Hi V.,
Thanks to Constance for forwarding this to me! I well know your dilemma. I have two beautiful African American daughters myself, ages 11 and 15. It has been an interesting journey for me, especially since I have straight, caucasion hair. I've had many hairstylists for many years give me advice and recommendations. I would suggest you take your daughter to "Your Best Image" on Manchaca Road in South Austin. Greg Day is the owner and he is all about "natural" care for AA hair. He has been my primary educator regarding hair care for my daughters. They both have "SISTER LOCKS" which is a patented crocheted locking system. It's expensive, but the option we felt best suited our active family life. At the very least Greg can give your daughter a trim and get you on your way with the best products, without the chemicals. I would strongly encourage you to become educated regarding the chemical processing for ethnic hair. In my opinion, my daughters have never been more beautiful since Greg started doing their hair. Good luck.
Blessings,
G. Treuter