Potty Training - REFUSES to GO!!!!!!

I have three children myself and I say that she is not ready to go yet. She is still young and the more she feels pressured, the less likely she will want to go.

Don't push her - the more you push, the more she'll resist. This is probably the ONLY thing she feels she can control. My daughter was 3 & 1/2 when she finally decided to use the potty; she was capable at 2 & 1/2, but since we all talked about it with her CONSTANTLY and pushed her to do it, she refused. That's bad news medically, so please don't push her!!

I agree with the others, let up the pressure on her and she'll choose when she's ready. My daugher (will be 3 this month) just trained last month. I was also very frustrated and tried everything. Finally something just clicked and she's doing great. We tried stickers, potty dances, and all sorts of stuff. None of them really did it. When she would go I'd make a big deal of it and we'd call Nana. She liked that. I think it helps to make comments that they can overhear more than saying it directly to her. Like when she does go on the potty tell her parents in front of her as if you don't want her to hear and say what a great job she did and how proud you were, etc. But ultimately she'll train when she's good and ready. I've heard for some it's after 3. Good luck and don't loose faith! :-)

My son is now nearly 21 - but this was such a major issue for us -- the memory never leaves! There is so little in their world they really control - but potty training is one they do. They know it is a huge source of pride and embarrassment to you - Mom. My advice is to LET IT GO -- I mean that. No mention of going on the seat, to the potty, nothing - this will take extreme patience on your part - but let her lead...and she will! I too began a daycare while home with my two young children -- although we all played, had fun, and spent a LOT of time together, you are still not just hers anymore, and she knows this.

Again, it is a control thing here - not meant to be mean or negative, but it is what it is. She will go - she will want to go - but the more you can take it 'off the table' so to speak the faster she WILL come aound!

My son, just as a quick fyi....would 'pee at the potty' - he refused -- I mean REFUSED to have a bowel movement there. He would come, ask for his diaper to be put on (he was living in big boy pants) - go in the corner, do his 'duty', and come and ask to have his diaper changed.

We tried leaving him sitting in his soiled diaper, changing right away, putting him on the potty when he asked to see if this would work - you name it, we tried it. This went on for nearly 3 months -- every day -- twice a day! Who knew what the heck was going on in his head, but one day I went in to the bathroom and he was 'pooping' on the potty, and that was that. No fan fare, no announcement, he just did it - he was just over 2 years and 9 months....

At the time is seemed like FOREVER - but when I would look back, it was not as bad as it seemed. I was more concerned on the age and 'what was supposed to be going on'. These little ones have their own timetable and at times, we need to let them.

Not sure this helps....but know...you are NOT alone!

Play Tea party with real water and then 15 minutes later or so her bladder will be ready to burst! Once you have sucess make a BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. We have had to get creative at my house...my daughter once went on the potty when her older brothers told her they would do a potty dance for her after she went (they dressed up in tutus and everything (it was hilarious). So we get everbody involved and it is still a work in process but we have to get creative with rewards...maybe a breakfast shake or smoothy will help get things going in the am

have you tried plying her with drinks? want some juice? want some milk? want some water? i've heard that will help with pee-training, since they'll have to go more often.