Regretting My Tubal Ligation

Have you considered in vitro fertilization? You don't need tubes for that. It might be worth thinking about.

P. I had the same problem. I am over it now. Now I have my sisters 4 kids.Try foster parenting!Kids need good homes.

I had my husband 'fixed' after our second son was born. It was during Desert Storm too. I regretted it when my younger son reached about 5, until about 8 yrs old. Now, I'm so glad we have these two great boys. They are 17 & 22. Grand-babies are only a few years away!!! I can send them home, not get up in the middle of the night, and don't have to pay their car insurance! Yipee!
I guess I'm saying, be greatful for the family you have, find the endless joy in them. Don't waste time wondering what-if, it's a waste. Enjoy the present, hope for the future!

This is not exactly answering your question, but I too had a tubal reversal. It was successful. I now have a 5 year old daughter. I'm writing to tell you that if you decide to have a TR, please at least research Dr. Berger in NC. He is world renowned for his TR procedure. It is less invasive than other types of TR; and I personally had success with it. And I am not affiliated with him; I just like to spread the word to others that are in the same boat that I was in 7 years ago.

I had my tubes tied also 16 1/2 years ago after the birth of my last child (the boy I'd been waiting for). Seven years later, when my husband and I split up, I was left to feel the aftermath of that decision. My husband was living with another woman (who was now pregnant) and I was alone with 3 children, at 28. When I was 34, I met the man God MEANT for me to be with and he also had 2 children from a previous marriage, but we can't help but think about how wonderful it would be to have children TOGETHER. Unfortunately, this won't happen, but I do have 2 lovely grandchildren that I may have custody of soon, which will leave me a mother of 7 ranging in age from 21 years to 7 months. Seeing what I've seen in my life, concerning beautiful children with not-so-beautiful parents, I suggest being open to the fact that maybe God DOES have children out there for you and your husband to care for, but they may not come from your DNA.

Good luck and may God bless you and your husband.

Success rates for reversal probably depend on the type of ligation you had. Discuss this with your doctor and google it too. (You said to be honest, so I will.....) I would think that the longer you go the less likely it is to be reversed. It seems to me that scar tissue would get worse as the years go by, but I could be totally wrong. Keep searching and find out the truth, so you're not deceived one way or the other.

Since you already have 3 wonderful children and did have your tubes tied, maybe you should just concentrate on them. You're in school and probably want a career, babies are hard when you work. A few more years and you can be a grandma. Baby blues will pass. As you know children are expensive and i'm sure you want the best for the 3 you have. Just my opinion.

I feel your pain!! I got my tubes tied after I had my youngest son because I swore that I would never give another man the time of day and then I met my husband Theo and we have been married three wonderful years and even though he considers my youngest son his own, I want to have a child with him. I have been looking into a Doctor in Chapel Hill who is highly reccommended in tubal litigation reversal and is decently priced. If you would like, I can email you the info..Good luck and my prayers are with you

My mom had her tubes cut, tied, and burned and 3 months later was pregnant with me. My Aunt also had her tubes tied and 2 years later gave birth again and my step-daughters mom had another child after getting her tubes tied. I had mine tied almost 8 years ago and my husband wants me to get the reversal surgery but it is $5000 and there is still no guarantees. I understand what you are going through with wanting another one because when I see a pregnant woman I almost get jealous. But I have 2 of my own children ages 9 and almost 8, a step daughter that is 18, a nephew that is 9, and nieces that are 8 and almost 4. They keep my life FULL and I know I couldn't handle the stresses of having another child of my own. Plus my little sister (she was adopted) just found out she is pregnant and she is only 17 so I will get a chance to help her out A LOT!! If you really feel a void talk to God about it. He can open your tubes and allow you to have another baby or He could feel the void the way He has mine with other people's babies.

Hi,your not totally alone.me and my husband have four wonderful children.my oldest son just turned 11,then i have two more boys 8 & 5 and my three yr old daughter.After my daughter was born we had talked about him getting a vasectamy(his idea)i agreed cause i didnt think he would actually go through with it and we did have four at that point.well it seemed like every 2 or 3 yrs i got pregnant and when my daughter turned three my body was ready to have another baby i had symtems and everything which in return i started resenting my husband.well i was fine for a while after that but it seems like every one around me is pregnant and thats all my daughter talks to me about is she wants me to have a baby.

Tubal is considered permanent.

You really should do some research on it and be honest with yourself and your fiance - because it is very unlikely that you will ever have another biological child naturally.

Reversal is very expensive and generally has a very low success rate. Of course, there is always adoption, fostering, or having a biological child through a surrogate.

