G. - Before I give my opinion, I just want you to know that it is only an opinion. I went through all this stuff before and I know how all-consuming this is in life. What helped me in my divorce/custoday situation was I had amazing people who were very frank with me in giving opinions. It worked for me and now I like to return the favors. So please know that my opinions stated below are not to be taken as an attack on anyone, it is my honest opnion given based on personal experience and professional experience as I worked in the family law area for over 10 years. With that said, the following is my opinion:
My opinion is that at 2 1/2, a 2-2-3 shared schedule is consistent and its a "schedule". It just doesn't work for you, but you will adjust to the schedule as will your son. 35 miles is quite a distance for the drive and I am surprised that the Court granted this, but your son is not in school yet and I'm sure that the Court does not intend for this to be the life schedule, it's just for now. Your baby's dad has the right to be with his son, just because he works, doesn't make him unfit to participate in your son's life. I raised 2 girls and worked and their dad worked. My kids had to go to daycare while we worked (even when we were married). So do lots of kids! My youngest was 2 and my oldest was 4 1/2 when their dad and I got divorced, now they are 22 and 19 and doing well. Kids need both parents and in a lot of families today both parents need to work. 5:30 is not late to be getting home from work/daycare. In fact, considering he lives 35 miles away, it's pretty darn early! I have friends who have babies under 2 and they don't get home from getting their children until 6:00. You make the schedule around life, not life around a schedule.
What I do think you should do is either ask the Court to make this Order temporary until your son reaches kindergarten age at which time your ex-husband would need to alter the visitation schedule and perhaps pick your son up from school a couple of days during the week and return him to you by 6:30 p.m. so you have time to spend with him and get him ready for school the next day, or you could give it a year or so to see if you and your son do adjust to this schedule and then, go to Court again and request a change in visitation. In the end, when your son is ready for "school" one of you will have full time during the week. Maybe your ex will want to move closer so your son can still enjoy his life with both parents actively participating in it, which is "totally normal", but your son will only go to one school. The Court would not send your son to 2 different schools. That will not happen. Pre-school/daycare maybe but actual school, no. I don't think the State would allow this to happen.
This is all only my opinion, you can heed my advice, or ignore it. But you do need to think of your son first. I feel from the writing in your request this is more about you not wantng this than it is about a 2 1/2 year old, not wanting it, just my opinion.
Best of luck to you and your son.