Scared to Get Pregnant Again - Centralia,WA

My second baby was 9 lbs 7 oz. He came out fine. :)

THe morning he was born they did an ultrasound and thought he could be as big as 10 lbs! Talk about info a lady doesn't want to hear when she's in early labor.

Anway - don't worry about the size. Most of us are capable of pushing out a 9 pounder.

J.

Why would your doctor say that if you have another baby it would have to be a c-section when you've successfully delivered vaginally already? Just because the baby was 9 lbs? Women's bodies are made to deliver babies much larger than that vaginally. There's no reason to plan a c-section unless you have other serious health complications that would make a vaginal delivery legitimately and literally dangerous.

After having a miscarriage, fears of having another are perfectly normal. I suffered a pregnancy loss after having two healthy deliveries. I became pregnant a few months later and went on to have a healthy baby. Pregnancy loss can occur for any number of reasons, but rarely because there's something wrong with us. The great majority of the time, there's something that's not viable with the fetus or other aspect of the pregnancy itself.

The key is not letting the fear and worry make your decisions for you. Talk to your doctors and educate yourself. Make sure that when you're ready to get pregnant, you're at the healthiest you've ever been. Make sure that your life is in a good, stable place with as few stressors as possible if you're able to plan it that way. And don't get pregnant just because someone else wants you to, and certainly don't do it on someone else's time table.

If you delivered your first son naturally then there is no reason it should have been a c-section just because of size. Those late term ultrasounds for size are notoriously wrong and it's truly a good thing your OB did not do one. Your next birth should not automatically be a c-section either just because of the size of your first. Size is not a reason for a c-section alone, only if the baby is not coming out or the life of mother and/or baby are in danger should it be a reason for a c-section. There is no guarantee your next child will be as large, my third was my smallest for instance. Were there other complications that have the doctors saying the next time will be a guaranteed c-section besides just a larger baby?
It is possible to have a healthy pregnancy and baby after a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage at around 8 weeks between my second and third child. My third child is very healthy and happy and full term. The miscarriage did not effect my ability to conceive or carry her. I am sorry you had a miscarriage. They happen more often than people know. Something wasn't right and your body knew it. Don't let it scare you from trying again when you are ready.
Take this time to find a doctor that you are comfortable with before you become pregnant again.

If you had your son naturally, then he shouldn't have been a c-section unless they had to break his collar bone to get him out. Women have 9 and 10 pound babies all the time, naturally. I had a 9lb 2oz baby as a VBAC. Don't freak out! Your body knows how to grow and deliver big, healthy babies. I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Many, many women have miscarried and had healthy children. You know that you can carry a pregnancy to term. Focus on that rather than the chance of a miscarriage. Talk to a doctor or even a therapist about your fears. Pregnancy and birth is always scary on some level. You just have to focus on the baby that you want rather than the fear that your mind can create for you! Best of luck!!

Why does the Dr say it will be a c-section? My son was a big baby, 9.5. Natural birth.

I was very scared about getting pregnant with my third. I'm 40. Lots to worry about. Chances are, I will have another big baby. I home birth, however, and my midwife and I believe women are perfectly capable of having big babies --they've been doing it for centuries. My midwife also said that since I've already done a big baby, the passage way it cleared for another.

I really don't get why a big baby means c-section. I'm a tiny female. My son came out all black and blue. It wasn't easy, but I'd take that over a c-section any day.

Find a new Dr that believes in the power and strength of women. It may help with your worries to be with someone that believes in just how strong we are.

Also, 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. I've had 4 pregnancies, 1 miscarriage. You've had yours, so chances are, you won't have another.

I have three children, and just had my first miscarriage last week. I was told that it was likely caused by a chromosomal abnormality and usually only happens once. If it happens more than once, it could be caused by a progesterone problem or a blood clotting problem.

Since you had a full term pregnancy the first time, it's probably not a progesterone issue.

Many women have a miscarriage, then go on to get pregnant again with a successful pregnancy.

Why is your doctor telling you it would be a C? So you had a large baby the first time, it doesn't mean you're guaranteed to have another one. My friend's first baby was 11 lbs. The doctors had estimated him at 8 lbs. After 14 hours of labor, she had a C section. Her second baby was only 8 lbs. If you're really nervous about the potential for a C section, ask them to induce you a couple of weeks early. They will usually induce at 38 weeks without an amnio.

I understand your fear, I have been there. After my miscarriage was so scared to try again, and really panicked for the entire first trimester. My doctor told me that miscarriages happen all the time for no reason, and that most of the time you go on to have another normal pregnancy after. I can't offer you any more than, does the want for another child outweigh the thought of losing again?

As for the pound issue, my son was almost 9 lbs and he flew out of me. When I had my third, I refused to go more than 3 days over due because I was not going to birth a turkey. She was only 8 lbs. Every baby is different. As long as the pelvic structure is there, women can have big babies. I don't know why your doctor is telling you that you will automatically have a C Section. I would get a second opinion on that one.

I've had two c-sections and three miscarriages. I think its okay to have fears. But don't let that fear dictate your life. A miscarriage does not mean there was something wrong with you. Since you have already carried to term, you are not likely facing an inability to carry a baby. 1 in 3 confirmed pregnancies end in miscarriage. One does not mean you will have another. I'm awaiting my first ultrasound with what I hope will be full term baby number three and c-section three. Yes, I'm afraid I'll have another miscarriage. I am also dreading recovering from another C-section, however the procedure itself is a breeze. And I suppose I didn't rush to get pregnant after my last miscarriage because I just didn't feel like I could handle anther one. So if you need to give yourself a little time, then take a little time. There is nothing wrong with that. I think in time you will be able to take that risk when you are feeling a little stronger. And I promise, you will get stronger.

It's ok to be scared, but don't let it run your life. Fear and stress are not healthy for a pregnancy - just be calm and relaxed and everything will most likely be fine. If you really want the kids, and your doctor has cleared you to try again, go for it. You'll be happy when that healthy baby rolls around.

If you had the first one naturally, don't let any doctor assume that you need a c-section the second time around. Were there complications during the birth to make him say that? Or is just because the baby was so big? if you did it once, there is no reason why you shouldn't try to do it again next time.

If you do end up with a c-section, don't worry. They really are not that bad, especially when they are scheduled. It is actually easier in some ways, since you're not exhausted from labor.

If the doctor is telling you now, before you're even pregnant, that you have to have a c-section, honestly, I would switch doctors. That is just stupid.

Every pregnancy is different.
History might not repeat itself.
There are women who have several miscarriages but then go on to have healthy babies.
My son was 9 lbs 1.5 oz delivered vaginally - a C section was not necessary.
It's a matter of how roomy your pelvis is.
Talk to your doctor about your concerns and fears.
Life is a risk.

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Don't be scared! I 've had one miscarriage and 3 successful pregnancies. All were vaginal births - sizes 8 lbs 3 oz, 8 lbs 7 oz and 9 lbs 6 oz. The miscarriage was about 2 years after I had my firstborn and happened at 11 weeks. I had zero issues with the 2 pregnancies after that.
I don't know why a doctor would tell you that you would have a c-section when you already successfully gave birth to a 9 lb baby. Doesn't make sense to me unless you have some sort of issue we aren't aware of.
My suggestion is to take care of yourself, take your prenatal vitamins now, and RELAX and enjoy the fun of trying to get pregnant! :)

Had a few over 9 vaginally and no problems. I would not worry!

Am I reading this right? You're scared to get pregnant because of the babies size? And they said you should have a c-section because of the size?

Seriously?