School Always Tries to Pretend No Problem Except Parents

What would I do?
In 5th grade I pulled my daughter out and now homeschool her. That was a shock to the school and I had teachers calling my home promising it would be different, that they would take her and protect her, sorry, they had their chance.

We have moved several times and I have dealt with many school districts.
I have gone to the superintendent in two districts. Once this resulted in us having a choice of any elementary school in the district.

We sent the girls to Christian school. THis was a very good solution until we moved.

Document everything like you are doing. Write down what ahs happened before even if you can't remember dates.
If you have exhausted the school's chain of command then go up to the superintendent, then the school board.

You can do this. Sometimes it feels like you are the only one. Don't be complacent.

I only wish that I knew. This has been a problem since the beginning of public schools. I'm just not certain that the whole public school thing is even worth it. We really do hand over the reigns to other people when we hand our kids off.

I was bullied terribly, tortured really for 7 long years. I finally got out. I recently connected with the other little girl (32 years later) that was also bullied with me. She told me about one of the other classmates taking my place when I moved and things became worse in highschool. She didn't do so well. My friend that had been at the brunt of the bullying with me has moved on. The other woman has been stuck and in and out of therapy all these years. I'm not sure I've ever been able to let much of it go.

Do whatever it takes. Don't stop. If you have to go to the school directly do. If you have to go to the parents of the child do. If you need to go to the authorities DO.

take your complaint up the ladder of command; school principal, school district office, superintendent, county supervisors. I'm pretty sure you'll get safety long before you get to the top. Write names, dates, times, of the people you speak with and a brief summary of what they said. Here in L.A. Unified school district meetings are public and televised. Good luck and keep advocating for you child.

I would go to the district superintendent if you are not getting results from the principal. There's no reason to wait. Fear of repercussions? No! Act sooner rather than later. Other parents can be encouraged to do the same, but you should each go on your own and advocate for your own child. Do not speak for other parents. We did this with our kid and had good results. You have to be factual and reasonable in your tone, but insistent.

As long as you have been following the protical and keeping copies, you can go as high as needed in the school district system.

If your child is being bullied, first email or speak with the classroom teacher. document what teacher suggested, with the dates etc..

No results? Next go to the Campus Principal.. Same thing, document email, conversations, with dates, and what will be done by the school..

No results? go to the Principals Superintendent.. Same steps.. still not happy?

Go to the Superintendent of the entire district, go to the school board with all of your proper communications..

Do not look like a lunatic, look professional, calm and determined to show them you are your child's best advocate.

Do not get pulled into others drama. If your child is not involved, do not get pulled into it.. It is up to each child's parent to speak up for their own child. We really never know what is going on with other peoples children. We do not want to lose our own credibility.

Focus on your child and their needs. Do what it takes to protect them. As far as bringing it to the school board, YES. You should do this. Not only for your child but for the children whose parents are too scared to do anything to protect their own kids. Bullying can lead to huge traumas and even suicide later on if it is continued. If it were me, I would do everything in my power to make sure those that are bullying are stopped and delt with and the teachers and school are well versed in bully prevention and also adhere to strict rules regarding it. Good luck and I hope things get better for your child!

M

Take your child's education into your own hands and homeschool. Find out the homeschooling laws in your state. It is so much easier than people think, most of the time.

I would not wait for change that probably will not happen.

If you are determined to battle it out you may want to consider hiring a lawyer. That will get the school's attention. For me, I'd rather put money and emotional energy directly into my child. But it really depends on your situation and your judgment in the matter.

Good luck - I applaud your intolerance of bullying.

you have the right to insure that your child is safe in the school, if the staff refuses to do anything about bullying, go around them and call the local tv station and ask them to look into the problem, nothing says you mean business louder then a tv crew showing up at the school, interviewing students that have been bullied, when the adminstration balks at this tactic, all you have to do is say that the public has the right to know, freedom of the press.
K. h.
way back in 1987, i was taking final exams and waiting to finally graduate,
i had been very sick with blood poisoning and wasnt even supposed to be at school, much less taking exams,well the powers that be wasnt happy that they had to make an exception for me. so they, my teachers and the principal, had a meeting and decided that i would not be allowed to finish my exams (despite having a doctors note), when i pointed out to them that ,according to the law, they could not do this, and i would be bringing in a news crew to make sure my rights were protected, they suddenly backed down ( course it didnt hurt my case when i pointed out that i had proof that they had bullied other students into dropping out)