Reaction About a Situation?

He could have mentioned it to the pastor if it was that important to him or visit his website or facebook page.

I would be hurt as well.

I rather like the UK's Remembrance Day. I wish I could wear a red poppy (or ANYTHING similar) on Memorial Day with the hundreds of millions of Americans who would gladly follow suit. In the Commonwealth countries I've been to it's a SEA of red poppies as far as the eye can see on Remembrance Day. Here, some people wear flags... but flags are worn all the time for all sorts of reasons. And it seems gauche. Memorial day isn't about agreeing with politics, which at least half of us never do. It's not about glorifying nor celebrating war. It's not even about our COUNTRY... but about the men and women and children who have been swept up in the wars and battles this country has fought and honoring THEM. The men and women who lay their lives on the line every single day and who will die, who have vowed to 'Protect ***US*** from all enemies, foreign and domestic." It's honoring the dead, and those who will die. It's remembering how terrible war IS, and showing our gratitude and our grief for those who have died and those who will, and our commitment to never forgetting the value of those lives.

I wish there was a sea of poppies here, as well. I wear a poppy on 11/11, but as a former US Marine... there is nothing HERE in such solidarity.

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My father, grandfather, or any of my uncles who all served would tell you we didn't serve to be remembered we served so that Americans have the right to forget.

Just curious, did your pastor serve?

I have family in the millitary and i would be offended if our pastor didn't mention it. Your hubby was right to feel that way! I would personally like to thank him for his service and to you and your family for the sacrifices that you have had to make while he was away. I know it must have hurt him to not be mentioned, did anyone remind the pastor after the service? Maybe he could apologize or make a statement about it?

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I'm a veteran. I served during Viet Nam. I didn't have to go overseas because my orders were changed because Nixon negoiated a peace treaty. Back then soldiers were scorned. I'm so glad things have changed.

What would I do? I'd bake some home made brownies or chocolate chip cookies and take it to the pastor and his family. There is nothing like a plate of warm, chocolate chip cookies to make a man receptive and to feel loved. I'd tell him that he forgot those soldiers serving and those that have served and ask him to apologize from the pulpit next week. Remember, be nice, be kind and tell him what's on your mind.

WHY? Go the extra mile. If you have never baked a gift for the pastor . . . well, they are sometimes taken for granted. I forget and I do it on a regular basis. He probably forgot. I bet he didn't know he hurt you (trespassed against you) or he wouldn't have done it. I could give you scriptures about forgiveness, but if you go to church on a regular basis, you already know them. And your pastor already knows about repentence.

One of my kids gave me a calendar this last Christmas that has all of my kids' and their spouses' birthdays (16) on it plus their wedding dates (8) and all of my grandkids' birthdays (20 so far). I love the calendar.

I only know of One Man that never made a mistake and I celebrate His birthday around Christmas.

OH, I almost forgot . . . Thank your husband for me for being a soldier. Good luck to you and yours.

I can understand what your husband is feeling but I'm not sure how the church feels about war and the military.
So having said that.....read my post from Friday thanking the military. I sit in my nice, warm, safe house and am thankful every single day that it is because of the men and women serving in the military that I can do this.
And I think of this almost every single day (not just Veteran's and Memorial day). Do I forget and become complacent? Absolutely (so bad of me) but then I turn on the news and am quickly reminded at how lucky I am to live in America and be safe.
So please.....personally thank your husband for me, my family and my friends. I know it is because of him that I am able to go to sleep each night safe and sound in my bed. Thank you, thank you and may you remain safe always!!!!!!!

I am not religious, but it seems that was likely an oversight on the pastor's part. One that needs to be mentioned tactfully. Our military deserve the honors of their special rememberances.

Please give your husband my regards for his service to our country.

it is kind of odd that the pastor forgot. it wouldn't hurt to mention it to the pastor so that if the omission was a mistake he can rectify it from the pulpit next week. i HOPE it was just a mistake. but a weird one, for sure.
please assure your husband that most of the people in this country are deeply, genuinely grateful for his service. he can't hang his happiness on the ones who don't (or those who simply forget to mention it.)
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I am so sorry. I agree with others, I bet he just forgot. I hope he will mention it in the Church Bulletin or next Sunday. Maybe email him and just remind him.
But I have not forgotten.

