#1 MOST IMPORTANT STANDARD RULE WHEN TRAVELING WITH YOUNG CHILDREN:
THROW THE RULE BOOK OUT THE WINDOW. Whatever works, works. They won't pick up bad behavior ...& traveling will be fun. Just as long as you say "because we're traveling we get to do ____!" AKA : Bounce on the seats in restaurants, park as far away as possible & walk "incredible" distances from parking spot to store (dawdle, hop, take your time), realize that you will never see ANY of these people ever again AND that you're doing the best possible thing for YOUR child (and your sanity), indulge in treat food, stay up late, be loud in the tub, etc.
((On the bouncing on the seats...tell your hostess that you're traveling and need a table as far away from other people as possible. A section no one is working, would be best...you just have to be okay with flagging a server in case you get forgotten from time to time. :))
((On being loud in the tub; ask your hotel reservationist for a room on a bottom floor/away from other patrons))
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One thing that worked great for us, when our son was that age, was to switch up what times we were driving/stopping. In part that meant that we were eating & driving on off hours from other people, and in part it takes best advantage on driving while the wee one is asleep.
We checked out of the hotel at 11 after playing in the room/pool/etc...ate brunch...got in the car & he passed out. (of course the baby had breakfast earlier as well)
When he woke up we stopped at a rest area for usually around 30 min.
Drove for about another hour, stopped at a restaurant (appleby types with booths so you can block them in and let them bounce about on the cushions...just ask the server for an out of the way place for a bouncy toddler). Ate/bounced/etc.
Back in the car. If my son fell asleep we kept driving. If he didn't we drove for about an hour, stopped at a rest stop. He would typically fall asleep after playing at the rest stop.
Drive until wake-up...eat dinner. Same kind of bouncy boothes, or a McDonalds-type place with a playground.
Drive for about an hour. Stop at rest stop.
Bedtime passout....drive like bats outta hail...check into hotel around midnight.
This is the GENERAL schedule...the actual schedule was determined, of course, by when he woke up. :)
wakeup-11am = Playtime & brunch
11am-1pm = Driving (aka nap)
1-130 = Rest Stop
130-330 = Driving (aka nap)
330-430 = Lunch & Playtime
430-530 = Driving
530-600 = Rest Stop
600-730 = Driving (aka nap)
800-830 = Dinner & Playtime
###-###-#### = Driving
1200 = Check into hotel
We averaged 300-400 miles a day, with a few 500 mile days. While my son at that age usually only took 2 naps, he (to this day) he invariably adds at least one when we're in the car a long time. It took about 24 hours for him to go back to his normal schedule once we got to where we were going, although he instantly dropped back into travel routine once we were back on the road.
We liked applebys for lunch because it was inexpensive (at lunch time) and healthy, and mickyD's/burgerking types for dinner because of the play area. Anytime you need to stop and wash your face (sooooo wakes you up when driving), or use a restroom head to the golden arches and spend a buck on fries/whathaveyou. Their bathrooms are always always always clean. As opposed to gas stations, which invariably leave you feeling grimy.
One thing we found, too, was not to use the window sunshades...we don't usually, but were concerned about him getting too much sun through the windows. They made him carsick. Come to find, talking with other travelers that this is a pretty common reaction. We used a hat & sunscreen instead with no ill effects.
On a personal level, while we'll use DVD players on planes, we avoid them on car trips. There's always just sooooooo much to see and appreciate and imagine out the window.
Have fun!!! Traveling is the absolute best :) And coming home always feels so wonderful.
Z