My SIL (husbands sister) is getting remarried. After her divorce she lived with me and my husband for a year with her 1 year old daughter. She went out one night, came home and acted like a complete fool, calling us all kinds of names, ect. Needless to say we kicked her out. For the last 2 1/2 years my husband and I have been discluded from his entire family because of her. She is controling and manuplitive His sister was very yound, imature and spoiled. Our children have been ignored by my husband parents and the birth of our son was not even acknowledged by my SIL. This is just a very brief explaination of a million things that happen.
Last week I decided that they only way for any of this to change was if I decided to be the bigger person. His parents are to worried about making SIL mad to have anything to do with us. I invited everyone over for dinner, was very nice to everyone and it was a good time.
Bow to my question - I would like to do the something borrowed, something blue...anything to make her feel like all is forgotten. I don't want to give a gift. 2nd marriage, still a few hard feelings, ect. I would like to make an efforet though. Any Suggestions?
As a wedding planner (and a SIL myself). I recommend 'old, borrowed and blue'. The 'new' should be the dress. find something of yours, something quite personal (preferably old and blue) to lend her on her wedding day. An old standard is Grandma's hankey. Jewlery is a nice option. Present it to her in private and let her know how important the piece is and how important she is to you. That should help
Good luck
I would suggest something small, like a handkerchief with blue embroidery that she can pass along to her daughter when the time comes. Put it inside a card with a heartfelt note of congratulations.
If you don't want to give her a gift - don't. Just a card will do.
I don't know if I would do the something borrowed... you might not get it back.
What about a bracelet or anklet that you don't wear anymore?
