Potty Training Troubles - Lake in the Hills,IL

All I know is it i very common. My MIL still complains about my husband not using the potty for her some 33 years later!!

If you know he can do it for long periods of time, then put him in regular underwear and see if that helps. Emphasize tha twhen he wets himself, he needs to stop playing to get cleaned up. Be dramatic. Maybe try lots of juice an dtaking him every 15 minutes. But itf he refuses to go, I dont' see anyway around diapers at home. On one hand you can't force him, although he is starting to get old enought to obey and at least ty the potty. It is a fine line... good luck!

I would try pull ups.....what does he use at the daycare.......to me it sounds like he is rebelling against you.........if he is fine at the daycare, he should be fine at home.........

With that said, try bribing him.......get him a small toy that when he goes potty for you for a day or whatever you decide, he gets the toy..........or food.....whatever he likes.........be sure to praise him VERY much when he does good.........what a big boy he is......how great he's doing etc.........

I'm sure he will get into the habit and he will be just fine.......just continue to work with him and tell him what a big boy is getting to be and how proud you are of him.

Hang in there......take care.

I just went through the same thing with my son who will be three this week. My son has been dry for several weeks now, however he wouldn't go #2 on the potty at Daycare. He would wait until they put a pull up on him at nap time and go then. They started giving him potty treats every time he would successfully go on the potty for them and it seemed to work. That and encouragement from all his friends at school. Then he started refusing to go #2 at home. He would go into his room and put a pull up on. After catching him a few times, I told him that he could have a treat if he went on the potty at home. He chose the treat, mini marshmellows, which I'm okay with, and that has seemed to work. It's a tough situation because they have to want to do it for you or for their 'treat.' I think if you find out what he would really like as a reward, then maybe you'll make some headway. Good Luck.

It's become a power struggle. You're trying to control his body and he's not having it. Time to make potty training fun, rewarding, and his idea. Since he's basically trained but just hasn't agreed to do it for you as well, try Terry Crane's Potty Training in one day. We were in as similar situation with our daughter. Did the potty party and kept up the rewards until she lost interest in them (about 2-3 weeks) and just used the potty for its own reward. We've never had a problem since. It's a lot of work preparing for it and consumes basically a weekend (one day for the party, and another to solidify it) but it was worth the effort, especially since it was so short-term. Good luck

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It's become a power struggle. You're trying to control his body and he's not having it. Time to make potty training fun, rewarding, and his idea. Since he's basically trained but just hasn't agreed to do it for you as well, try Terry Crane's Potty Training in one day. We were in as similar situation with our daughter. Did the potty party and kept up the rewards until she lost interest in them (about 2-3 weeks) and just used the potty for its own reward. We've never had a problem since. It's a lot of work preparing for it and consumes basically a weekend (one day for the party, and another to solidify it) but it was worth the effort, especially since it was so short-term. Good luck

I am a home daycare provider and have had many families here who have had the same problem. Some of the things that have worked for them are to NOT bring him to the bathroom as often. It might be too overwhelming/frustrating/annoying/controlling to him. Maybe he needs to be in more control over the situation. Try putting him in the bathroom when you get home in the evening after daycare or first thing in the morning and tell him you are going to go do ... (whatever you typically do like make dinner, clean up, change your clothes) and to come and get you after he goes potty. Then leave the room. That takes all the pressure and control issues away. Also, maybe set a timer for every hour and let him know that when it goes off it means he should go potty. The timer becomes the signal as opposed to you so it becomes less of a struggle. If he chooses to go to the bathroom on his own before the timer goes off or even if he goes when hearing the timer he can be rewarded by being able to reset the timer himself. A lot of kids think this is fun. Another thing you can do is make him clean up the mess when he chooses not to use the bathroom. He should take him own clothes off, wash himself, and redress. Good luck!

because you are mommy and there is only him at home, not a bunch of his friends.
You need to lay down the law and let him know it's not allowed anymore. Tell him that you thought about it and you know he can go in the potty and you are leaving it up to him from now on. You will do dry pants checks and reward him for being dry (every hour is enough) and you will not be happy if he gets wet. Stop being nice - you know he can now make him.

And two tricks - put a piece of toilet paper in his undies so he can feel himself getting wet the second it happens. And secondly if that doesn't work, try him in no undies but just shorts - for some boys the tightness of undies is too close to the tightness of a diaper so they don't get it till their junk is allowed to hang loose. (LOL)

Why are you taking him every 20 minutes. That seem a bit much. Remind him that he is a big boy and big boys don't wet themselves. He should be able to tell you when he needs to go to the potty. You can ask every now and then just as a reminder. It seems like you are putting toooooooo much emphasis on taking him instead of allowing him to let you know when he needs to go. Find out what the sitter does and follow her lead. What she does seems to work. I bet you will find that she is not putting him on the potty every 20 minutes. You even saw on the trip that he doesn't have to go that often. RELAX and things will get better.

You probably just need to continue being patient. My daughter is going to be 3 in November. She stays dry all day at school but as soon as she comes home (and on the weekends) we have to put a pull up on because she has no interest in doing it here. Sometimes she does and sometimes she doesn't. Often when we are out she likes to go too but not often at home.
Strange how it works - she does the same with food - she will eat salad and brocolli at school but serve it at home and she won't touch it.
Eventually, they will do it. We just need to keep on them. At school they have designated potty times (every 2 hours). Perhaps try a schedule like that rather than every 20 minutes. If he has an accident don't make a big deal.
I bought training underwear too. I've read if you use the plastic pants over the top it can move things along faster but my daughter really really didn't like them at all so I decided not to continue. She wears underwear only at school.
Probably because there's more consistancy with the schedule during the week, they do better.
Keep up the good work though - you're almost in the clear!!!