Potty Training Nightmare!!! - Magnolia,AR

My daughter will be 3 on the 26th and we took away diapers in Sept which made her 2 1/2 yrs. Pull-ups did not work. They felt like a diaper to her. We had to just put her in panties. I'm a stay at home mom so I even tried to whole naked thing. And I also started out with a training potty in the living room. She did learn to potty in it when she was naked but when we put panties on her she would wet them about half the time. I didn't like her going around bottomless but I was due with #2 in Nov. and was willing to try anything! But she's now completely daytime potty trained. Sometimes it takes some children a while.- A.

oh no she's not potty trained by now. Just Kidding!! I have two girls two and three. I'm working on both of them now and neither has is completly potty trained. Don't feel bad just be consistent with her and patience. She will potty trained in time. Hope this helps,
Leti

Oh you are sooo cute! don't worry about the potty training thing yet, shes only 2. My daughter is also 2 and we haven't even bothered trying to potty train. She will let you know when she is ready to be out of diapers. However, if you let her see you going potty on the toilet she will start getting the idea that this is what big girls do. Also, I know this can be little uncomfortable but letting your child help a little while your going to the bathroom (ie. getting the tp, flushing the toilet, washing her hands, etc.) she can start feeling like a big girl and will want to do these things more often. My daughter has just started letting me know when she has "teetee" or "yucky" in her diaper so I know shes getting the idea that if she tells me, I will do something about it. Good luck and just take your time.

ok this one i know all about.my twelve year old daughter was a breeze..seven years later i have anoyher daughter so it was really like being a new mom again for me.so that was the plan two kids thats it my husband was having a visetomy in july then in june i found out i was pregnant!!!so i decided that before my third came home i was gonna potty train my two year old yea righy!!she is now almost five and she still has accidents i pushed her and she was not ready. so when it came to my third i said i'm not pushing her at all so when she turned two i still bought diapers and when she was ready she said so and i think she has had one accident i can think of.and she has been potty trained for almost a year now.so the advice i give is don't push it seriously they can't go to school in diapers ..they really do let you know when their ready..good luck i hope my random thoughts might help,K.

My son was 3 before i got him potty trained,it will come you have to beleive that.I had to take him in every 30 mins or an hour,then if he did something just a little we had a party,we sung songs,danced anything you can think of to make fun.Then we went to candy ever time he did go I gave him 1 peice of candy then he was to BIG (he said) to get anything now just hang in there the time will come

Don't worry C.. My son is about to turn three and I JUST got him to actually go to the bathroom everytime. Don't worry about their age. They will usually start when they are ready. You will know, it just takes A LOT of patience..trust me. You might want to try to get her introduced to the potty by getting her favorite doll to "potty" or an elmo potty dvd doesn't hurt either. I reward my son with something he LOVES (shh...chocolate) everytime he would go..and after about a month or so, he just started going and he's out of his pull ups. There will be tough times I will tell you, but you will get through it DO not WORRY! GOOD luck!!!

Hi C., I thought I would comment on this because I was the mom that had all these time tables set up for my son. Like he will be potty trained by the time he is 2 and so on!! Well, HAHA to me because children have a way of changing every single plan you have for them. I tried everything to get my son to potty. Candy, Money(he is fascinated with quarters thanks to my dad)Star Charts, Surprises, ETC...Nothing worked. Until one day he came home from daycare and said he was a big boy and didn't want to wear diapers anymore. Now there have been accidents and he has to sleep in pullups at night but, for the most part he is doing awesome. He is almot 3 1/2 by the way and has been potty trained for about 6 months. So, my point is that I think most children just have to decide on their own that they want to potty on the toilet like a big boy/girl!! Good Luck!!

Have you tried making "Potty Time" a game?

Try making it fun and instead of saying, "Go potty." Tell her its her turn to go potty. Kids love taking turns. Its funny, but it really can make a diffence in the way you say things.

My daughter did not get fully potty trained until she was at least 3. My husband and I traveled a lot and my daughter preferred a diaper. When she was ready she decided that she had enough of diapers.

She is now 28 and a beautiful, strong and self sufficient woman. All kids are different don't let anyone make you feel like your child is inadequate because they didn't potty train early.

The most important thing is to make it fun. I took my daughter at 18 months and we spent hours looking at and picking out panties. She helped me pick out her potty chair. We had about a month of accidents and then she was potty trained. She didn't get in trouble...I didn't make her sit on the potty every 20 or 30 minutes... I would ask her if she needed to potty and if she said no, I wouldn't interrupt her play. I think that makes kids resent the potty. My neice is 2 months older than my daughter and still isnt trained. No big deal they are only 2 1/2. I think sis pushes to hard though.

My daughter loves her independence and she loves to see mommy act silly and sing and dance and clap everytime she went potty!!!

I have no pointers...but my daughter too turned 2 in October and still is nowhere near potty trained. She'll sit on the potty, but will not go to the potty.

let her do it when she's ready, otherwise you will be training yourself (to take her every hour). my daughter sat on it a few times for about 2 wks straight when she was 22 months old, then lost interest, than at 27 months, with a new 4 wk old baby brother, she woke up every morning, took her wet diaper off, and put on panties, (or her big brothers boxers) and fully trained herself. all i did was say yeah after the fact. i believe she will do it on her own if you just show her a few times and bring the potty down. also, she watched Elmo's Potty Time a few days before she trained herself. maybe just a coincidence, don't know. good luck.

