Room to Vent/Unload

It is okay to feel worn out with everything that's difficult for you even while being aware of the things you have that make you fortunate. At those times, a good vent is sometimes all it takes to put it aside and keep trudging on. Thankfully, all of the things you mentioned are temporary (for the most part). Cars can be fixed or replaced. Windows can be repaired. Thankfully the skull can be repaired. Your husband WILL finish school. Life will continue to go in cycles of great and hard and sometimes both at the same time. There may even be a point when you look back and think, remember that year when our son cracked his head and the window and the car broke and you were still in school...yeah...those were the good old days... :D

Been where you are. However, when I look back to those days, I see the positives and there are many. My children head to learn to be independent .
I was too sick. They all worked on a farm very young. They all have an extremely incredible,work,ethic. My youngest,,who had severe learning issues, had to figure things out. I could not do for her. Was told she would never go to regular school, read, etc. etc. FF 26 years. She is a surgical tech in the OR (scrub nurse) a licensed EMT and volunteer firefighter. So if not for the struggles, I wonder if my kids would have achieved so much. Two self employed, on NYC FF and the surgical tech.

My marriage is stronger than ever because of these struggles. So hang in and you too will one day look back and think wow we made it! Hugs.

Your feelings seem like a reasonable reaction to all that you are experiencing --as long as you feel better after venting and having a chance to put everything into perspective. You're under a lot of pressure and trying to hold it together for the entire family.
Try to carve out at least 20 minutes daily to decompress. Find small, inexpensive or even no cost ways to treat or pamper yourself during that time. I paint my toenails wild, bright colors. My best friend reads super-trashy novels from the thrift store. A lot of moms have a nightly bubble bath.

I hear you. I think Vitamin B does help btw. But some of it is just life and a mental tiredness as well. I've been wondering if HS's offer any kind of "life" class. My parents were frugal and when I was single, I had a budget I almost always came in under. Now as a parent and homeowner, I am consistently shocked at the "one time" expenses. They never end!!! It's tough. I think you have to remind yourself these are the most costly years. Costly not only in terms of money but energy too. And life was never meant to be easy for the vast majority of people. Sometimes I think how hard people have to work nowadays. Then I think "people used to work in coal mines (I know some still do) such long hours so physically hard". So have things really changed? Or have our expectations?... But it's hard when it seems like it's all work and no play. Like you, we are so blessed and don't even have real financial pressures but I get tired too and mad at myself for not being more grateful. Seems like thing to do is vent a little, try to carve out a little fun and then focus on being positive. I'm not really religious but sometimes praying does help in the sense it's quiet time where you stop tryign to control everything. I think trying to control everything all the time leads to the feeling of being so tired too. Sometimes kind of handing things over even only figuratively is a mental break. And like yours, my husband is always SO BUSY though his is a lot of his own making which annoys me. Try to get out with a girlfriend. And if thigns really persist, you may want to try an antidepressant at some point. I think they can reset things chemically. A good friend finally started one at a very low dose and can't believe how much better she feels. I"m considering it bc I feel like I don't feel enough joy for my really amazingly good life these days.

Give yourself some credit. You are dealing with quite a lot. Yes, you are fortunate, but you still have a lot on your plate. You need to try to clear off the calendar and just rest if you can. Sounds like you need a much deserved break to gear back up to fight the good fight that is our parenting lives. You can do it.

Have you talked to your doctor? I was tired for years and blamed it on stuff (pregnancy, new baby, busy working mom, etc). Finally, I went to my doctor and told her. She did some blood tests. Based on that, she switched up my allergy med to a different one and told me to take a specific supplement. I am a NEW WOMAN! For the first time in many YEARS I am finally not tired.

Please talk to your doctor.

Tired does make us feel more vulnerable. When we're tired we notice everything that goes wrong and we fight it. I think it helps to accept that we're tired and love ourselves. Give yourself extra rest. Treat yourself in small ways. Get a physical to see if there is a medical reason. Consider the possibility that you're depressed and get help with it. If you're not eating and sleeping in a healthy way get help with that. Take nutritional supplements.

I've found it helpful to focus more on what is good in my life and less on everything that's going wrong. For awhile I wrote down 3 things for which I was thankful every night at bedtime. When I thought only of good things I slept better. It took a while of doing this before it helped.

Please see a doctor, get a physical and get your thyroid checked.
I was 32, not yet a mother and was constantly exhausted no matter how much sleep I got when I was diagnosed hypothyroid.
It was a relief finding out it was not all in my head - that there was a medical reason for the exhaustion - and there was/is a medication that fixes it.
(Initially I took Synthroid and years later I switched to Armour Thyroid (it just works better for me)).
It took a little while to get the right dosage figured out but once we did I felt SO MUCH BETTER!
It's definitely worth having it checked out.

'count your blessings' is a lovely aphorism at times, but not so much when it's used as a stick to beat people who are trying to cope with genuine challenges. and you're at the challenging, exhausted, stressed, broke phase of your life that so very many of us (especially us older gals, theresa and marda!) recognize.
it's hard. i'm sorry you're worn out, and glad you've got a place to vent here.
your plate is very, very full. and yeah, it's hard NOT to focus on $ when every single issue seems to revolve back to it.
i have no magic bullets for you, but lots of sympathy. please don't add to your burden by being sad and angry at yourself for your exhaustion. being flattened from time to time does NOT mean that you don't appreciate the good stuff. it just means that you're getting whammied.
hang in there, babe. at some point you'll have more years under your belt, more experience to draw from, more time to stop and smell the roses, and yes (trust me) more money, so you won't feel so desperate. and you'll be the one reassuring an exhausted young mom that she's going to make it too.
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What you're getting is a lot of "I hear ya, mama!" You just keep on keepin' on (that's what I tell myself). Go to your doctor and have blood work done--I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism last summer and the meds made a big (and quick) difference! Sometimes we all just need a moment to lay it all out there "woe is me!" and I'm glad you're getting positive feedback here! When I did it a few years ago, I got a lot of "just suck it up" responses!

What helps me is to come up with short-term *Achievable* goals! Set a few of these and do everything you can to check them off DONE! Making tiny steps in the right direction can really help get things back on track and help boost positive feelings about bigger things!

Good luck, mama!