D.M.
Hi S.. To put it bluntly ... then this OB is NOT the OB for you! I live just over the border in Rockland - about 20 minutes from Dumont and I know a few practitioners who will do VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). One is at Palisades General south of you and the other is here in Rockland at Good Sam in Suffern. Both relatively close enough. NJ has the highest c/s rate in the country so I'd advise you to really closely consider who you want and trust to birth this baby with as the odds are not in your favor.
That said, I had a VBAC myself and can totally understand wanting one and fighting for your rights to have one. Follow your gut and listen to your heart!! You can do it. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk further about it. Fondly, D. M. www.nyackbirthservices.com