but I have to tell you, when I was shy and didn't want to do something, my mom said, "Tough, get out there and do it." When there was a new kid in school or on the block, my mom made me go introduce myself and ask her to play. And guess what? Turns out, I'm not scarred for life like I thought I was going to be! I am a well-adjusted, gregarious, friendly, outgoing, bubbly person and I love meeting new people and taking on new challenges. I have 4 girls and my 5 year old is shy as well. At home she's crazy, nutty, funny, wild and a blast to be around, but when we go somewhere, it takes her a while to warm up to her surroundings. Guess what I tell her? Yep. "Tough, get out there and do it." And she does....and she has a blast. I'm not a heartless mother. I just know life comes at you whether you're ready or not, so it's better to teach them to deal with it instead of letting them pick and choose what they want to do. Of course, I do pick my battles. If it's something that's just not worth it, I don't bother. But if it's something that's a life lesson, then she doesn't get out of it. I don't want her to learn to manipulate and use the shy card to get out of things she just doesn't want to do. I already see a huge change in her from when kindergarten started in August this year to now, and I love it. I want everybody to know the wild and crazy, funny girl I know. Short term difficulty for long term results. God bless.