Pregnancy Advice - Redwood City,CA

Just relax and stop thinking about it. That's usually when it happens. Also remember that things happen when they are supposed to;not necessarily when YOU want them to.

Can't be off or on has to be on. You have a 30% chance of getting pregnant each month. Keep it on. Oh, you should also wait until you are married.

How about getting married first?

Just a thought.

Hi C.,
I would seriously consider waiting until you are married. A child really needs a mother and father that have a commitment to one another. Kids are blessings but you have to have a marriage built on a strong foundation to fall back on. Try Natural Family Planning. They have classes that can help you determine your most fertile time. Best wishes and God bless you.

I agree with some of the advice. However, in no way does getting married affect your commitment to your partner. Good luck.

Have you been talking to your ob/gyn about trying to get pregnant? If your ob/gyn is saying just wait and see, you may want to switch doctors. Maybe even one who specializes in infertility. I went off the pill and wasn't getting my periods and my ob who, just happens to be an infertility ob, did an ultrasound of my ovaries and he said I have PCOS. But ended up getting pregnant with his help!

hey carol,

hope will consider acupuncture... it's natural, and helps balance and strengthen your body for carrying a baby! much better for you than all the hormones, etc.

i know several great ones in the bay area...let me know if you want their names and contact info.

best of luck to you!

G. maple

For me, after years of trying I began getting blood work done. I had them check for any of the nornal diseases and for early menopause, I passed that, then we found my Thyroid Stimulating Homone was way out of wack and I began taking artificial thyroid for 10 months and now I am finally pregnant!Keep you hopes up. I know how frustrating it is.

C.,

Get Married! Things tend to fall into place when there isn't that type of stress hanging above our heads. Even if you don't feel stressed about it, it could be subconcious and preventing you from getting pregnant. So get married, have a great worry-free honeymoon and keep track of your cycles. You will get pregnant in no time! I would also get checked out by your obgyn to rule out any other health issues.

Good luck!

Molly

It took me 1 year to get pregnant with my first (now 5) and 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with my second (5 months). Turns out my thyroid level was way out of wack, and I have hypothyroidism....I've heard of this being a problem for many women trying to get pg, and its worth looking into, just doing a simple blood test.
Good luck!

When you do have sex....don't get up afterwards, in fact put your legs up in the air and lean them against a wall or something. It worked for me and a friend of mine!

Good Luck

You said it has been a year off and on that you were trying to get pregnant. Thats not too long. You also said "fiance". I take it you are probably planning a wedding too. Maybe you havent gotten pregnant because you are stressed. I bet if you just relax and stop "trying", it will happen. Good Luck!

Hi C., despite what they tell you in sex ed in school there is a very short time span that you can realistically get pregnant each month - about 24 hours! So....if you don't have sex during this window your chances of getting pregnant are minimal. Have you considered using a fertility monitor to locate the exact times/dates to have sex? My husband and I used one and I got pregnant the FIRST time we tried - it was amazing!

http://www.clearblueeasy.com/clearblue-easy-fertility-mon...

Normally it takes a few months, but the monitor actually highlighted my ovulation time as earlier than I thought so it was a great thing that we used it or we would have been trying for months with no success. If this doesn't work I would have a fertility check with your doctors just to rule that out. Once you are over a certain age and have been trying for a while it's probably worth it.

I used the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". It worked.

I have had several friends that were able to get pregnant after seeing an acupuncturist. If you decide to do this you need an acupuncturist that specializes in fertility. I do not know where you live but there is a great acupuncturist in San Francisco by the name of Christine Friel. Her phone number is ###-###-#### and the name of her clinic is Double Happiness Health. Good luck!

I HIGHLY recommend this wonderful book called "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler which really helps you understand how to time things correctly and how to read the clues that your own body gives to you in order to determine the best time to conceive.

I have to agree with Melissa, get married first, baby later. Your commitment to each other is important because after a baby comes you are connected whether you love that person anymore or not. And a breakup with children is just as messy as a divorce with children. If you really love your baby, even before he/she is conceived, which I believe you do, then consider your commitment to the other 1/2 of their DNA. The fertility issues will work themselves out, but take one responsible step at a time.

Check your weights, check your blood sugar and hormone levels. All are very important in getting preggo.

