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Ed Edd, Eddie is trash, also Bart Simpson's Penis in the Simpsons movie, may have had the kids laughing in the theater, but having my 3 year old take notice, say that boys Penis is on the window is sad too, That should have been edited from that movie. G.

M.,

Don't kid yourself that he didn't get this from "childrens TV". The reason I cancelled our expanded cable was for the content of cartoons. The one epidose of "Ed, Edd, & Eddie" that stands out in my mind was centered entirely around mooning people. The boys on the show mooned each other and pedestrians the whole show...and my 4-yo thought it was hilarious. Be sure you know what is going on on the boob tube!

K.

This may sound tough to some moms, but you need to discipline him. Young kids/toddlers learn from cause/effect. You've told him it's wrong to talk like that. Decide what the consequence will be if he does it again, and tell him the new rule. He could be sent to his room for 15 minutes, spanked, sent to bed early, favorite toy taken, etc. I'd make it something immediate. Be ready to give him the consequence, I'm sure he'll test it.

Good luck.

M.

I have 2 grandchildren that are bipolar and they have a real issues with the same subject. I started watching some of the cartoons they are allowed to watch, and I was floored at some of the actions on the cartoon characters. Spongebob, is one of the worst. Our grandchildren are not allowed to watch this at our home. You need to really sit down and watch some of the shows, cartoons, they watch. I also think some of it is probably normal. Just keep reenforcing the right and wrong. Hopefully they will move on to a new adventure.

Good Luck

When my daughter was about 4 she matter-of-factly informed me that women have prettier butts than men and wanted to know why women's hips sway when they walk and men's don't -we were in the Target parking lot. She liked the difference in movement. I wouldn't assume it's sexual (inappropriate?) because he's a boy. I also think it's a phase, but just like anything else, we have to teach them what thoughts they should keep to themselves in public (why am I laughing here?). ah, the things kids blurt out! By the way..we DO NOT watch sponge bob!!!

Good luck!

You have some good advice below, but I would also add that many cartoons are heavy on the body humor -- farting, ripped pants, showing underwear, etc. There's often a big focus on butts! You might want to check out his TV diet (just 'cause it's for kids, doesn't mean it's good for kids) and see if you need to make any changes. Some "clean" programming you could look for -- Between the Lions (PBS), VeggieTales videos (check the library), Thomas the Tank Engine (again, check library & also TV listings). Those are a few. Watch out for shows like Sponge Bob Square Pants (there's even a whole show about ripped pants/butts), Rugrats, Simpsons, etc.
I wish you the best.

You need to sit down and watch the cartoons with them. Some of what they see IS NOT FIT for children to watch. Just because it is a cartoon or cartoon network, doesn't mean it's decent for children to watch.

This is from a grandmother, who did just what I told you to do and I was astonded and shocked at the content of many of the cartoons they show on the children's channels. Be careful and prayerful over the programs they see.

R. G.

As a preschool teacher I can tell you this is a normal issue, however, as a parent it's quite embarassing. My best advice is this--he has found out that it gets him attention from you and is shocking and upsetting! It is normal for him to use this as a means to get attention. Kids love to get the attention and focus it on themselves. You have done what you can to let him know this is a bad decesion and that he shouldn't do this the next step is to ignore it as much as you can. Obvoiusly you can't ignore it if he is saying this to other people but try talking to him like this--Why do you want to see their behinds? What would you like to see? How about if we do this instead--It's something to try.

My ex-step son that was 3 when he saw a girl in a dress he would run up and pull the dress up and sneek apeek. We were like you with inappropriate stuf at home etc. I think it is a phase. Unless he gets worst I wouldn't worry about it. Just keep reminding him what is right n wrong and this too shall pass. KIDS God lovem

My 4 year old son is obsessed with boobies. He talks about them all the time. I used to be able to change in front of him but now I have to go into a room and lock the door. He doesn't ask to see them or see anyone else's but he does talk a lot of about them. I think its just a phase and hopefully will soon grow out of it. I know it can be frustrating. We don't watch anything inappropriate in front of our children either, but like I said, it might just be a phase and hopefully he will snap out of it.
Just keep telling him it isn't nice to ask women/girls that question. I think you are doing a terrific job. Good luck!
Sorry I am not much of a help though.

When he asks girls/women to show him their butts what kind of response does he get? If they laugh that will encourage him to continue. I'm learning that with 3 yr olds (I have a 3 yr old girl) you have to repeat yourself over and over and over before they get it! So just consistently tell him, that is rude or you could try sassy spray every time he asks someone to show him her butt (water and vinegar in a small spray bottle you can carry with you) The issue you are having to repeat just happens to be somewhat embarassing-although pushing a cart in wal mart with a screaming 3 1/2 yr old in it isn't embarassing in the least right--LOL!

I have the same problem. My son was about 3 when he started obsessing over peoples private parts... now he is 7 and yes he is still doing it. I don't know what to do either. He is at an age that he understands not to do it in public, but when we get in the car he's like "I like that ladys butt" I just reinforce the rules about peoples private areas. He has gotting better.. I just use time out to correct him.
Good luck. I have 3 kids and he is my baby and the only one who is like that. My kids are not big on TV they do sometimes watch cartoons, but not often. They are to buzy playing outside..

Three and four year olds go through all kinds of obsessions that really are funny later on. Do't worry about it at all. Just ignore him. Both of my boys did this. In fact when my younger son was three he would always yell out, "Shake that bubble butt!" Very embarassing.

It will pass.

I have a 4 year old boy going through the same thing, he thinks it is hysterical to see people get dressed. They are just going through a phase of exploring bodies. You can look up alot of info on the web about it. My 5 year old daughter atleast asks if she is curious. Try asking him if there is something he would like to know about peoples bodies and just keep reinforcing that asking those types of questions is innappropriate and there are certain body parts that are peoples own special areas not to show off to the world. He is just curious I wouldnt worry too much. Those with children know, my son is also obsessed with touching womens breasts,lol. I know he thinks of them as a comfort thing so I try not to shy him away but tell him not to grab people,just hug them. They will grow out of it (hopefully).

M.,
Kids are hilarious! My son went through a similar phase as well. He never watched anything innapropriate either. He watches SpongeBob now, but did not at that time. Anyway, I did not realize the extent to which he liked butts until I looked on my cell phone one day and noticed that he had gotten it from me in the store and took about 12 pictures of some random women's but in a store one day. I just thought he was playing with my phone the whole time. There were shots from many angles and they were very obviously focused in on this woman's butt. I just let it go and never said anything. Now he is 6 and over it completely. However, I just noticed today that he was talking about a girl from school a little more tenderly than he ever has before...oh boy, here we go. Phases, Phases Phases. Don't stress, just try and run before he asks anyone to see their booty in the store! Kids are so funny.

A.