Please let your husband know that I have never taken for granted that it takes very special men and women to keep our country safe and to protect our rights. They are all Hero's.

This weekend is Memorial Day. The focus everywhere is to honor those who died in the service of our country. In more recent years we've added honoring everyone who has died. I just don't understand how the pastor could neglect mentioning Memorial day.

I would ask him about it in a non-judgmental way. This is a big faux paux in my opinion.

the pastor is human and humans make mistakes. he probably just forgot on accident. its nothing against your husband or any other military men and women. your husband and your family just think about it a little more :)

How long have you been going to that church?
It may be a matter of the pastor preparing things in advance and not realizing the emphasis. Or simply forgetting it.
Your husband knows the duty he has served to this country. You certainly know it.
This might sound creepy, but I have worked at a cemetery and every year they have a formal thing with flags and a memorial service. Same thing for Veteran's Day. If you have a cemetery close to you, go there. I live in the middle of nowhere and our cemetery does a big thing in memory and honor. Even with fly-overs. Some communities have parades.
Celebrate and honor your husband, and yourself, for the years of service.
Know that lots of other people who don't even know your husband will be doig something in honor. He should be able to look online for local events. Pick one and go.
As for me, coming from a military family, I personally than your husband for his service to our country.

Best wishes.

I would talk to my pastor privately, and depending on his responsiveness might be seeking a new church.

I don't say that lightly either.

There should have been some mention, imho, unless there is a special service today (in which case that should have been mentioned).

God bless your family, and thank you.

I am sure it was not intentional. I am also pretty sure your pastor intended to mention it. But when you get in front of a large group and have a whole lot to speak about you sometimes forget things. I teach the same material at work once or twice a month and there is always a thing or two that I forget. He may be aware that he forgot and as a result might be kicking himself for it. When was the last time he was thanked as well. I Like the idea of making him cookies/brownies and visiting with him and having a polite converstion. Your husband may feel upset as some do take those who gave their lives for our country for granted. But he also chooses to carry this with him. Don't let it keep your husband from cherishing the memory of those this holiday is intended for.

I would validate his feelings by listening and be understanding. Then maybe try to celebrate something special within your family/friends. I'm guessing (hoping) it was a total slip up that your pastor forgot to mention it. I see why your hubby feels hurt of it! Hopefully he'll be able to focus on celebrating it instead of staying hurt and/or upset over it.

I don't think there's really anything you could say/do besides how you personally celebrate memorial day. I would just say to listen to him and his feelings, like reassure his feelings are legit. Is your pastor the kind of person you can mention that he forgot or would that turn awkward? Because if he is the person you can mention it to maybe next week he could say I hope all our military veterans had a good memorial day and pay tribute that way after the fact.

I agree with Jacy, we think about it a lot more because we are veterans lol. I too, want to thank your husband for his service protecting our country and the people in it.

Please thank your husband for his service on my behalf. God bless him.

I would chalk up your Pastor's omission as simply being a human oversight, due to having many things on his mind. I'm sure it wasn't an intentional insult. And, I certainly wouldn't let it stop you and your husband from honoring our military who've died for our freedom in whatever way you choose.

God is perfect...people are just full of it. They make mistakes on a daily basis, just people's feeling without meaning to, they speak and then think "What did I just say, OMG".

If your husband can't get past it he won't be happy there anymore unless he talks to the pastor. I don't know what the outcome of that will be, but it may make your husband feel heard.

I had a friend a long time ago that left their church after years and years of going there over the word "is" verses the word "gives".

The Pastor said, either one way or the other (since I thought it was a silly argument I put it out of my mind), "God is Grace" or "God Gives Grace" and my friends husband focused on that one word and ended up deciding that the Pastor wasn't fit to be his spiritual leader. I can't remember the exact argument but it was the focus for weeks of discussion before they finally decided to leave.

I think his feelings are justifiable

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