Secondary Infertility - Portland,OR

THe first person i would go see is Dr. Sarah Whiley ###-###-#### she specializes in Mayana Abdominal massage for infertility & pregnancy. Amazing, great results. Good luck!

I would stay away from a fertility clinic, to be honest. It's disenchanting to see that conventional fertility docs will throw Clomid at just about any problem and then jump to invitro without any attempt to find or get at the root cause of the problem. I think acupuncture can be great. Perhaps ask around for someone who specializes in fertility. Also, I recommend making an appt. with Tami Lynn Kent <www.wildfeminine.com&gt; who can work with you to heal from your miscarriage and become ready to carry another child. She has written a book entitled "Wild Feminine" which is really an amazing book. Another book I would recommend is specifically about secondary infertility--it's almost a memoir--called "Inconceivable." The author does eventually conceive, but after conventional fertility treatment has failed. Good luck!

Read this entire thing before you dismiss the book-How to choose the sex of your baby. It really works, not just for "chosing" but for conceiving in general...here is my proof:
1. My husband and I followed the book trying for a boy. We got pregnant the first try (our 2nd pregnancy).
2. at the same time my friend had been trying for their 2nd for months and what she would tell me they were doing didnt match the book at all (they had tried for 11 months with their first). She took the book and read it (skipping the chosing sections as they didnt care either way) and got pregnant on the first try after!
3. My boss's daughter has been trying for over 6 months and couldnt get pregnant. I had my boss send her a copy and Bingo! First try after the book! They tried for a boy, so we will have to wait and see on that one!

All of that said, sometimes no matter how experianced we are we just forget some of the basics and we get so frustrated that we send ourselves into a frenzy. Get a copy of the book, read it (skip the selection chapters if you dont care about that, the book tells you when they are coming next) and give it a try! If I remember right, there are also sections for if you are over 34...Certainly wont hurt your chances! :) Best of luck to you!

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That is very difficult. I also had secondary infertility & had 3 miscarriages after the birth of our son (2 between 10-11 weeks). Given your age, your husband is probably right -- you have nothing to worry about. Having said that, you live in an area that undoubtedly has excellent medical doctors. I would go to a fertility specialist, so that they can do some basic bloodwork. I found that my thyroid was off, which can contribute to miscarriages. The fix is very easy -- a little pill every day. Or your hormones may be slightly off, especially given the time of your miscarriage. Again, there are hormones that fix that (they are inexpensive). Good luck. Our story ended with the adoption of a beautiful baby girl, who is now 5 mos. old. It has been nothing but a positive experience.

I suffered from Secondary Infertility as well and had 2 losses between my first daughter born 1/97 and my second daughter born 5/02. What i learned from me was that I suffered from PCOD (some refer to it as PCOS), for me weight and stress were also issues, literally I lost 40+ pounds, exercised and ate healthier and then it happened. I would suggest that you relax and stop stressing b/c that will have an effect on your body, start going out for walks, go to the gym and enjoy your 4yo and husband. Also to make you smile and relax some, I had come to the realization that I would never have a 2nd baby and I packed up and got rid of A TON of my daughter's baby toys/clothes and guess what 3weeks later I found out I was pregnant with DD #2 :)

You ARE still young! We are trying again too and no luck yet. So I understand the frustration and how limiting it is when your life becomes chopped into two week segments. And how hard it is when you find out you aren't pregnant each month. My husband and I went to a reproductive specialist for our first. And it still took us two years. When I finally did get pregnant it was when we were on a break from trying. I am sure I still had Clomid and other drugs in my system and that probably helped. Sometimes just trying to stop thinking about it helps. I know that is nearly impossible but the stress of "trying" sometimes makes it harder to conceive. Have you seen a reproductive specialist? They might be able to help by prescribing Clomid or something else. Good luck, keep hoping and know you aren't alone!

Don't have the answers but wish you much luck.

It frustrates me that not one doctor ever told me how quickly my fertility would likely decline once I hit my 30's (I had my two at 24 & 27 and wanted another in my early 30's). I opted to NOT do fertility treatments - since I had two already I wasn't willing to go to extraordinary measures (now if it happened naturally - great!).

In the last couple of years I have seen several articles on the topic (rapidly declining ferility in 30's). Women need to hear more about this earlier in their lives.

I suffered from secondary infertility as well. I conceived with my oldest the first month that we stopped using birth control. The next pregnancy was the same thing....first month without birth control and I was pregnant. However that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage.
After the miscarriage, we started actively trying to get pregnant. I began charting my temp. After a while I did acupuncture, tried pre-seed, and took a whole bunch of vitamins (suggested by the acupuncturist). After 6 months, my OB ran a bunch of tests. Everything checked out. After a few more months she decided an HSG was worth a shot. (This is a test to see if your fallopian tubes are clear). She noted that rates of pregnancy go up significantly the month of this test. At the same time she also referred us to a fertility specialist. (I was 36 at the time and we had been trying to get pregnant for 10+ months). We met with the fertility specialist a few days before the HSG and set out plans to start intrauterine insemination (IUI) in a couple of weeks.
It wasn't necessary. We conceived following the HSG and never started with the IUI. I can't say it was the HSG or just a change in my mindset. At the fertility specialist's recommendation, I stopped charting my temp. My husband and I also decided to take a break from the scheduled sex we had been doing month after month.
My suggestions to you are to ask your OB about getting and HSG. Also get your husband tested. If you hit the 12 month mark, ask for a referral to see a fertility specialist. Also, it might be worth putting away the charting, temping, ovulation checking.
Good luck!

If you have been trying for a year, I would say go to a specialist. Either your OB or a fertility doctor. They can run tests and see if there is anything they can do to help you. You are both young, and you are probably stressing about it a little too, which doesn't help. Believe me, I understand your frustration, and took my own advice. I am now due in 5 weeks with my second.

I am sorry...I feel your loss. I have lost 16 babies. I was told I could never have a baby. I was hurt, mad, frustrated did not like anyone or anything pregnant and wondered what did I do to deserve this! You name it I had it Trisome 13 baby. tubal pregancy...on and on no reason nothing just...must not be your time. I can't tell you how I hate that. Needless to say everytime I had my period I cried and cried. Guess what I stopped trying and I have now have 5. I could not stop them from coming. I have two 10 1/2 months apart. I swear all my prayers got answered at once. I would cut out a lot of your sugar and soda. get the best diet you can, like Organic diet which helped me. I found this place a few months ago for nutrition and I love it, I only wish I had found it long ago would have made my life easier. www.myactivz.com/ilux Also, after you do the deed stay on your back but roll from one side to the other very slow, you may have a little bit of a titled uteruis, if so this will help. I am also a birthing Doula it helped me coupe with me thinking I may not have babies but now I almost have a basketball team.