Hi, M.:
I feel your pain!! I've got 2 children who are facing DISD (one 3 y.o. special needs - PPCD - and one almost 5 y.o. - Kindergarten) within the next several months, and I've been terribly disappointed in my previous meetings with the administrators. Also, the folks "higher up" (area/district supervisors) *rarely* return my phone calls, and the quickest they've ever gotten back to me is 3 days after my initial call (usually its closer to a week or more). I WANT to make DISD work for my kids (after all, we pay for it each year with a significant portion of our taxes!), but they insist on making things difficult, inflexible and time-consuming for concerned parents.
At this point, I've chosen to home school my soon-to-be Kindergartener, and we're requesting only certain of the special needs services (specifically speech therapy) for my 3 y.o. son, as the PPCD school in our area is an unacceptable environment for him.
I wish I could do more to help change things, but truly, I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall when it comes to talking to these folks. At the end of the day, I have to be able to say I'm making the best educational choices for my kids, and if that means bypassing DISD (at least for the time being), then so be it. We don't want to move, and we don't have the $$ for private school, so our options are limited. I'm actually a qualified teacher and taught for several years (before kids!), so home schooling is our best bet.
Best,
LisaB