Questions That Haunt You

Yes!

A woman who stayed with her husband who walked out on her O. Christmas, threatened it again, and still she stayed!!

A woman awaiting a diagnosis regarding down syndrome in her baby.

A response in which a woman who vocally promoted beating her children (babies) with a "switch"

And any of the women in a verbally or physically abusive relationship who basically "stay for the kids." Face reality - you are staying becuase you are scared to change. You are not being a good mom letting the kids grow up like that. (I grew up with a battered mother, my father abused her physically and me mentally, so don't pull that nonsense on me!! I know better.)

I am often haunted by questions from Moms who are in an abusive relationship and feel as though they can't leave. I just wish I could meet with them face to face, hold their hands and help them to see how strong they really are and how much better their lives would be if they did leave. I think about Lacy Peterson who's cheating husband killed her and her unborn son and I am concerned for their safety. When we know that the chief cause of death of a pregnant woman is the father of her baby; and I see posts by pregnant women in an abusive relationship, I want to yell LEAVE BE SAFE AND LEAVE. And then I get slammed by women, telling me how wrong I am.

I still think about the woman who was pregnant with her 3rd child and was upset to learn it was another boy and didn't want the baby because of that.

The main O. in my head is about that poor young mother who's baby didnt move in 2 days, and when I read the update found out that the baby had died at 29 weeks. That O. made me cry... I was, and am so heartbroken for her. I cannot imagine being in her position and trying to move past it. I hope she can find some peace, and hope in her heart, even though it is terribly hard right now. My heart, love and prayers go out to her. So, so sad :( Makes me tear up just thinking about it....

Yes, there are a few.

O. lady had a husband who took pictures of random "messes" around the house and put them all in a file, as if he were gathering evidence. I wonder what happened there.

The husband who masturbates in the same room as his children.

The husband that dragged his wife into the bathtub by her hair or arm or something in front of the kid who was recovering from surgery

The Nice woman whos 14 year old daughter is pregnant and she was wondering if having a baby shower was inappropriate, she was berated with comments about how she should force her daughter to have an abortion or give the baby up and i think it really affected her.

The lesbian couple whos little girl was being harassed by a bully kid with homophobic parents.

More recently a poor child who lost her parents and her foot on the same day had been stripped of her popularity status at school and was being bullied by an over-aged nightmare of a kid.

There is a woman whos mother in law seems to be clinically insane and determined to steal her baby son, or turn him against her. This question was outfitted with really creepy descriptions of behavior on MILS part.

i have many more, i wish that Question updates (let everyone know) option could somehow alert our in boxes if we responded to that particular question. Or maybe there could be a "subscribe" option so that we could get alerts about a particular person.

***edited, i take it by all the flowers i got so far, (in like 20 minutes!) that other mothers were wondering about these stories too....please if anybody reads their question on this particular thread, pleaaaaase put up and update!

Yes, I read Marie's (Marias?) posts, who has custody of her 4 nieces and nephew after their parents were killed in a car accident. Everytime she posts something I go back and read all her posts and responses and her strength and courage are just incredible. I have even thought of her in my own life while feeling down about some (relatively) silly little thing. I wish we could collectively give her some kind of award, some recognition.

And yes, Swear To God I want the address of some of these ladies so I can go over to their houses and cut their husband's balls off! Ahem, excuse the language.

I REALLY REALLY need to get a life Denise! Hopefully after tomorrow's snow storm I can get out in the yard!!

Is it Friday yet!!!

:)

Btw, where's Riley been hiding lately?

The recent O. about the baby not moving at 24 weeks or so and dying. I literally cried when I read it. It hits home especially with me expecting. So so sad. My heart hurts for that lady:(

As a matter of fact...I was just wondering whatever happened to that woman who was foreign and had the child and her family was possibly trying to take the child from her and shamed her because she was a single mom and treated her terribly. That was a scary situation that I would like to know how it worked out.

The kicking the four year old O. WAS O. of the worst I have ever read. I know that the mother has issues and I have never been in an abusive relationship so probably can't really know how it feels-but I can't imagine that happening to O. of my children and me not going completely and totally insane on the person who did it....not kidding, there would probably be police called on ME at that point.