Anyone (including you) seeking more info about tubal ligation and/or reversal, can check out this site: http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/tubal-ligation-and...

I understand how you feel - there are many times I wish I could have more children. You are blessed with 3 beautiful children and you now have a good man in your life. Forget what the doctor tells you for several reasons 1) I have never heard of tubes reattaching themselves, and 2) your health was compromised with your last child, are you willing to possibly go through that again or worse???? Why don't you consider adoption - there are so many beautiful children in need that would thrive from a loving, caring family. Your health should be a priority; embrace your family and your life. Good luck.

i think there is nothing wrong with wanting another child! this site was recommended to my friend who felt the same way. you might want to check it out.
http://www.fittobeuntied.com/forums/

I would look into a reversal. Some health insurance does cover it, and theres a pretty good success rate. BUT if ins doesn't cover it, I believe it's 8k to have it done unless you pre-pay, and then it's 6k. I have considered it myself, it's hard to know that you can't have another child after you made the decision to not have another child. I have been desiring another child for 2 years now. I have decided this though, God has a perfect plan for you, and if another child comes, then so be it, if not I have a wonderful family, and ultimately, I wouldn't trade what I have now for anything.

I think you should do all you can to have another baby. You are not crazy for wanting another child. God gave women this instinct, but society tries to undermine it, and make us feel that it is wrong. God Bless! A.

I don't know how old you are,, but I would ask you to think about YOUR age/health as this new baby you are thinking about grows up. How old will you be when this baby wants to be out til midight?? Be thankful for your blessings - three wonderful healthy children and a man who loves you. Its time for you to start having some fun for yourself - it will be a long time until that baby can 'stay home' while you have dinner. (remember - it is NOT your other children's responsibility - it will be YOURS.)

Good luck with your decision - I was only trying to 'shed some light'.

With your children so grown- why don't you stop and enjoy each other. Life can be so idylic, by the time she is grown and you 2 have each other. Then, the grands will come soon. Just my opinion. If you thought pg was difficult 9 yrs ago, being 9 yrs older is much rougher.

You can go and get a Dr to try and untie them. At least, that's how they use to do it.
It's not something that's very successful. They aren't going to grow back together, if it was done properly.
The longer you wait, the less likely it'll would be successful.
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND you wanting to be a Mommy again!!!
Sorry. Best of luck to you.
Peace,
B.

I wish I had words that will comfort you, but I also had a tubal ligation after my last child. I have 3 sons and my middle child has autism, so it is stressful at times. I have heard that your tubes can reattach, but it is a slim chance. I only hope and pray that mine will, because I am now remarried and want more children as well. No you are not crazy, I have met alot of women that regret having there tubes tied and yes I am one of them. All I can say is good luck and my prayers are with you.

Chances are slim to none that the tubes will "reattach". I'm so sorry for this glim news, but when Ob's tie those tubes, the really tie them off. My mom got her's tied 20 years ago, and they still tied off. Most Ob's cut, carterize, and sew them suckers closed. You're more likely to have more succes if you got it reversed, rather than hoping they just "reattach" themselves. Depending on your age, you might wanna look into other options, like a donor through in-vitro, a surrogate, or you might even have to adopt. Right now your choices are limited; but really think things through before you make that leap into motherhood again. I myself miss my 2 boys in that baby stage, but am just not quite ready for #3.

I don't think you are silly - not at all! My son married a woman with three children and she had had her tubes tied after the last child. I don't know about the ligation failing and the tubes growing together again (my daughter-in law's did not reconnect). Fourteen years after tubal ligation she was able to get the surgery to "un"tie them and within a month she was pregnant and gave birth to my first blood-related grandbaby a year ago.

They had the advantage of being in the military; the surgery was covered. I don't know how much something like costs in the "real" world. In any event, I hope the best for you in your dreams coming to pass.

I would speak to your doctor and see what he or she has to say about untying your tubes, such as the possibility of it happenning on its own (have him give you an ultrasound to see if its already happening....), as well as risks involved.

I dont think nothings wrong with having a baby after so many years I myself am in the same boat. The only difference is I have been with my fianc'e for 9 years now and he has childern and so do I but we dont have any together and now that we are talking about gettin married and building a family together we can not have children together it bothers me a whole lot to know that we can;t have children together I have been thinkin about getting them reversed but it cost so much money to get the procedure done so I'm in a no win situation!!!!!! Best of luck to you both

I know my mom went through the same thing. She had her tubes tied after having her 3 girls and at age 40 decided she wanted another one. She had a major surgery to have them "untied"-I think she was in the hospital for a few days-and conceived after several months. My "baby" sister is now 23. So...if you want it, it can be done.
J. (mother of one happy 2 year old boy)