Hi C.,
I was trying to get pregnant for a few years, before it happened. But one tip from a friend helped me. You can get pregnant a few days before your ovulation time (when you're ovulating it is kind of late). If your period is regular, than divide it in half, and that's roughly when you're ovulating. So let's say your menstruation cycle is 28 days, around the 14th day is your ovulation. So just after you period ends, start making love daily. In my case, it happened that I got pregnant right after my period ended and almost 14 days before my ovulation!!! So the week before the ovulation is probably the best time. The difficulty is that it is not possible to say exactly when the ovulation occurs, but you can still figure out the time before it, if your period is regular. If it is not regular, it is harder, but I think there are OTC tests for the ovulation. Remember, you need to make love before or at the very early part of ovulation. Of course, all this provided there are no other interferences or problems. One more thing: think about your future baby often, invite him or her with love into your family, tell him or her you're ready -- often the spiritual aspect of this process is ignored, but it is important! Good luck!

C....go get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.....if you are in your 20's......start charting getting pregnant for 6 months...if you cannont get pregnant...go to a FERTILITY DOCTOR!.....If you are in your 30's...start the charting, BUT RUN TO A FERTILITY DOCTOR NOW!!! I did fertility treatments for 2 1/2 years..I know....forget what our OBGYN says...they do not have the 24 hour experience each day a fertility specialist has....only if you are in your 20's would I seek your OBGYN's advice for the 6 months you are trying....Just an fyi..the drug Chlomid, I do believe, can only be taken for about 6 months and then that's it..in a lifetime...so if your OBGYN (if you are in your 20's) wants to experiment with this drug......way your options, because if you move onto your fertility specialist after that, you will not be able to use this drug with other proceedures the specialist has and will have to go straight to the injectible, very expensive med.

Good Luck! J.

C.,

First good luck. I have been through it once, was blessed with a beautiful boy, and now am going through it again.

My advice is talk to your dr. There is a lot they can check, even if you are not ready to consider infertility. They can give you an idea if it is even going to be possible with you and your fiance.

I also wanted to speak about advice that I saw on here. You can use clomid for more than six months. (I know I am on it again) I asked my dr about this yesterday and she said that they will not use clomid and IUI together for more than 6 months if you have not achieved pregnancy in that manner.

When you go in to the dr take a note pad that has all your questions on it, it makes it easier to remember what you want to ask, also write down everything they tell you. This is important to help your memory and make sure you are doing tests on the right days. Some of them have to be timed.

I hope this helps.

K.

I'd start with the ovulation predicter kit. It looks like a preganancy test. Find out from the test when you are ovulating and then you will know for certain when you are most fertile. This worked for me.

Do you know that you CAN get pregnant? Have you seen your Dr? I would start there. Have your husband tested also.

Hi C.,
I understand your frustration. I hate the baby making cycles, have your period then wait for ovulation then wait to test then wait for your period. It can suck you in.
Have you tracked your period? Not everyone is a 28 day cycle, so not everyone ovulates 2 weeks after the first day of their period. I track my cycles on mymonthlycycle.com. It's been really good at predicting my ovulation date. I also use the ovulation kits so I know, for a fact I am ovulating. A lot of people don't like them, and it did take me a year to get pregnant with my daughter (although I only used the sticks for the last 6 months) but I like to know. Not everyone can just have sex and get pregnant.
I also HIGHLY recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I read it after about 100 people on here recommended it and I really think it's a book every woman should read, regardless of their fertility.
Another thing I've read and done, which I think helped with my last pregnancy (although it did end in a miscarriage) was drinking green tea.
If you have any questions, feel free to message me. I'm not sure how much you know so I don't know how much information to give you.
Best of luck,
C.

VITAMIN E~!!!!!!
Just the standard 400 mg per day (yes, even if your multi has some already)
Get the natural kind, it is more bio-available.
I got mine at Trader Joes.
A friend told me and another gal to try it as it had worked so well for her. All three of us got pregnant within a couple months of taking it daily! (after over a year of trying)
Look it up ("Tocopherol") you will be surprised to learn how much it is associated with reproduction.
I do not know why Dr.s don't know this - or don't share this anyway. Perhaps it is just too simple.
Good-luck :o)

I went to acupuncture by a fertility specialist of Eastern medicine. I had tried for two years. I went to him and was pregnant between my first and second visits. I kept going for five months of my pregnancy and lost 35 pounds and felt so great and strong by the time I had my second little boy. I'm still strong and healthier now, almost a year later. Acupuncture get s everything working like it's supposed to.

As to you, Melissa J C, and Alise P - You are snots.

The book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" is a great reference, and teaches you how to learn more about your unique fertility cycle, which can be constantly changing due to factors in your life. It made me more aware of my body as a woman, and when my fertility was at its peak (it wasn't always the same time in my cycle, contrary to popular belief). This is a great first step, and can also let you know when the next step--medical advise--is warrented.

I used the Basal Body temperature method and I got pregnant the 1st time with both my girls. I agree with the other person that you should get married first before bringing a baby into the world.