There was a lady on here a long time ago, some of you may remember her. A family member ( I think her sister ) backed up the vehicle in their driveway and ran over her 5 year old nephew, killing him.
I was overwhelmed with her sadness just reading her post. My god my heart hurt so much over that and I couldn't forget about it for a long time.
I PM'd her, I answered her post, if I could have I would gone straight to where she was and just cried along with her.
I will never forget it.

The moms who complain that the state (DHS, CPS...) took their kids away for NO reason. Uh, yeah. I'm sure there were many good reasons why you lost custody of your kids...Those posts make me soooo sad.

THere is O. family who lost a 5 yo boy in a terrible accident. I see the aunt's posts and she seems to be getting along well. I still tear up when I think about it.
I continue to pray for this family.

There are so many where the SO is abusive to the mom or children that I lump them altogether, not O. really sticks out in my mind. I too count my blessings when I read them.

Good question, but totally just put me in a funk. I don't have any in particular but I love the questions that really raise strong, opposite views. I love seeing women get passionate about something; even opposing views are often both correct.

Ugh, someone post a JFF, quick!! ;)

That O. that you mentioned is awful. It's actually not O. that was mentioned here, but through a friend. Long story short, people that they were subletting to and she was trying to get them kicked out. She went into the bathroom looking for her things and she found heroine. The lady that was subletting was pregnant. It hurts me so bad knowing unborn children are suffering and then coming in to the world addicted to drugs, even before taking their first breath.

***Your making me cry in class Denise!!!!

Yes, the questions that have anything to do with abusive husbands tend to haunt me. Theresa B, your response is exactly how I felt yesterday, and I did not respond either because I knew it would not come across as helpful. There is another woman in Colorado who has posted several times about her husband being a jackass who is obviously extremely abusive, and each post it seems the situation is getting worse, not better, but this lady clearly cannot see it; she just thinks he is being jerky but that it is mostly her fault. It is like watching a train wreck in slow motion. That is probably the O. that has stuck with me most. I wish, more than anything, that we could pass on clarity and strength to these women who are in such horrid situations. I am sure our words help a bit, but sometimes don't ya wish we could form a posse and go tell these abusive husbands how it's gonna be?! Sigh. At least these posts help me to see how good I have it.

I wonder what became of KBS and her situation.

Oh my, I told my husband about that O. and we just couldn't believe it.
The other O. I wish I new about what happen is the women that told us that her ex took her son, I send her privet messages but she never reply, I still worry if she got her son back.
Good post Denise.

Yes a few of the domestic violence posts.
I often wonder are they still there or did they get to a refuge?
I feel apart of this on line community now and do worry about some of the mothers here and wish for them the best in life.
B. k

There are so many that stick in my mind and I wonder how the ladies/kids are doing.

I have to say, many of the posts that stick in my mind are the ones where people say "I can't stand it when...." and I am a person who does ALL the things that annoy that person LOL!

On a slightly more lighthearted note, I wonder about the mom who posted about a month ago about how hectic her kids' bedtime routine was. It was titled "Bedtime craziness" or something similar. Basically she had a baby and 3 older kids and her description of the circus of toothbrushing/pajamas/etc. was hilarious! (maybe she didn't intend for it to be but it was!). Most people wrote in and asked "Why isn't your husband helping out"? I want to know what happened to that lady and her family...is it still crazy at bedtime?

That question made me sick to my stomach :-( that first question she post as well about her husband tossing her child across the room -- I told her that would be the last time he laid a hand on my baby, I'm Really sad that it happened again :-(

There was O. on here a while ago about someone wanting to know how to forgive her husband for something he had done before meeting her and she was adamant about hating but not leaving. It bothered me for a couple days I could respond because I couldn't think of anything nice. The kicking of the little boy is still bothering me, I can honestly say I didn't answer that because if that was my husband/boyfriend the bastard wouldn't be walking now.

wheres the O. about the kid getting kicked? I never saw that O....gosh I agree I need a JFF question...all so sad....

last night I almost gave up Mamapedia over that O. and the poor woman 7 mo pregnant with a cheating husband. Could not sleep over it myself and ended up taking benedryl because of it. I have not been overly bothered by anything unitl those two posts and am sickened also.

We know these horrible things happen to people, but it hard to confront it on this sight because I think for so many of us, this is our outlet of escape. We don't like being confronted with the horrible here.

The woman with the OCPD husband, the "my 14 yo is pregnant" and any loser/abusive hubby ones.