I don't have any pointers for you I just wanted to say you are not alone!!! My son has been 2 since APRIL!!! I can get him to sit on the potty but he wont do anything. I ask him all day do you have to go and he always says no like it is the worst thing ever... I switched to some underware that have a vinal lining and even the discomfort doesn't seem to bother him. I just started with those yesterday so I guess we will see. People keep saying he will go when he is ready and I believe that I am just going to keep trying and not put too much pressure on him but not let him forget what his goal is. Let me know if anything you try works...

L.

I know what you mean; mine turned two back in July and she hasn't the slightest bit of interest in it. She knows all the motions but i'll sit her on it for the longest, then she gets up and goes as soon as I put her pull up on. I guess we shouldn't flip out because it's not like they'll graduate high school in diapers, ha. they'll eventually get it. It will all depend on what she responds to. I wasted money on videos, books, etc. because she doesn't give a flip about them, but yours may.

ha,ha,ha,ha!!! That is truly FUNNY!!! I also have a 2yr old daughter (b-day in October, also) that until about 1 week ago started potty training!!! I was sooo worried that she was behind also!!! BUT, one day out of the blue, she told me that she need to tee/poopoo!!!! Of course we were running late, so I didn't WANT to take her!!! BUT, deep in my heart, I thought, maybe she is FEELING it now!!! SOOOO, guess what, she did it!!! Ever since then, she has been doing good with the potty thing!!!! It WILL come on her own time!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

OH, and the sticker and chart thing really works for my daughter!!!

C.
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She sounds like a normal 2 year old. I wouldn't worry. Don't make a big deal out of it with her, or it can become a test of wills. Be sure to have a potty seat that fits her, either a potty chair or one that fits on the regular toilet. If she will sit on it and read a story, that's progress. Rewards can work...offering an M&M or sticker if she actually does something in the potty. Ask her after you use the bathroom if she wants a turn...if she says no, just tell her ok. If she says yes, then praise her very excitedly. Give it time...she'll get it.

Hi I am a 24 year old mom with 3 kids. My son was awesome with potty training (he is my oldest). My daughter on the other hand is going to be 4 at the end of sept. and she is yet to be potty trained. I know its crazy, I have tried so many things!! She is finally wearing panties during the day while we are at home, she will TT in the potty but #2 oh please. I just tried doing something that seems to have her looking forward to being able to potty. I went to the dollar store, bought some prizes nothing big to go into 2 different boxes. One for TT and the other one #2. Everytime or every other time she TT's she gets to put her hand in the box, but dont let her know whats in there because that would ruin the suprise. Then when she poops do the same in the other box. After about a couple of days make it less frequently. Hopefully if you try this it will help!! But dont worry she will do it in her own time!!

Hi C.! I'm S.. My 3 y/o didn't get potty trained until a few months after her 3rd birthday. Don't push it. If you keep after her, it will be come a power struggle. That's what it took for my daughter. We went home for Thanksgiving, it was a 12 hour car ride and she held it the whole time. She was wearing a pull up, but for some reason she wouldn't go. So when we got to my in-laws I asked her if she needed to go, she said yes, I took her and ever since then, she's been potty trained! She's had a few accidents, but that's too be expected. It just boiled down to me letting her decide when she was ready. Kids do things at their own pace. Feel free to email me at ____@____.com

C., Our children didn't get potty trained until age 3. They just weren't ready. Around age 2 and a half they did start to understand the use of a toilet and with frequent hourly visits to the potty, they finally became trained. We also let them put a sticker on a sheet of paper with their name on it and that helped after each use of the potty. When my little girl turned 3 I took her shopping and let her pick out her own panties. She picked out a Winnie the Pooh design. She loved Pooh. I showed her Pooh's picture on the panties and told her that she mustn't peepee or poopoo on Pooh. She put the panties on and never again wet or messed in her pants. Potty training has to be fun for the kids. That's what worked for me.

She is not behind at all. Some children are not fully potty trained until 3yrs old and unfortunately sometimes even later. Try taking her to the bathroom with you and when you potty, have her sit on hers also. Make it fun!!! For example, I hate to be graphic, but when you do the #1 make a big deal; clap, get excited, etc. Then she will associated pottying as something fun. I am a professional parent trainer and this technique works well. Good Luck and God Bless :)

my daughter didnt fully potty train till 3 1/2 yrs old, she will do it when she is ready, the only thing that worked for me was saying, "o.k. your a big girl today, lets go get you some big girl panties" and we made the trip to walmart just for that, she picked them out and has been going ever since, i wouldn't recommend pull-ups unless you want a girl who would rather change her own diaper than sit on the potty.

I have a few suggestions. What does your child like to do? My daughter loves to read, so I put books in the bathroom with her and she would sit on the potty and look at her favorite books. I would have her go every time I went. It wasn't long before she was trained. I have also heard from other mothers that their child loved the television and they used that to help train their child. They even put the potty in the room with the television. Hope this help. Don't give up!!! Don't beat yourself up!!! We can not all learn at the same pase!!! J. B.

My advice. Stop trying.
My daughter had no interest, was strong-willed and just plain-old NOT ready at that age. She was 4 months shy of 4 years old when she finally did train.

Signs of readiness would be:
and interest in your toileting
sitting on her own or the big potty
wanting to wear big-girl underwear
coming to you because she's uncomfortable in a wet or dirty diaper
making it through nap-time dry
going for more than 2 hours with a dry diaper during the day

if she's not doing most of those things...I'd just stop fighting her...all you will by forcing it is cause a power struggle that YOU will lose. been there, done that.